Is there someone you really miss? If so, why not get in touch with them?

If only the afterlife had Facebook. sniff I’d love to talk some more with my Dad

Hey MAN!!! How’s it going…long time no see! Sure have missed you man.

Because it’s impossible.

I also miss some people who have passed on. But I am referring to people who are alive.

It’s a few exes, and I would rather see if they get in touch with me. I am traditional as a female and dating, so I believe the guy should contact the girl if interested. Plus, the ones that I miss are the ones that broke things off with me. So the ball is in their court, and I will leave it at that. Besides, it would damage my ego and I would feel pathetic.

@Zen_Again Is it only pride that keeps you from contacting your ex? I would go ahead and contact her if that is the only reason. What can it hurt other than your pride if she rebuffs your simple act of saying “hello”?

@Freedom_Issues Thanks for proving my point. @chyna It’s different in my case – I miss her – but she broke up with me so it isn’t for me to call her. Besides, we have a compatability problem – love was never the problem. I think we should not be together, and I wouldn’t get back with her anyway.

Oh, gosh, I wish I could…would love for my Mom who died in 1987 to see her beautiful great-granddaughters! Miss her this time of year more than any other time!

I don’t know how. And he isn’t speaking to me anyway right now just cause I’m taller which doesn’t mean anything cause he’s bigger and stronger inside than I am anyway.
But me being taller makes it easier to hug him better.

If i had a direct connection to heaven, if my computer would reach the Golden Gate, i would email my dad a ten page email letter, explaining how much i miss him.

@JessicaisinLove he’s not talking to you because you’re taller (?) Is it Roger Rabbit?

I also would like to contact some exes….in my case, there never was a horrible breakup with the two people I would like to connect with….just lost touch.

Honestly, my biggest fear is that they are married/involved and I would not want the drama of some woman in the background being upset…and/or the man just being really cold because he cannot really talk. That sort of thing. One of my close friends contacted an old boyfriend and his (new) wife was on the other phone the whole time, listening. It was very strange.

Hmm…I think it is just a fear of rejection…in the end…one way or another. Where my desire to connect and see how things are….are just rebuffed.

I have always liked remaining friends with my ex-boyfriends…except for maybe two who were not so nice.

I would, but he’s married. I don’t think the Mrs would appreciate that…

I don’t know of any way of contacting my beloved. Other than possibly joining her in death.

@Freedom_Issues…...... yikes…...........how did you know? You have such insight I’m impressed. lol

I miss my old friend Mark. He was one of my very favorite people in the whole world. We kept in touch for a while after he moved out of the area, but eventually lost touch. I have searched him a couple of times online but haven’t ever found him. It bums me right out. This question has motivated me to search for a couple of old friends on facebook, I will share my results!

Neither of us is the person we were. It would be like chasing a ghost.

@JessicaisinLove Haha…it took me a minute though. ;)

Cool, @SuperMouse. My best friend in the formulative years let me down at one point. This wasn’t enough for me to “give up” on him, but then he went and really changed on me. I don’t want to go into detail – but things could never be the same. The problem is… I miss our friendship, and I haven’t been able to re-create it with anyone else.

Hope it goes well for you.

OMG! I just found an old work friend on Facebook and sent a note and friend request! How very, very cool. Thank you @Zen_Again and lurve to you my friend.

Unfortunately the people I miss most are my Father and my Grandparents. They are no longer alive.
When I had lunch with old friends in the past I discovered that you can not go back. We still send holiday cards; but our lives are different. The people I depended on in college don’t always comprehend me anymore. I have accepted that . It is sad but it is reality.
I don’t expect much from them anymore. It is better than being disappointed .

OMG again! I did a facebook search for Mark (for the umpteenth time) and this time a guy came up who looks a lot like my old buddy and who has a friend with the same name as my buddy Mark’s sister! I am keeping my fingers crossed that I am on the verge of reconnecting with two beloved old friends. I wish I could lurve you again @Zen_Again!!!

I’m getting slightly aroused.

You two get a room.^^

Or join me in the FOOD FIGHT THREAD!

@SuperMouse and @Zen_Again…..you two made me laugh!

Good luck SuperMouse….keep us posted!

I’m still in contact with my most resent ex, and miss her so darn much. I hope I get to see her soon – its telling her how I feel that’s risky, not staying in touch generally.

I had a friend who died young, and suddenly. He lived about two and a half hours from me, and we often talked about getting together, but never did. In fact, somehow none of our mutual friends could locate me for a while, and I found out about his death quite late. So I started to I think about the people I don’t have much contact with anymore, and if I had contact information for them I dropped them a line or gave them a call. I reconnected with my childhood best friend that way, and we ended up hanging out together when he had a layover in a town that I was staying in for a week. It was great. Now most of the ones I could find are on Facebook, but I’ve gotten to being a slacker about it again. I was sending Christmas cards, but the last two years I have failed at that.

