Do you think people get a correct first impression of you?
Sometimes first impressions are way off and unfair… sometimes they’re right on though. Do you think people judge you fairly when they first meet you?
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No because I am actually rather shy and reserved, people often take that the wrong way; as in “I don’t like them”. Sometimes they’re right. ;)
Never. That’s usually how I end up getting laid after I meet girls. It’s funny. People usually have a night and day difference expectations when they meet me. Then when they get to actually know me they usually stay in touch.
No. Or a second, third or fourth!
@CorwinofAmber That’s always a shame isn’t it. Shy people are often misunderstood… people need to get to know someone better before they decide!! Thanks.
Nope. People tend to think that I’m very nerdy and innocent and sweet… not a girl who just likes to have fun :)
@Axemusica Sounds like it works pretty well for you though!!
Not usually – usually people read me as aloof and all over the place when in reality I am much more complex and intelligent – I just don’t want to reveal it, it causes me too many headaches because people never actually want to hear anything complicated (this is not referring to Fluther).
I think my gitty and ethusiasm shows through. I am such a people person and sometimes wonder *do I have a sign taped to me that says “lets talk”? LOL People strike up conversations with me all the time. Grocery Store lines, ladies restroom, restaraunts…....I think my “love people and conversation” shows in me.
So yes I think people get a correct first impression.
Though it is a bit different on sites like this because you can’t see my facial expressions and body language. So I use a lot of “exclamation points”, “LOL’s”, “smiley faces :-)” and {{{HUGS}}} to show others I am a friendly person. {{{HUGS}}} to you Barb my good friend!!!!
Not on the internet anyway.
I hope though that in person, most people do.
Because I’m very shy around new people, some think I’m automatically stuck up or have that ‘I’m too good for you’ attitude when really, I just have a hard time in social situations.
I try to give others the benefit of the doubt and base what I think of them off of being around them more than once. First impressions aren’t always fair.
When I first spoke to one of my favorite ABers/Flutherers, my first impression was that she was a little uptight. However, by getting to know her better and being open and genuinely interested in hearing who she is and what she had to say, I now have the privilege of calling her one of my dearest friends.
One of my best friends said her first impression of me was, “I bet that girl has some good weed.” Pretty accurate.
@Nunya .. Oh I know from my experience that you are as sweet and enthusiastic as you seem. That is very refreshing and fun to be around!! ((hugs))
@Simone_De_Beauvoir I’m like you… I don’t open up completely to strangers and am pretty reserved. Just another reason people need to get to know someone to allow them to “bloom” and feel comfortable to be themselves.
@JustPlainBarb When I do, I usually get ‘wow, you’re not at all what I expected. You look so normal’
@Vunessuh Isn’t that great… when you really get to know someone and find out who they really are. I love that. I’m just happy that I have been lucky enough to get to know you…
@smack They must be pleasantly surprised then.
@JustPlainBarb I feel very lucky as well. Months ago when I first joined AB, my intentions were not to make friends. I didn’t expect it at all, not even sure if at first I was open to it.
When you let your guard down, good things can and do happen.
Although, I’m so addicted to you guys, you’re pulling me away from my work! I blame it on all of you. ;)
I think so, yeah. At least for the most part. I’m the type of person who puts themselves out there, so what you see is what you get. They’re not going to get everything of course, they might not see the nerdier side of me and they might not get the crazier side of me, but they’ll get the basics.
No. Most of the time they can’t even tell what gender I am.
I doubt that. But that’s probbaly a good thing.
Heavens, yes.
People upon first meeting me think I’m shy and reserved.
They learn soon enough that I’m simply insane.
“The difference between me and you is I know I’m crazy.”
@SABOTEUR Insane can be a good thing… anyway who’s to judge what “sane” is anway!
No. Because I am shy, people think I’m unfriendly or snobbish. The latter couldn’t be further from the truth. If I don’t talk to someone, it’s usually because I don’t know what to say.
@SABOTEUR well maybe, but only here… and I’m sure this is just a small part of your life!
No. I am a reserved personality so most people think I am snobbish.
I’ve had my fair share of people getting the wrong impression of me when they first meet me. There are times when people think I’m better than I actually am and there are times when people think I’m worse than I actually am. It’s interesting, weird, and kind of annoying at times.
No. I’m the strong quiet type and they more often than not mistake my silence for weakness. They also tend to think I’m stupid because I’m a girl of few words.
@JustPlainBarb: ~Uh…yeah…that’s right…it’s not like answering questions is all I have to do… cough-cough…What?
@Silhouette Me, too. My AP lit teacher once told our class that if someone was silent, then s/he must be stupid or have nothing to say. At the time, his words were offensive, but now I see that they said more about him than anything else. There’s nothing wrong with being taciturn.
@lonelydragon That’s the thing about quiet types, we zip our lips, sit back and wait for the others guys to expose their ture colors. Silence forces people to think and if they get uncomfortable from it I think it speak volumes about their depth.
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