Should people in a relationship always feel connected?

That’s totally normal. We are all individuals and we can’t always be in tune with everybody. It’s not like you’re connected at the hip you know? Each person has his or her likes and dislikes and they don’t always have to match. That’s what makes the other person more interesting.

I have felt distant ” at times” since October 1 but always connected nevertheless. Been through some really rough confusing, emotionally & physically draining times since that day. Actually there is no way to disconnect…......real Love stays connected…......not sure how that happens but it does.

Not when you’re using the potty.

That is the only way the relationship is going to work and a good way to sort of feel each others pain and joy.

It is normal to feel distant and disconnected at times, but it should always be taken as an indicator that you need to take steps to strengthen your relationship. If you start feeling this way then you may start to drift apart, and the further apart you grow the harder it will be to rescue your relationship. Problems should bring you together, as you try to work through them as a team.

@FireMadeFlesh best advice for this question. imo

@Corey_D Take Tiger Woods for example. He and his wife are going through a bad patch right now and they probably don’t feel very connected. And maybe they never will again. But the lesson here is, yes, that’s normal. Relationships are temporary and fleeting and sometimes they disintegrate and maybe yours will too some day. Who knows? What do we know about anything?

No, I think that’s pretty close to impossible. In any relationship, the degree of closeness varies—you come together and drift apart and come together again over and over. Ideally, each party has a certain level of tolerance for this, and can “correct” without freaking out when they notice it.

To navigate a relationship solely on feelings is too restricted: lots of feelings come and go, that’s natural. You have to be steering from some more distant landmark, seeing the overall arc of your future together, the foundation of your past together, the myriad connections that make up your unique shared world. Within all that, feelings flow in and out like the tide. The moon always comes around again if everything is sound.

@colliedog I don’t think Tiger Woods is a good example for the “average” couple. just sayin. ;)

Yes definitely. It’s a very good thing to have, and I think it is rather vital for a good relationship.

Not all the time. Distance is giving each other time to grow.

The times I feel disconnected is when I’m feeling like the relationship is not positive any longer or the other person is inconsistent or not on the same page as me otherwise and even in troubled spots, I feel connected. I really like what @FireMadeFlesh has written.