Those of you for whom this question has stirred up memories, {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Oh, just get in touch with them? If it was that easy I wouldn’t miss them in the first place…

@J0E Actually, there isn’t a “just” to be found in my question, or in the details. Nothing just about it.

lol, with or without the “just”, it means the same thing.

I miss my best friend and boyfriend. We’re trying our best to get in touch with each other. And when we do get in touch, we will be very much “in touch” with each other haha! Don’t mind me…

@J0E This was a serious question. For silly stuff, go to the food fight thread.

I’m sorry if you don’t take my response as serious.

Which response is serious? The first sarcastic one or the LOL one?

Oh, just get in touch with them? If it was that easy I wouldn’t miss them in the first place…

lol, with or without the “just”, it means the same thing.

I wasn’t being sarcastic. Don’t you think if it was as easy as “getting in touch with them” I wouldn’t miss them in the first place?

@J0E Read up. You’ll see that it isn’t easy at all.

My father, Because he died 4 years ago. I hadn’t spoken to him in 9 years. I’ll never get the chance to say goodbye or tell him how much I miss him and love him.

@ All of these individuals who miss people they DON’T get to speak to on AIM, I kind of feel bad about my own sentiment. All the best.

I had a friend that moved out of the country. For a while we’d call and e-mail each other just to catch up and see what was going on in our lives, but she gradually got in touch less and less as she met more people in her new home. She was really quirky and didn’t care what other people thought, or maybe she was just oblivious about it. I guess nothing is keeping us from getting in touch… I think I’ll call her after all. :)

As far as exes, there is one that I would like to talk to. I’m kind of hapless and keep losing phones, so I’ve changed my number a couple times since we were together. I’m pretty sure that he’s the same way, but anyway I don’t even remember his old number. We’d have to just bump into each other. I don’t think I want to get back together, but I’d like to talk to him for a little while. So… closure? Ugh.

We had our class reunion 3 years ago & I was on the committee to find everyone. I found one of my best friends from HS. I emailed her & we mailed back & forth 2–3 times. Then she just stopped. I’ve mailed her several times, but no answer. She’d mentioned in those mails that her husband treats her bad & is abusive. I’m afraid he found out that we were mailing &for some reason, he put the kabosh to it. I worry about her.

I also have a friend on here who I argued with who I miss. I sent a Happy Holidays & a note. Just got a Happy Holidays back. I was hoping that I could open the door to a reconciliation, but sadly to say, it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen. I keep hoping, tho. :-(

@jbfletcherfan Kudos to you for trying to reconcile. I am too stubborn, but if someone reconcilled with me, then I would be open to the gesture.

@chyna Thanks. All’s I can do is try. Some people just hold a grudge, I guess. Not me. Friendship means too much to me. :-/

I have an ex I tried to remain friends with, but he is too jealous of my current. I don’t get in touch because he told me he never wants to see or hear from me again. My plan is to give it a few years for him to move on and find someone new he can love – maybe then he’ll be cool. It’s got nothing to do with pride – I’m just respectful of his wishes.

I have another friend I don’t talk to anymore because I betrayed his trust. He never told me explicitly he doesn’t want to be friends anymore; he simply never responded when I asked him whether we were still friends. So in his case, I don’t contact him because of shame, not pride.

I miss the person my brother-in-law once was, before he ran a few too many chemicals through his system. Then he decided that my husband was the source of all evil in his life. At this point I would be fine with never having any contact w/him again.

There is a person I miss every time I think about him. I’m not sure why we don’t talk as much. We have each others numbers, but don’t call. We have each other on AIM, but don’t say hello. He isn’t online most of the time, but I know his cell number and still don’t text to say hi. He’s moved away now, but when we was here we used to talk, text, IM, and hang out with each other constantly. After he moved, we used to keep in touch a little here and there, but eventually we just lost touch. He’s got his own thing going on, I have mine and we just don’t talk much anymore and haven’t for a while.

I do not want to make everyone sad ; but from bad experience you can not go home again. When you try and fail it hurts a lot. Dreams are sweet but life is never like a good dream. If it is for a day it will not last.

Here’s an update! One was indeed my long lost friend! I am still waiting to hear from the other one! Thank you @New Zen!

Another update! The other one was a long lost friend too! It was who I thought it was and I am soooo glad to have found him! @Zen_Again you are my new hero!

Saw your post on FB. Good for you!

Ah!! that silly Rabbit is elusive. He’s hopping down the bunny trail somewhere.

Always.

I don’t know where the person lives or how to get in touch with them. It’s a secret
like everything else.