What is something that seems to make everybody else feel better but doesn't do a thing for you?
If you cry and just let it all out you’ll feel much better.
I feel even shittier after I cry. That’s why I don’t do it anymore.
I feel so relaxed and calm after a good massage.
As you may have guessed, a massage, while not a horrible thing, has never had the calming effect on me that it seems to have on others.
The day that I fell down on my knees and asked Jesus to come into my heart was the day I felt all of my problems disappear.
I have twice in my life legitimately asked Jesus to take up residence in my heart and both times nothing happened. Plus I had been crying so I really felt like shit.
What about you Fluther? What seems to make everyone around you feel good but doesn’t do a thing for you?
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A long hot bath. I always feel grimy and cold after a bath. So I take a bath then take a shower to feel clean. Then I feel crappy about wasting water and an hour of my time.
rollercoasters
they terrify me!!
Alcohol, never actually been drunk, but other than the odd glass of white wine (once in a blue moon) I don’t like the taste of the stuff.
Massages. <screams and runs up a 10 foor greased pole> I just really don’t like being touched. Oddly enough I do like hugging, I’m the huggy monster of the world, but not being massaged. Major eeeeeeewwwwwwwww <shudder>
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I am with you on massages- they freak me out.
Also getting hair done or pedicure/manicure freaks me out and does not have the “calming” effect others claim it has.
But worst of all is shopping. People who feel better after shopping I do not get- it leaves me totally stressed out.
On the other hand weird stuff does calm me. Like painting.
Two and a Half Men
just can’t get into it
@Dog Eeeew just the idea of a stranger touching my feet gives me the heebies
@jonsblond Two and a Half Men
I couldn’t agree with you more, I have no idea what the appeal to that show is.
alcohol, more than a glass makes me feel like crap…
Why was this asked for me??? A new feature of this place I didn’t know existed. Well anyway I guess going out doesn’t work as well. I like to stay in when I’m down.
I’m with you, I dont like massage, never really got it to be honest. even tried sensual massage but made me feel wierd and uncomfortable.
Crying actually does make me feel better – sometimes.
As for the religion thing…..........I’ll pass.
I also dont get the cigarette thing. You see some folks puffing on a ciggie after they havent had one for a wee while like on a plane or at work or something and you’d think they were having an orgasm! What’s that all about? (can you tell I’m a non-smoker)
I stopped drinking in 2003 but remember how it made me feel better for a while – till the hangover set in….lol
Damn, I sound like a moaning auld grandpa! maybe cos I am! lol
I tend to shy away from real life personal contact, the worse I feel the more I isolate myself. Attempts to console or cheer me up irritate me.
@Dog Even the thought of being touched is disturbing to me, but I know that I’m autistic.
@scotsbloke—Like many addictions smoking isn’t so much trying to feel good but avoiding the bad effects of withdrawal. At least thats the perspective of this chain-smoker,—
A pint of Ben & Jerry’s. I like ice cream and I’ve tried drowning myself in it, but when it’s all gone I not only still feel bad but I also feel fat which makes it worse.
Driving fast, rollercoasters, drugs, alcohol.
I had a friend who insisted that the best way to get rid of a cough was to play football. I did, and got pnemonia.
A massage will only make me feel better if I am physically hurting. Like my shoulders often hurt and so then a massage in that area will help me feel better. But if I am going through an emotional problem instead (which would be the case for most people I’d imagine), a massage would do nothing. And if someone offered to give me a massage when I was in such a state, I would just look at them funny as in “How is that supposed to help??!?”.
Also, alcohol and drugs would make the list for me. Sure they can make you forget your woes or whatever, but the kind of experience I have had with alcohol has left me damaged in a way that using it as an outlet could never make me feel better.
Soup, specifically chicken noodle or tomato. I find them both disgusting, but I do love potato soup and taco soup.
Hugs. I don’t want a stranger to hug me, I barely want friends and family to do it either. Just let me have my personal space until I let you in.
MySpace and Facebook ‘friends’ and texting.
Comfort food makes me feel worse.
Talking it out will make you feel better. Um, no, it has always backfired and the person I trusted to tell my pain to has eventually spilled my secrets to someone else.
I agree about the massages. No touching unless I invite you to grope me.
@chyna I agree that talking it out makes it worse, especially if they give unsolicited advice!
Most people seem to enjoy texting and chat-rooms for merely social purposes. I can’t get into that unless I have something definite to say,
Sleep for the most part. If I’ve had a normal day (no over-tiring work) then I have a hard time getting to sleep, but once I do, I wake up feeling horrible.
@Sampson I am ok with sleep at night, especially after a hard day doing exciting world-changing stuff, but I cant for the life of me, no matter what, sleep during the day! no way, no how! Even if I’m really sick!
I had Swine flu 2 months ago and it hit me kinda hard, I was drifting off to sleep with the Tamiflu and coff mixture and other tabs I was taking but just as I thought I was getting to sleep….BaDOING!!! Wide awake! I just cant sleep during the day and it piddles me off when people can! lol
Praying. I don’t believe in God, so praying isn’t an option for me.
Chicken Soup. Omg, I despise the stuff. It’s so gross.
Talking to family. My family never was the huggy, caring type. Talking to my family usually makes me feel worse.
Pepto Bismol. It just makes me more nauseated. Blech!
Sex. I don’t get that relief that some people refer to. even with orgasm
crying on shoulders… crying on my own is much better
@casheroo I understand exactly what you mean, I think that it’s greatly overrated too.
Eating chocolate- meh
Smoking pot- quick way to turn me short tempered, hungry and then useless
I love ice cream and it does relax me ; BUT being a Diabetic it doesn’t like me too much….
However; when I give a massage, it makes me as relaxed and calm down as it does the person receiving the massage…. with the inscense and candles burning… soft music in the background… and smell of the scented oils , lotions, etc….
Watching and liking Sex in the City and Friends. I hated both. Sacrilege, I know.
Napping. I have a hard time napping and when I do (only when I’m exhausted), I end up feeling like shit when I get up and it fucks up my sleep for the night.
An Oxygen Bar. I never understood it.
Most contemporary standup comedy.
Dancing…as in clubs, raves, etc. Just never got into it and does nothing for me. I sometimes think I might actually like to learn ballroom dancing though.
Parties. I just can’t understand why people enjoy standing around laughing at nothing, and slowly getting sloshed. I also don’t like chocolate.
@YARNLADY ~ I too, don’t see what other people do in chocolate. Actually, the only candy I can’t pass up are Reese’s peanut butter cups.
I am with @YARNLADY about parties. I hate parties because I don’t know anyone usually and feel uncomfortable. Raves also, I went to one with my ex boyfriend and it sucked. Praying is also one i read that does nothing for me. People will think I am crazy for this, but space (alone time) does nothing for me but piss me off and make me wish I had someone around me at that moment to talk to.
Massages, crying, and accepting Jesus Christ into your heart.
I like the juxtaposition of the last two answers. Sums up Fluther in a nutshell!
Chocolate
Weed/Marijuana
Babies
Casual sex
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