How do you set priorities in your life? What is most important to you ?

1. Me
2. Family
3. Friends

having fun and killing time in between having fun

As much as my career, which happens to be my life, is important to me, my family will always be first.
They know that I would drop everything in a heartbeat to be there if they needed me.

My relationship is first. Everything else comes after.

The most important thing is making certain my mother is taken care of.

Myself

Relationship

Family

Friends

1. What we need to live.
This involves shelter, food, warmth. To get these, I need money to pay for them, which means a job. I’m not neglecting my family to do this, since what shelters, feeds, and warms me, also covers my spouse.

2. What I need to feel like I’m living.
This involves time with my sweetie, some level of entertainment, food that is better than ramen noodles, community college classes, and alone time. Since my guy and I feel similarly about these things, again, they mesh together well.

3. What I need to continue living, hopefully well, in the future.
That is, investments, 401k, a full pantry, etc. Again, since we’re both in this together, success here means success for both of us.

4. Taking care of kith and kin.
Once we have our own oxygen masks on, so to speak, we can help put them on the people next to us in the event of a crash. ;) Here we find donations for local charities, gifts for family, friends and neighbors, energy to help people move, that sort of thing.

5. Taking care of everyone and everything else.
Donations for larger charities, random acts of kindness for strangers, being “green” (although we try to fit that in to 1–4), etc.

If I have enough resources to get as deep as #5, I feel like I’m particularly successful. I’m not sure why that would make me neglect my family, though. Generally, the things that help me, would also help my mate.

I follow the Bible to set my Priorities.

My priorities are as follows:

1. God
2. Spouse.
3. Children
4. Job
5. Family
6. Freinds
7. Everyone else.

ditto L Taylor!

maybe, not in that order…family would be before my job…

For the people who put their family before their job, how strong is that really? If you provide for your family, you need a job to help put a roof over their heads and food in their bellies. In a way, having a job is putting your family first.

In what situations would a family come before a job? Like, if your spouse says, “Don’t go in today, honey, I want to have you around the house,” do you not go in, because the family’s wish comes before your boss’ wish to get work done? I really don’t understand this. I show my household that I value them by having a job, whether I like it or not.

@laureth I don’t live with my parents. I’ve been on my own for over 3 years now in an entirely different region of California (about 6–7 hours away). Family is first in a sense that if they ever needed me, I’d drop anything I was doing to come home and be there for them.
Perhaps you’re talking about husbands and wifes, my situations is a little different, but that’s why for me, family and career are in two separate categories.