What is an example of something a child still living at home needs to ask permission to do?

Bring another person into the house, regardless of age.

Well, of course some of it changes with age, but here would be my basic parameters.

Any deviation in expected behavior that could cause worry:

- So, If the child usually comes home straight from school, then the child needs to get approval, or at minimum, inform a parent where they will be if they are not coming straight home.
– Having a friend over (if that is out of the ordinary for your family, I would not have had to ask permission after school to have a neighborhood girlfriend over while my parents were not home) or asking the friend to stay for dinner
– Going out at night.

Well as a college kid when I go home for break I don’t expect my parents to “approve” of where I’m going but I do let them know- out of respect and safety. I ask their permission for the most part if I’m going to have someone over. Obviously children still living at home the parents would have to approve of almost everything,... but some parents never approve of anything which is just ask bad as the kid not asking.

They need to give a loose run down on their comings and goings. Most parents don’t like the idea of people, family or not, coming and going at all hours. They like to have an idea who is going to be around at a given time.

my toddler has to ask someone first before touching the sewing machine, the guitars, the lap tops and before opening the refrigerator

I never lived with my parents and the only time I got to live at home was when I visited my grand parents during my summer holidays. When I was young I spent almost all holidays there but as I grew up I opted to spend time in the hostel, rather.

I do not know if this is how it is in normal houses but my grand parents house was more like a military dorm. Everything had a time and place. If I, for any reason, failed to do something, as scheduled, I was supposed to let my grand nanna know about it, on hand. Something like, skipping lunch or dinner was not acceptable, if it was not informed before. No, it was not as bad, still, I felt the hostels were a lot more better, even with all those nuns and fathers around. **phews!**

The childs age would be the determining factor on its permission questions. a teenager should ask permission for friends to come over, to have a sleepover, or us some specific equipment that belongs to the parents. the car is a good example.

i live on my own now, but when i go back home for christmas break i stay with my parents. the only thing i ask permission for when i’m back home is the car, otherwise i just tell them where i am going and i call them if my plans change just out of safety and respect.
when i was a teenager and lived with my parents they:
-didn’t want me to get a tattoo or piercing til i was out of the house
-gave me curfews and grounded me if i didn’t respect them
-didn’t let me have boys sleepover at the house
-needed me to ask permission before borrowing the snowmobile/atv
-always wanted to know where i was going and with who
-didn’t let me go out on school-nights(except for coffee sometimes)
-...

thanks god they had a lot of rules though! i used to hate it and alot of my friends think they were strict but, now i see that they only put those rules there because they loved me and wanted to protect me as much as they could.

Stay out late.

@mclaugh very well said! I sooooo agree with the last paragraph of your answer. I too HATED it and felt like I was under lock and key. It was all for the best though. My dad use to say to me “When you have a boy you only have to worry about 1 dick, if you have a girl you have to worry about many more dicks.” He would also say “I was one of those boys, so I know what they are thinking.”
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I am very greatful for what he did for me though!

@NUNYA for me, it was my mom who was strict. my dad would let me do pretty much whatever when my mom wasn’t around. but they always told me “someday you’ll know why we’re doing this” and i could never imagine seeing their side of things, but i definetely do now… ewh. i hate to admit it even now.

Stay up later than their normal bedtime.

Borrow the car…

My son’s only 16 months old, so i count myself lucky when he asks for a cookie instead of just scaling the kitchen cupboards. When he’s older, he’ll need permission for anything that requires him to leave the house. He can have anyone over he wants- if he’s at home i know he’s behaving. :-) I will also require permission and supervision for all internet access.

I believe that a child still living at home would need to ask permission to have a friend spend the night… ?

In my house they have to ask if they can drink the last cold pepsi can. Of course the little ones have no choice. They get juice only till they are 8.

@Pandora Why 8?

I just preferred my kids get a good liking for juice before moving on to the teeth decaying stuff. Seven seemed too young and by 9 most of their friends had aready been drinking soda for some time. By that age they start to feel your babying them.
@Dr_Dredd

@Pandora Thanks. Obviously I don’t have kids yet…

Right now it is a never ending battle of which video game they are allowed to play. I am appalled at what their same aged friends are allowed to play. So all I hear is “but why?? SO and so friend gets to play it!!”” That irks me to no end!!

@HighShaman

I’m sure most people agree with that.

I think I’m going to be what used to be called in my neighborhood a “Kool-Aid Mom”. Everyone’s allowed over, all the time. I’d rather have every kid on the block in my backyard, eating my Oreos, and sleeping on my living room floor than have them playing on the railroad tracks and getting chased down by alligators and/or paedophiles.

@Seek_Kolinahr I bet the neighborhood parents love you.

LOL. @Ghost_in_the_system

Ask me in a few years. These are just devious plans of mine – my son’s not even 2 yet. ^_^

Bringing a friend over to the house. At least, a new one. Myself, I had good friends that came over often and my parents pretty much gave them the all access pass to my house. But if it was someone they didn’t know, I had to ask.

@Seek_Kolinahr So you haven’t seen the error of your ways, yet? I’ll be sure to check back

Personally, people coming over really doesn’t seem a big deal to me. My daughter is four so I haven’t really experienced what its like to have kids in and out. I do require her to ask to do things that are messy, electronics, or involve other peoples things.

Agreed, @lizzmitch

What’s the worst that will happen? I’ll get acrylic paint on my TV screen? Someone will track mud on my couch? BFD. I’ll take that if it means my son isn’t blowing up cars or killing neighborhood cats to stave off boredom (both things his father is guilty of in his childhood)

@Seek_Kolinahr it is good that you are so open to having the kids around so they will stay out of trouble

When my oldest came back home after getting out of the Navy, we asked him to clear it with us before having his friends over partying because we still had to work, had plans, etc.

Eat food!! I dont ask permission for that crap:) Thanks nunya!! Your the best!!

You’re most welcome Sir Mikey!! <<HIGH FIVE>>

The only things I want them to ask for permission for is bringing someone new into the house that we don’t know yet. There are a few other things like trying new things I would like them to talk with us first and tell us why they want to try whatever it is. As they get to be teenagers out of courtesy I would like to know where they are going and with who so I can make sure if they need me we can contact each other. I am sure there is a few more, but I am not sure what they are. I don’t want us to be very strict, just make sure they know what is right and wrong and are protected.