Is it ok for me to keep the things that my boyfriend did to me in the past. And I cant let them go. Is it ok for me to keep it in my heart?

Let it out, and stay away.

The things your boyfriend did to you, I’m assuming, were not good things. You can remember them, for future reference…we learn from our mistakes….but, don’t take these things out on your future boyfriends.

If you need counseling, I suggest you get it before you enter into a new relationship.

I think we need more details.

There is nothing ok or not ok about feelings. But after a while, you have to ask yourself if hanging on to past hurts is beneficial to you.

Forgiveness does not mean that everything is hunky-dory. You can forgive people for things they did while still deciding they have no place in your life. Forgiveness is for your benefit.

It’s a good idea to always remember it, good or bad, because repressing it is really no better than to become obsessed over it…so yeah, keep them, but don’t become obsessed. Life goes on, as I’m sure you know.

You can do what you want.

But choosing to carry bad things
makes as much sense as carrying feces in your pockets
while complaining about the stench.

Even that wouldn’t be so bad
if you didn’t insist on sharing the feces
with everyone else.

Keep it in your memory but not in your heart.

Well, that depends on how often you think about them. If the memories disrupt your daily activities, then that’s not healthy. But if you completely forget the past, you may miss some important lessons. You can store these memories and refer back to them later if they will help you avoid future problems. Just don’t dwell on them or wallow in negative emotions.