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How to find your calling?

Asked by talljasperman (21919points) December 21st, 2009

I’ve tried business and office administration, philosophy, English, psychology, tried a Bach. of Arts degree, and am trying to finish high school physics; and I’m not going anywhere or learning anything… I’ve worked as a dishwasher, a clerk at a store, a fry cook, a sandwich artist and worked in laundry housekeeping and done janitorial… I’m running out of entry level jobs and careers I hate them all and I don’t like the pay… I’m $25, 000 in a student loan that I can’t pay back because I don’t have a job and live with my mom at 32 years old… I accidently said something stupid to a social worker and I got mislabeled as permanently disabled…. Now I just read library books and watch t.v. ...I work for my mother over the summers and I really want something to change for the better, but I don’t know what I want. I’m scared to live on my own and I get along well with my mom and we split the bills. Am I alone in this… or does everyone live like this… what should I do next? what job or class I could take next or book to read…I’m not depressed but my self made plans all seem to fail…I find doing nothing fills me with contentment but my inner voice screams ambition… But I don’t know for what… Do you have any advice?

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Haroot's avatar

What hobbies and interest do you have? I know it’s a rather cheesy and obvious answer, but getting a job doing something you love is usually a positive way to go.

talljasperman's avatar

@Haroot I love watching space science shows on nova and national geographic I wanted to buy more and just watch them until something became of me

Kelly_Obrien's avatar

I didn’t lose one…thanks. Some people don’t find their calling for years and years after college. Don’t sweat it. Let it come to you. Don’t push too hard.

iLove's avatar

I found a site that I absolutely love. There are many articles on there that may get you thinking and moving in the right direction… specifically, I am pointing you to a set of articles that may help. Check out the rest of the site too, you may get inspiration there.

http://www.inspiredmoneymaker.com/2009/09/16/defining-your-perfect-job-career-part-1/

http://www.inspiredmoneymaker.com/2008/04/27/how-to-make-money-doing-what-you-love-by-clearing-your-limiting-beliefs/

You may find lots of good references to other sites as well, its up to you how much you want to work from the spiritual aspect.

Good luck!

Haroot's avatar

Well if you don’t mind schooling at the later hours at times, there’s always astronomy. Not sure if that’s what you mean by space science though. But physics is somewhat relative to the field so I don’t know if it’s for you. And a PhD is rather important.

Say you do go that field, the usual career path will lead you to universities or research institutions. Always a nice choice. Also, great for impressing dates (Personal experience.)

But I don’t know. Check out iLove’s links. I think I remember reading about CareerU and Skillscan but I haven’t used them myself so I can’t recommend them.

Most importantly, I think you should maybe talk to an academic adviser (or the equivalent wherever you’re attending) or a psychologist (Possibly on campus. It’s free here at my college.) just to get some career counseling.

Best of luck to you.

Midnighttoker2's avatar

Some times your true calling finds you.
You could try some volunteer work.
Maybe your calling is helping other people in some way.
Volunteer work can lead you down a path to the right job.

Buttonstc's avatar

Have you ever read a book called “What Color is Your Parachute”

It has helped to steer many folks in the right direction. It’s gone through numerous re-printings and updated editions.

I highly recommend it.

Zen_Again's avatar

I only found mine at 40. Don’t sweat it too much.

Pandora's avatar

It sounds like you’ve might’ve studied a wide range of things. Ever considered trying to get a job in a college and while there take some courses that may lead you to teaching? If you work for the college they may give you a break in some courses. Especially if you end up assisting a professor. If you enjoy learning than you may be able to transfer that passion very well into teaching. If not, it sounds as if ilove has a good solution and midnightoker is right about volunteer work. Often times it will open doors you thought were closed to you.
Best of Luck. Let us know if things work out for you.
Oh, one more thing. My daughter had a hard time finding the right job for her but what held her back for the longest time was that she really didn’t believe what we already knew. She didn’t trust anyone would believe in her skills and it transfered onto her resume. See if you can pay a professional to look it over. Sometimes we unders sell ourselves on paper and in todays work place you won’t even get looked at without a good resume.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I reached that crisis in my early twenties. Four degrees and no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Stumbled into an Army recruiter who put me on a fast track to a commission in the Corps of Engineers. Now retired in my mid fifties and back in the same dilemma: “What do I want to do when I grow up?”. Maybe back into academia?

Pandora's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land With your long list of skills have you ever thought of trying in the private sector. Alternative energy is a big deal these days. I’m sure they would love someone with experience and knowledge. As well as in the government sector. Try the link ilove sent above.
Good Luck!

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@Pandora Thanks so much! Once I’ve worked through some other issues I’ll probably go that route.

SirGoofy's avatar

Chuck it all and visit your local palm-reader.

Cotton101's avatar

Which of those jobs mentioned in your post did you like the best T?

Pseudonym's avatar

You don’t find your calling. Your calling finds you.

J0E's avatar

It was hard for me to realize my calling, because I didn’t know it could even be one. Just think of the things you enjoy doing and try to do something that involves them.

CMaz's avatar

I am still looking.

talljasperman's avatar

@Cotton101 I liked being a clerk the best, I work as one during the summers

Cotton101's avatar

@talljasperman Have found that being happy with your job is about as important as the salary. If you are happy doing that job, you will be successful. Rather be a happy “ditch digger” than to be an unhappy corporate exe!

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