How can I tell my boyfriend that our relationship is not working?

Beat it?

You can’t tell him without hurting him.

It’s going to hurt him, it’s going to hurt you. That’s OKAY. That’s how it works, we’re biologically not supposed to feel good about hurting people.

So tell him it’s not working, there’s nothing he can do about it, and move on.

I’ve been there. Both sides. It sucks, but it’s the way it has to work.

You say, “Honey, our relationship isn’t working”.

@grumpyfish is right; it will hurt for both of you. But it’s better to feel the pain and get through it than to feel the long term torment and frustrations of avoiding the pain.

Staying in a relationship for the sake of the other and not yourself isn’t right – think about how you’d feel if years from now you found out he’d only stayed in the relationship for your sake, not his own…

Take him to an amusement park. Buy him some cotton candy and a soda.

Then ditch him!

Maybe someone else will take him home.

I live by the rule of…...honesty is the best policy! Don’t beat around the bush and make up stories and excuses for what you are saying. You will end up hurting him more if you lie about the relationship. Just be straight up about it.

You just need to be straight with him.Lying or playing with someon’es feelings is the worst thing you could do.

Most painless breakup I’ve ever had.

“You’re dumped.”

Never spoke to each other ever again.

The need to tell him that you are over does not mesh with th need not to hurt him. The best way is to be honest with him. hat will hurt him the least.

Just directly say, “I care about you as a person, but I do not want to continue to date you.”

Instead of hurting him every time you try to tell him, tell him once and stick to it. Then he will only be hurt one time and will have a chance to heal and move on.

Direct and to the point. Like ripping off a band-aid. Men crave respect more than love. Respect him enough to tell him the truth.

Tell him as directly as possible and as soon as possible. Dragging it out just prolongs the agony. Direct and kind but firm is the best.

So instead of hurting him, you are stuck in a relationship you no longer want to be in? So who is actually getting hurt here? You should do it as gently, but quickly as possible. Don’t drag it out and don’t let him guilt you into staying in a “going no where” relationship.