How can I prove my cutting isn't for attention?

I think the best thing is to use the help you’re getting now. They might not understand but they’ll see it if you benefit from the counceling.

Don’t expect them to be able to understand, just be glad that you are getting help now.

People have very strong perspectives on what they consider to be “right” and “wrong”.

Some perspectives are so firmly entrenched that nothing anyone says or does will convince them to feel otherwise. Sounds like what you’ve done falls into the “firmly entrenched” category.

One thing you must understand is that you never do things in isolation. Everything you say and do influences someone…somewhere…whether you know it or not. Those who walk a spiritual path are advised of this and encouraged to be responsible for their words and deeds to avoid negatively affecting people around them or drawing upon themselves negative karma.

Being unaware of the responsibility to yourself and those around you does not free you from the consequences of your actions. What’s done is done. You cannot make anyone understand or accept anything if they choose not to be convinced.

You’ll just have to “ride out the storm”.

Perhaps now you’ll be motivated to think about how actions interrelate the next time you say or do something, and remember…

…there are better ways seeking help.

If you know you are not cutting to get attention, then may I ask do you know why you are doing it?

what convinced me it IS for attention, is the way you take up so much space with your details.
And the fact you’re asking about it on fluther.

Is it possible that you’re doing it for attention and don’t realize that’s what you’re really doing? I’m guessing you’ve already asked for help and have another fluther name.

Try not to be concerned over the fact that people aren’t understanding your reasoning behind why you cut.
It absolutely sucks to be misunderstood, but it sucks more to not have any help.
I admire that you even asked for help in the first place. If you’re unhappy with your therapist I suggest you get a new one, but not on the basis that you want one who’s only going to tell you what you want to hear. They wouldn’t be doing their job if they did it that way.
Your focus is so much on how do I prove them wrong when it should be on how do I get better.
Perhaps you’re not walking into this with an open mind. You might discover something new about yourself. If it’s that you cut for attention, who cares!
The reason behind why somebody cuts in my opinion doesn’t matter.
Getting help so you won’t damage your body anymore is way more important.

I think initially it doesn’t matter why you are doing it, you just have to get a handle on how to control it. The counseling should help, if not, shop for another counselor, sometimes the first one you hook up with might not be the right one.

I can’t say I understand what you are doing, but I am a booze addict and I am beating that one day at a time, so you can beat this too. You gotta wanna, that is step one. Find a group of others who have your same symptoms, there is so much power in a group. And they understand because they are in the same boat.

Stop worry about what others are thinking, that diminishes your power, you have to concentrate on you, spending your energy on others is just another way to avoid doing the hard yards that you have to do for yourself.

good luck and you can beat it if you want to

clearly you’re not getting the attention you deserve or want and your cutting is a means of showing your regret or your anger towards whatever or whoever it is. Nightmare there are ways to make this work and putting an end to it. You cutting isn’t helping you nor anyone else. The fact that your mum is calling you names is also quite disturbing to hear honestly. I bet there is some kind of house hold problem or something going on and you don’t have anyone to shout out to or listen to how you feel about everything. We’re total strangers to you if anything we are here to listen to you. Let us know how can we help, sharing does help you know. Instead of cutting yourself next time why don’t you try and write to us instead about your problems. Best of luck. You need a friend add me, send me a private message. Best of luck.

Regardless of whatever other motivations exist, people who are into cutting find that the physical pain is preferable to dealing with the emotional pain.

In that regard, it is similar to addictions. People use all types of things to escape their emotional pain but it never works long term because the relief is only temporary.

Until you drag it out into the light and confront ALL of it, this root of emotional pain is what needs to be dealt with.

Who cares if the therapist thinks it’s attention getting. That’s beside the point.

When you are sick and tired enough of the cutting and ready to deal with the underlying roots of emotional pain, let him know that this is the direction in which you want to go.

Denying that you are doing it for attention is just a time waster all around.

Letting the therapist know that you are willing to do the hard work of confronting your hidden emotional pain is making some headway in eliminating this behavior from your life. I assume you want to stop it. If you don’t, no one can force you. The ball is in your court.

Cutting? Oh….I get it…you cut one, right? Well, if you cut one, then you’re gonna get plenty of attention.

@SirGoofy Not often a post gives me a belly laugh…I like your swagger!

Ask for attention on the problem from strangers online?

Cutting IS about attention. You want people to pay attention to your pain and uncontrollable emotions. If you wanted to ease the pain wihout the attention of others you would never have told anyone, you would never cut where people can see it, and you’d never announce it to the world.

Knowing and accepting why you cut IS part of the healing process. Hopefully your therpaist is trained in suicide ideation and cutting, if she is not, get a new one. You need to deal with this ASAP.