How would you feel about taking the virginity of someone you're dating casually?

Intimidated. Over committed. Scared. Wondering why they waited so long and why they chose me and what it means to them. But I think it could be resolved through discussion.

I’m fine with that.

I think I would be okay with it.

Also, I would be more than happy to do the research on this question.

Honored.
I’d feel honored.

I would caution you to make sure this is the girl for you. If not, don’t do it casually. This should be a long term relationship and not a fling. She is probably hoping you will want to make this more than casual and will hate herself and you if it doesn’t work out.

screwed

I’m a girl, so my answer might be different than a guy’s. Or not.

I’d be curious why this person is still a virgin. Religious reasons? Lack of opportunity or desire? Waiting for the one? I’d also be curious why this person has chosen me, and how they expect doing the deed to impact our relationship.

If their answers were things I’m comfortable with, I’d probably be honored. If not, I might be creeped out and turned off.

I’d feel all right about it – I’m confident in my abilities to make a person comfortable with me sexually – I have slept with some people who were virgins

guilty

I would fulfill their request. Adult virgins aren’t exempt from failed relationships.

On the one hand, flattered. On the other hand, suspicious of her intentions. The “other hand” would likely rule any foolish decision of the moment.

Deal Dreaker I don’t “do” virgins, always asked on first date and if this comes up then they lied to me.. I want a woman with experience

Great!

Cha-ching.

I think I get the picture wrt female virgins. The virgin in question is male.

Been there done that. I wish I did not.

@coffeenut You ask women on the 1st date if they’re virgins or not? And you get second dates?

I wouldn’t mind. Just keep in mind that they will probably want to be closer with you afterwards. You should establish that it will be just sex and if he/she is fine with it, go for it. You don’t want any strings attached, unless you want to hype of your relationship with his/her.

Isn’t that the point of dating? to find out this about each other, this is important to the relationship ,and it’s just for the future (if there is one), if they say yes they are a virgin, no second date

To me, someone’s virginity or lack thereof is as important as the color of their eyes.
To each their own, I guess.

Mostlyclueless,

Thank you for your question.

I would be honoured that they chose me.

Regards

I mean, I’ve sort of been there and done that. I think I was more into her than she was into me, actually, so I wasn’t really worried about it! I wanted to have sex with her, she wanted to have sex with me… that’s about as far as I thought about it. I’ve never thought of losing your virginity as being a really big deal so long as you like and trust the other person and it’s a good experience. Anyway, we broke up some time down the road from that, but I hope she doesn’t regret it.

Unless you’re raping your date, you’re not “taking” their virginity. They’re giving it up. That’s their choice. If you’re both ready to have sex, go for it.

@ChazMaz care to elaborate on why you regret it?

I think you are taking away one of the most special events for a person, sex, especially the first time, should be reserved for love between two people.

I’m a girl and I’ve done this. I agree with what people are saying about having a good talk about this person’s reasons for still being a virgin and for choosing you. In my case, I felt like he had pretty good reasons- he was never very confident and had always had a hard time meeting people, but over the last few months he had tried to get over his painful shyness. We met when I he was passing out flyers for his band and I went to the show, and he seemed to be a funny, confident guy with interesting opinions. So it all really depends on the situation. If you both want to do this and feel comfortable about it, why not go for it?

If it were offered, I wouldn’t be “taking” it.

As others have said, I’d want to talk with the person about their expectations for the relationship. If they weren’t on the same page regarding the direction that the relationship should take, then I probably wouldn’t agree to their request.

I don’t understand why it would matter if it were a guy or a girl that is the virgin? Is there some stigma I am missing? If a guy is a virgin late in life there is something wrong with him? It is more acceptable for a girl to be a virgin? I don’t get it?

I would be completely honored now, much more so than when I was younger. I didn’t completely understand just what it really means to hold on to a part of yourself and “give” it to someone that you find worthy of it. I would hope the person that is offering themselves this way would love me the same way I loved them and it wouldn’t be a question of “should I or shouldn’t I”

On the other hand if it was someone offering themselves to me and there was not love involved I would saya no and explain why. I couldn’t just accept a part of someone that they could never get back unless I loved them and they loved me.

As with most relationship things, I think a good talk would help clarify the issue for you and help you decide. If the guy is just ready or hasn’t had the opportunity yet and you want to do it, why not?

I’d do it.

What if the relationship turned into something serious? You may have ruined it by just refusing to have sex with them.

Lucky. I would feel lucky.

I would ASK them if they were sure, and talk to them about it, and most of all be happy to be that understanding experienced person that would make their first time something to be remembered and cherished.

(I’ve de-virginated guys before. Just be understanding, have a sense of humor, and instruct them. That’s all that really matters.)

Depends on how much you care for this person… They have saved themselves presumably for a long period of time… and if you are only “casually” dating them.. I dunno.. sounds sketchy

I could talk about sex and virginity with a stranger.

lol! omg, I thought taking said talking.. I have got to stop going on fluther without my glasses!
anyway.. I don’t think I’d like to take some one’s virginity, but if I loved the person, I’m sure it would be ok