What are some red flags that a woman(or man, but mostly women) are using you for something, not just money.

Men use women just as much as women use men. People who are users don’t care what gender their victim is- they just want what they want and they want it now.

They show no interest in what you think.
They show no respect for what you feel.
They try to control what you think/feel.
They do not follow through on what they promise, repeatedly.
If you disagree with them, they get furious with you.
If you say that you feel they were in the wrong- they will blame you for their own actions.

I don’t think it’s fair to say mostly women use someone for something.

Good Q… I am blind to those red flags (like a color blind bull) If the girl makes me happy… she can take advantage of me.

Oops, I’m sorry. I meant what are signs from women, since I date women, I didn’t mean that it’s mostly women that use :)

@Tomfafa Me too man….me too.. :(

@Blackberry Gotcha :)

And when enough of my friends take me aside and wake me up… I finally realize.

@Tomfafa The same thing happened to me, but I don’t want to repeat the past, because that was an ugly time in my life lol.

Yes but I KNOW it will happen again to me!

@Tomfafa Yeah I know what you mean. I think if you just explain to the next person how you are and that you don’t want to deal with that stuff again, it will make the other person understand. Communication is good.

Well Blackberry… if you meet some of the girls I dated.. (whistling) you would understand that it is entirely my faulty brain wiring. I dated a known actress that left me scratching my head in disbelief. Maybe she was so focused, that she lived in a very small world.

@Tomfafa Wow really? Well I don’t know what else to tell you lol. I’m sure you won’t be that way forever, and someone that is for you will come along.

Thank you my brother Blackberry, for the vote of confidence.

If she isolates you from her usually social circle or family, it’s a good sign she doesn’t really want a relationship – just good times. If she makes it celar that she has them and she has you and ne’er the twain shall meet, it’s going nowhere.