Sigh. Why would he display this behavior?

Sounds like he doesn’t want to let go despite what he says. If you allow him to reconnect with you in any way, it won’t stop.
My own experience ended with filing stalking charges to get him to understand that what he was doing wasn’t cool, but it had statrted exactly as you are describing. Be careful.

Sounds to me as if he likes you… a LOT!

Why did you want him to go in the first place? And what/how did you tell him?

Sounds like he is simply unable and/or unwilling to let go. If you truly want to end the relationship, you will just have to be consistent in letting him know your wishes and make sure that you’re not giving him any opportunity to misinterpret anything you say or do as the possibility that you are willing to consider continuing contact with him.

If my phone is dead and I haven’t talked to a person I supposedly really like- I’ll find a phone. Three weeks is a long time to not be able to ask someone to borrow their phone for a second.

@daloon He made it apparent that anything he expects of me is just that. I shouldn’t expect equal treatment just because we’re friends, or some such nonsense. I dropped all of his things at his house and said, “Have a good life.” I though it was pretty clear.

Don’t respond to any communication he puts out to you ever again. What are you, a yo-yo? A Slinky™? Ugh. I’ve had this pulled on me, too, when I was younger. He doesn’t deserve a response of any kind. He’s had his chances.

In almost all my relationships I went through a period of uncertainty and needed to step back for a spell and doing so I think is healthy to do so. With your guy here though the dead phone story seems total BS and I’m sure you don’t need a BS’r in your life.

As to why he would do that:

1) he could have some mental illness that is giving him the delusion that you love him. This could also explain why he thinks you should do what he says, but he gets to do whatever he wants.

2) If he isn’t mentally ill, then he could be obsessed with you, lovesick, and just doing that stuff, hoping it will work. Or he could be some kind of male chauvinist who thinks you just need a strong hand to get you into shape.

In either case, he’s not your responsibility, and….. hmmm. Do you still like him? Why would you even consider the issue of believing him unless you were thinking of starting with him again?

Well, if you do want to start with him again, and he is mentally ill, then you shouldn’t believe him, but you should understand what’s going on, and try to get him help.

If he’s not mentally ill, I don’t understand why you would want to start with him again.

He just wants to keep you hanging on to him. He could be thinking that you are his one and only and he cant do without you. It sounds like he is in love…

I missed what happened between you two but if I found myself acting like that it is cos I want to just forget whatever twas that happened and move on. He prolly doesn’t even wanna talk about it.

.He is a liar and wants to keep you hanging around for whatever reason.Learn to trust your instincts more!!:)

Forget about trying to be a clairvoyant and trying to read his mind. Do what is best for you, which is to dump this guy. The reasons for his behavior are irrelevant. Your behavior is what makes you strong, mature, and comfortable in your own skin.

He’s horny.

What kind of friend is this? He won’t respect your wishes – not friend behavior. You want him to go away – not friend behavior. This is not a friend and you do not need to treat him with kid gloves.

I think he still want to stay connected with you.