Should I tell my co-worker about my cousin?
My cousin was just accepted into a retirement high-rise. She is 50 years old and a crack head. She is also a prostitute. Her daughter is in jail right now for stealing over $1,000.00 out of her grandma’s (My aunt) purse. As soon as she gets out of jail she is going to be hanging around with her mom. They both turn tricks together (YUCK!!!!). My cousin says she’s off of drugs but she has been saying that for the last 20 years and it isn’t true. Should I warn my co-worker about this before she moves in, so he can tell the property managers to re-evaluate her application, or should I just stay out of it?
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“turn tricks”?
I would say yes, this situation could become unpleasant for many people.
@XOIIO Share the same man for money.
oooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh
GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD! AHHHHHHHHHH
No really that’s nasty.
Like I said, tell your co-worker.
Oh my goodness, you really should tell your co-worker. Things like this are not better off when kept in the dark.
I am puzzled on the relationship of the co-worker to the rest of the mess . . .
I thought this was a joke at first, because it follows a familiar setup:
I have a so-so career in gay porn movies. My mother is a prostitute, and we have no idea who my father is. My uncle (mother’s brother) has been in jail for five years for swindling his business partner out of millions of dollars. My cousin murdered his live-in lover and is on Death Row for the crime. My half-sister is an admin on AnswerBag.
I just met a nice guy that I’d like to know better, and I invited him home to meet the family. The problem I have is… should I tell him about my half-sister?
I have no idea how to handle the OP’s problem. I’m just sayin’.
I’m puzzled at being 50 and wanting/qualified to live in a retirement high-rise…
Maybe you should stay out of that part of the family’s life altogether. What’s the co-worker’s part in this?
edit: Well, I agree. You should talk with your co-worker. Why does your co-worker live in a retirement building?
@Kayak8 Sorry. I forgot to mention that my co-worker lives in this high-rise.
@PandoraBoxx She is on disability and that qualifies her to live in the high-rise.
She is a 50 year old crack head and prostitute?
Doing drugs for over 20 years?
That is almost too much information to make sense. Unless there is some perversion to the story.
I say warn your co-worker. Or they will eventually find a dead body on the kitchen floor.
@ChazMaz She has been a drug addict since she was a young teen-ager. Her mother used to over-medicate her when she was just a little kid. To be honest I am surprized they haven’t found her in ditch a long time ago.
You are dealing with a live hand grenade here. I would not involve yourself with this situation as your co-worker may not even ever see or hear of your cousin in a high rise like that. If your cousin is that much trouble she won’t last long at that building as surely the next door neighbors will rat here out in a hurry if she is disruptive. Plus if your cousin finds out you fingered her, she may do something to mess with your life. Druggies are pretty unstable in the skull.
If you feel the need to say or do anything, just mention to your co-worker that you head that your cousin is to move into their building and that you hope this will be your cousins big break to get her life on the right track and spare any gory details. Don’t become part of the problem by meddling too deep,
If your co-worker already lives in the high rise, what are you thinking s/he will do with the information about your cousin? I say stay out of it for now. If your co-worker sees suspicious behavior (it shouldn’t be too hard to spot a crack head and her daughter turning tricks in the building, the foot traffic in and out of the apartment should be a small indicator), s/he should call the police. if your co-worker was part of the co-op/ condo board that approved this woman’s application (probably without any kind of background check – shame on them), then maybe you should tell the co-worker what you know.
@SuperMouse They couldn’t have done much of a background check because she has been arrested several times. I just feel real bad for the people that live there.
If your co-worker and the other people living in the building have an issue with what goes on in your aunt’s apartment (which I think would get pretty obvious that something is going on), then they can complain to the property manager.
I personally wouldn’t get involved. Obviously the property manager isn’t looking very closely into who is moving in. The other tenants should complain.
Reminds me of an old military marching ditty….
Yo’lef…yo’lef…yo’lef right…righto’lef…well m’fathers in hell, m’mothers in jail, m’sistas onna corner singin’ pus_y fo’ sale…wun, two, tree, fo…wun, two…tree fo!!
@SirGoofy You made me blow coffee outta my nose!! :):)
@ChazMaz Yes I am. <sniff, sniff> ۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵۵
Unless your cousin is scheduled to move into the unit next to your co-worker I would stay completely quiet about it. It could be she finally is trying to go straight, or it could be the condo board needs to learn a lesson about background checks. In any case, if you say absolutely nothing then you will not be an object of revenge from anyone if things go bad. And if things go well, be happy for your cousin.
I am assuming the board never came and asked you about your cousin. Because if they did and you lied, they could sue you.
stay out of it. and frankly it kinda sounds like you’re just bragging that you are related to people that do such horrible things.
sounds like they’re addicts, they’ve got it bad. But they probably don’t know any other way to live. They might do things offensive to you and me for drugs, but they’re people too. I’m sure they don’t feel good about what they do (deep down) but if they’re running around with drug dealers and johns they’re gonna have enough problems coming their way.
you can be there to help them when they’re ready. but no one is going to make an addict change there ways until they’ve hit their bottom on their own.
Can we see a picture of your cousin?
Preferably with clothing on.
Do I have this right?
— Your co-worker, who has a disability, lives in a retirement high-rise.
— Your cousin, who is on drugs and is a prostitute, proposes to move into the same building, but not to share your co-worker’s apartment—just to be in the same building.
— You want to know if you should tell your co-worker about your cousin so your co-worker can tell the building manager before your cousin moves in.
If I got that right, then no. Your co-worker has nothing at all to do with the case. Nothing. It sounds like your cousin will out herself soon enough. My guess is also that she will not be the first drug user ever to move in. I don’t see that it is your business to warn anyone.
If you are trying to help your cousin, I would suggest finding another way.
This is not your coworker’s business or yours. I agree with @Jeruba. Are you trying to punish this woman or help her?
Yes, I change my opinion. I am with @Jeruba on this one.
But I still want to see a picture.
@ChazMaz I tried looking for her TBI Most Wanted profile but I couldn’t find it. I have no pictures of her because I want no pictures of her. I am not trying to punish her, I was just asking advice about it is all.
@Jeruba My co-worker is not disabled, he just lives there because he is retirement age. He is retireing from here and is going to be teaching some classes at the retirement tower. I want to thank all of you for your advice. You have been very helpfull in this. I will take everyone’s advice and keep out of it. That would probably be the best anyway..
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