How do you deal with something sad and disappointing and you can't get it out of your mind?

It just takes time .Alot of exercise helps me :)

Throw yourself into something you enjoy. It could be creating art, reading, watching a movie, listening to music, exercising, etc. If you keep yourself occupied the thoughts shouldn’t be as prominent.

Don’t ignore all of your thoughts, however. If you do, you’ll never truly work your way through the tough time you’re having right now. Sorry you’re feeling down, and I wish you luck.

I promise you. It will pass.

Actually after a while the brain gets tired of it and will push it back. It is a natural function.

If you want to be relieved for a short time, drink heavily.

If you want to be relieved for a long time, occupy yourself. Do something you like to do. Rather than trying to keep all the thoughts in and trying to think of something else, express it.

I think you need to allow yourself time to grieve about whatever this is that you are so sad about—because obviously, it is important to you. When you have had enough time feeling sad, you will be ready to move on. It’s hard to do that before you are ready.

for sadness or disappointment I tend to talk to my Grandmother. I won’t necessarily tell her what’s eating me up but I find that just talking to her in general lifts my spirits. I also find that taking my dogs for a walk or going for a drive helps me deal with sadness.

I like to work, to occupy my brain so much when I do rest I’m too exhausted to think about it. Eventually the pain lessens enough that I don’t have to exhaust myself in order to not think about it.

I know that” God burdens NO soul with more than it can handle”
Thus, every problem God puts in my path, he knows it is a problem I can deal with, but this time I think it just to much to deal right now.

I know that “God burdens NO soul with more than it can handle”
Thus, every problem God puts in my path, he knows it is a problem I can deal with, but this time I think it just to much to deal right now.

Hobbies and loud noises.

Hobbies are fantastic, especially with something fiddly or which needs a lot of concentration, doesn’t let you think of anything else.

And loud noises are good too. Shocks, being slapped in the face and things like that. Works really well at interrupting that kind of repetitive loop of thought you’re experiencing.

Put in an “uplifting” DVD or go to the movie theatre where something WONDERFUL and INSPIRATIONAL is playing! Disappointment is simply a part of life! It’s GOING to happen! Adulthood is being able to deal with that disappointment! And if you’re of “drinking age”, a nice glass of wine or hardball will do the “trick”, also!

Stay busy, get out of or away from anything familiar to this “disappointment”. Time should help heal that wound.

If there isn’t anything that I can do about it, I try to get as far off of that subject with any activity that I can. If I come across someone that seems like they may have an answer to the problem, I will seek any help available.

I find it difficult to let go.I will drive people nits talking about it until I am ready to move on.

I hate trying to forget things because of how my head likes to work.

“ohmygod, I don’t want to remember this ever. OK, I’m gonna try to get rid of it. How am I gonna get rid of it? Get rid of what? You know, the time when ______. STFU, SELF!”

Honestly, I can say that I’ve never had this problem.
There is an upside to having a short attention span and being highly distractible :)

Imagine all the thoughts that come into your mind are not yours. They’ve come in from the universal thought bank for you to make a decision as to whether you want to accept it as your own or not. So when a sad thought enters just kick it into touch. Disown it. Do it quickly before it has a chance to hold your attention. Meditation is not good in these circumstances as the relaxed mind just provides unguarded pathways for more powerful unwanted thoughts to enter.

I experience the same thing, it is like I have an endless type loop tape playing in my head. It seems as if the more I fight it the harder it hammers. So if I just accept it is there and then say to myself, okay it is time to move on, it will go away. Strange but that is the way it works for me. And of course it helps if you can find something to distract you. But truly for me acceptance is the key.

i dont deal with it very well, i find i think and think and think about whatever it is thats disappointed me, until finally i get over it – like rooeytoo says, i accept it i guess :)

I learned to just accept that it will never go away, and the best plan is to get involved with other things, rather than dwell on it. You could look for a form of self-hypnosis. There are many websites that can help you with that.

I used to dwell in the house of regret until I realized that it doesn’t do anything to change the facts and it takes up a lot of potentially useful time.

After that I began an active campaign to force myself to accept the event and not dwell on it. Every time it popped into my mind I pushed it out, thinking literally “I’m not going to think about that.”

It was also helpful to me to look at the situation with an eye towards anything I had learned from it. ie: Yes I was disappointed this time but I will know better what to look for next time.

I think dwelling on unchangeable situations is an attempt to change the past at the expense of the future.

I like writing my thoughts down in a journal, and expressing myself as much as possible with no holds bar. It’s cathartic to write down your most troubling thoughts. I also talk about it to people I am close to. But the only real thing that remedies this is time. All things pass——life isn’t static, and your feelings of sadness and disappointment will soon pass too——at the very least they will fade and not seem as bad. Things always seem worse in the moment.

@Merriment We seem to think alike somewhat on this. I thought I was on my own re this coping method

Let yourself know that continuing to torment yourself over it will lead to no good, and let each time you think of this sad, disappointing thing be a reminder of this. That’s how I manage to get over such things… If such things can be gotten over.

@Reacher I know a couple of people who use this method…and now I know one more! Good to know we aren’t alone

My cat just died i was really really really close to it. I cant get it off my mind! i cry almost minute. i wish my cat was still alive.
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