To love and let go, is that a fault?
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December 21st, 2009
So, this girl I know, I’ve known for a while now tells me tonight that she has let me go. I haven’t let go of her, but she says that I should. If I loved her, then I would. But that kind of doesn’t make sense. I want to love her and not be apart. I’m forced to, and that hypothetical and daunting “phrase” says that I must let her go. If it’s meant to be, she’ll come back… But that’s BS.
Is it me or should have just told me that she doesn’t love me any more. That’s she doesn’t want to be around anymore. Or is that taking it a little too far?
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I think it’s over dude. Take your time with getting over her, but I would suggest you move on, even if it’s hard. Then, she might come back to you.
I smell a rat somewhere and it appears its another male. a girl in love with you, would never make this statement, unless she had something going on the side. its up to you to get to the truth. ask her if you are being dumped for someone else. if its true, then at least you will have definite answer. talk to her.
@john65pennington I suspected that… but I can’t make up my mind on whether or not that’s too rash…
If you see loving her as an act of possession then the idea of loving her and being separate doesn’t make sense. If you see your love of her as wanting her to be happy with or without you it makes perfect sense.
It is a “daunting phrase” and an even more daunting act. To surrender your needs to see hers fulfilled is to show unconditional love. It isn’t BS to say that if it’s meant to be she will come back because the act of letting go is the largest demonstration of the sincerity of your love. And showing sincere love for her is your best bet of winning her.
Would it really make it easier for you for her to tell you she no longer loves you and wants to be away from you? If so you could force the issue and provoke her to say the words. Or you could give her the space and the knowledge that you really can put her needs first and see where that takes you. One way is a guaranteed outcome and the other allows for the possibility of happily ever after.
If you love something, set it free.
If it doesn’t come back, hunt it down and shoot it!
Relationships go sour for more reasons that one can conceive of. Part of the process of finding love involves the starting and ending of (hopefully) relationships with numerous women. It is a necessary process and part of life but the both the process and the end result can be exhilarating.
“Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.”
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