What to do with a controlling person?
This woman had been married to this Major in the Army for 10 years. they have two boys. for 10 years, this woman has had no money, no telphone, no car keys, no friends and her husband drives her everywhere. this was a real police call. she slipped and called the police and wanted to leave forever with her two sons. i knocked on the door and he answered. can you guess what happened next?
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Domestic Violence Hotline, and help her get the fuck out of there.
I’m guessing he wouldn’t let her come to the door? Not to sound callous, but she has also chosen to stay with him all these years and let herself be controlled. I would never let anyone control me like that, ever. If she finally woke up and decided to get out, then I am all for giving her the resources necessary to be able to get out of that situation (job training, roof over her head, etc.) as long as it is going towards her being self sufficient.
Help her out. She’s obviously broken.
She needs to be rescued from the controling SOB….
I realize that sometimes ONE of a couple becomes the “head of the house” in many cases… BUT; there is a difference in being the “head” and being a controlling “Ass” ...
@Shemarq Not everyone has such a strong will. If the husband has psychologically and emotionally abused this woman, then she may believe she’s not capable of living without him, or that she is a worthless person who doesn’t deserve to live happily. I do hope that, as you said, she will “wake up” and leave.
John, does this woman have any relatives who could host her for a little while in the event that she leaves him? If not, then you can recommend a local battered women’s shelter or women’s resource center where she can get some help.
@HighShaman GA for the head/ass pun.
Help her out, like @Facade suggests. The other suggestions would seem to make you the controlling person.
He probably tried to prevent you from talking to her..
What happened???My guess is that she is still with him…I hope not though.
In Tennessee, we take emotional and physical domestic violence very seiously. you are right, he answered the door and refused us entry. i advised him of his wifes telephone call and he stated. “shes not allowed to call anybody”! i heard his wife yell in the background, “i called, please help me”. i then pushed the man to the side and ordered him to sit on a sofa and not say a word. my partner watched over him. the lady advised she wanted to leave and her husband would not let her and the children go. i advised her that here is what is going to happen: i am going to help you pack your bags, you gather your sons and you are leaving. as she packed, i approached her husband. he said very little. i did all the talking. “your wife and children are leaving you. give me the car keys to the suv, so the children will have car seats. you are going to the atm and bring her back enough money to live on for a week”. this he did. next, we loaded the luggage and the children into the suv. he gave me the keys. i then told him to go back into the house, sit on the sofa and face the wall. he was not going to see what direction his wife and children were leaving. this he did. the woman left crying and thanking us at the same time. i advised the man that his wife was going to divorce him, so get prepared. 6 months later, i drove by this house and there was a for sale sign posted. i do not know where this lady and her children moved to, but i am positive she will have a better life than she had with the Major. john
Nice job. It takes a lot of courage to call the cops and I’m glad she got help.
@john 65pennington-I am so glad to hear she was able to leave.I hope he never finds her .
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