Does your past ever come back and knock the wind out of you?
I am a happy person. I just finished up a second degree, and am finally healthy after a personal battle with health issues this year. I am with a great guy, after breaking up with my ex of six years about a year ago. Today, someone I haven’t seen in a long time brought up my past year to see how I was doing. Not that he did it on purpose, but he wanted to see if I was doing better after a tough year. I thought I was at a point where these things didn’t bother me anymore, but after he left it seriously got me down. Even though I am prolly the happiest I’ve been in years, mentioning some of these painful things from my past really hurt. I am wondering how long those scars take to heal….does anyone else feel a twinge of pain when something is mentioned from their past? If so, did it ever go away, or did it always hurt a bit?
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It happens to me. I hate when it happens at 3 in the morning.
Just ONCE… I took care of it and I’ve not been bothered by my “past” since .
Sometimes,but it’s never been anything I can’t handle….yet! :)
I had a cute answer for you, about being more mature,jaded and self-confident. But yes there are some things that always find a chink in your armor. I hope for you, this feeling passes soon. Sounds like you’ve carried it long enough.
I had a tough past as well, hit me in the face recently, but I just tell myself that I am in a much better position now. I tell myself that I went from there to where I am right now and pat myself on the back for it.
I agree with Morgan1. No matter how much you feel like you’ve made peace with your past or built a protective layer from the past hurts, there’s always the outside chance of a cold wind confronting you in the form of a person, experience or memory that can leave you curled up in a ball and crying on the kitchen floor. But this passes and you let go a little more every time.
The past is an illusion all in your mind. You make it up. You rid it the same way.
No, my psychotic ex-wife hasn’t spoken to me in years. Thank you, Lord.
No. It won’t get off my chest now. It is sitting its 1000 lb butt on me , keeping me from getting my wind in the first place. Or so it seems.
@broncosgirl Imagine all the thoughts that come into your mind are not yours. They’ve come in from the universal thought bank for you to make a decision as to whether you want to accept it as your own or not. So when a sad thought enters just kick it into touch. Disown it. Do it quickly before it has a chance to hold your attention. Meditation is not good in these circumstances as the relaxed mind just provides unguarded pathways for more powerful unwanted thoughts to enter.
It happens to me from time to time. Something triggers a memory, and I just have to take a time out to deal with it.
@Reacher
They’ve come in from the universal thought bank for you to make a decision as to whether you want to accept it as your own or not.
Is this overseen by the Federal Reserve thought authority.
My past lives right down the road, and it feels like my heart stops whenever we cross paths. Yes, ignoring the feelings and potential thoughts works – initially. I feel much better and at peace when I address the issue thoroughly in my mind.
Whenever me and my ex-husband have a argument I simply cant believe that I were so stupid to marry him back then and that I gave him the change to break me emotionally. But then, if it wasnt for him I wouldnt have had my lovely daughter….
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