Men; Could you be with someone for 2 years but never love them?

I was in a similar situation like yours, but it wasn’t because I didn’t love her. Heck, words can’t begin to describe how I worshiped the ground she walked (and this was just the ground we’re talking about). However, I could never bring myself to say the L word in front of her, there’s nothing wrong with it in the short term…but just remember to say it sometime! (It means a lot to everyone)

@belakyre My boyfriend has never said it to me. I don’t know if he does or not.

Even if you don’t love your SO, you have to like a lot of things about them to want to stay together for two years. But I think most people would have to be in love to want to live together for that long. It’s more likely that you’re just feeling kind of insecure.

@Haleth I hope you are right, I love him very much, would just be nice if he said it.

Some people (men and women) simply find it very difficult to say “I love you”. I am sure by the way he is treating you and talks to you and show you his affection you can see that he loves you?

If there aren’t children involved then I find it difficult to understand how someone could live with someone else for so long if they didn’t love them.

@Dibley If it’s any consolation it took my fella a couple of years before he actually said the words “I love you”. I had moments when I felt a bit insecure but I never really doubted that he loved me because sometimes the little things he said or did told me that he loved me even before he said it.

Can I be, No!
Can some people be, Yes.

It’s possible if the person is narcissistic, and you do everything for them. In other words, you become their mother, only with sex thrown in.

I know a guy now who married a woman who it seems to me is basically “his mom with the sex thrown in.” But I can’t lie and say I know this for a fact; it was how it struck me once I met her and saw how they interacted.

@aprilsimnel I know a couple like that too.

You can love someone and not say “i love you.”

@Leanne1986 and @RubyReds He has never said he love me and we have been together for 2 and a half years. He talks about his retirement with me and says he wants to be with me, I sometimes think he loves me but I just really want to hear him say it.

Some guys just don’t say it. Either you can learn to accept that or you can’t.

Did it for 15 months. Didn’t love her. Loved the kids. The sex, food and easy terms weren’t bad either, but I should have left much sooner.

At one point, she kind of beat those words out of me and later accused me of lying to her (true, I suppose). Anyway, FWIW.

@kevbo What does fwiw mean?

@Dibley For what it’s worth.

@Dibley Believe me, I understand how much you want to hear it. Until recently I felt the same way. I knew he loved me but I just wanted to hear it. When I finally did hear it, because I knew that it wasn’t easy for him to say, I knew it was genuine and I can’t tell you how good it felt I actually cried a bit. It sounds like your fella does love you, why would he talk about his retirement with you if you didn’t feature heavily in his future! Hang in there.

@Leanne1986 I’m really hanging! I would cry to if and when I hear it.