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How to attract women?

Asked by Fminorpenta (68points) December 24th, 2009 from iPhone

What tips and advice can you give me for attractig women….

I am young fella , 19 who could use some help.

I always act as myself or try best to so none of that horse donkey eh? :D

thanks and merry christmas

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flameboi's avatar

be interesting, cultured, a gentleman… you would not only attract women, you will attract the right one :D

CaptainHarley's avatar

Make yourself into the best “you” you can be. That “you” will attract women who like the person you are becoming. Not only will you attract women, but they will be the sort of women who will love that “you.” : )

Kelly_Obrien's avatar

Have a large bankroll.

RandomMrdan's avatar

being confident in yourself is probably the most important thing. Listening closely to what she says so you can impress her later with your ability to retain minor details….things like that really. Be a gentleman, open doors for women, be proper and so on.

moley_thecontrarydragon's avatar

Be attentive to what they are saying. make comments that show you were interested and listened.
If you cant think of a comment. ask a question.
Always be clean and have clean hands and hair. Good hygiene to many women is more important than good looks.

Zackyy's avatar

Be yourself and don’t be an arrogant asshole by always speaking so highly of yourself.

LeotCol's avatar

Never say horse donkey. And be confident I guess would be a major factor.

pjanaway's avatar

Pheromones.

mrentropy's avatar

Learn all you can about womens clothes and sizes. Recognize what a “cute” pair of shoes look like. Learn about, and talk about, wine.

EdMayhew's avatar

Be unattracted to them.

Fminorpenta's avatar

Lol… I will say horse donkey If I want to!

Futomara's avatar

Get cologne that smells like money!

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Obviously, good manners, and excellent personal hygiene are important. Without that you will get nowhere. Making good eye contact, without intrusive glaring help and smiling makes you approachable. Being observant about what interests a woman you are interested in will make starting a conversation easier. Be confident enough to make an approach but be honest about how you feel doing so can be quite endearing.

When talking to to a women look at her face, not at her chest or down her top, no matter how good or accessible the view. Listen to what she says, listen for her intended message which frequently is less obvious than the surface meaning. Ask questions that encourages her to tell you more about her. Listen for the feelings content of what she says and show empathy by reflecting back what you understand her to be saying. If you get it wrong, show continued interest by asking an appropriate question to clarify your understanding of what she meant.

When asked questions, be honest but tactful. Never speak ill of other people who may turn out to be important to her. If you compliment her, you better mean it and know why you said it. Insincere flattery is a real turn off. If there is something you notice about her that you like tell her.

Above all, relax and enjoy yourself while really being the kind of decent guy you’d like your sister or female cousin to meet.

Best wishes,

Dr. Lawrence

Miles's avatar

@CaptainHarley has the right idea. A lot of the advice about attracting women is mental stuff like “be yourself” or “be confident.” And while those are true, they are vague and they aren’t actions that you can take. If you aren’t already, you should start working out and make sure your clothes are neat and up to date. Make sure you’re always well-groomed and smell all right. Too much cologne is just as bad as body odor. Cultivate interesting hobbies and just get out of the house and do stuff in general. When you’re first meeting a woman, keep the tone light and casual at first. Strike up a normal conversation with her instead of using a line.

mitzi's avatar

Well im 185 and im not pretiest girl out there to be giving you advise on this! But be yourself, confident! GOOD MANNERS< thats very important!!!! Don,t be an ass and uou know stay clean personal hidgen is importan! Well thats asll!!

trumi's avatar

The Naked Man. Works ⅔ times.

Cruiser's avatar

Bathe! Other than that be yourself and NEVER EVER pass up an opportunity!!! Just do it!! If you see a gal that sparks your interest….go talk to her…don’t pass up that opportunity!

Janka's avatar

You attract women, I think, the way that you attract people. Do not try to much so as you look contrived. Try to be interested in and listen to and ask questions about what they say. Talk about things that interest you, because that way your enthusiasm will make them sound interesting, but be careful not to overdo it. Take care of your body so that you are fit, clean, and neat. Cultivate knowledge and wisdom. That sort of stuff.

wundayatta's avatar

Be or become the kind of man that women like. Usually that has to do with character and relationship skills, and it also has to do with attitude and physical skills. Of the two, character is more important for long term relationships, but attitude can get you laid.

Intelligence also helps. Kindness, caring, responsibility, loyal and honorable.

If you are these things, you’ll be attractive to women, although it still can take a while to meet the right woman for you.

Good luck!

tvshowhost's avatar

women from france spain sometimes an onion, bread sticks, goat milk, im from eroupe

jctennis123's avatar

you have to create a lifestyle for yourself that a woman will want to latch onto. For instance, more than just saying funny things you have to be interesting by first leading an interesting lifestyle. Doing things that are ‘cool’ such as being very social, proper hygiene, and such is important. But find some friends who are good with the ladies and watch how natural it is for them.

liliesndaisies's avatar

Personally i would not like a man who talks a lot more than I do.

plethora's avatar

@liliesndaisies Thank you so very much for that remark. I cannot tell you the number of women with whom I have talked wherein my contribution to the conversation is “Hey, how are ya,,,” and “Well, it’s been nice talking to you.:” They drive me crazy. How insane does one have to be to talk endlessly, without even an attempt at conversation, and wonder why there is no interest on my part.

I agree with you. I like a converation that is two way and equal.

plethora's avatar

Become an actor. Not a star, an actor. Not for theatre, but “for the camera”. Take lessons, which are great fun. Get headshots. Get an agent. And get a coach who will guide you. If you live in or near Hollywood or Nashville TN, there are plenty or resources. The cost is not great. Don’t quit your day job because you will never make any money at it. But it is a female magnet.

CookinCasanova's avatar

Here it is, confidence can come from many different places. If you are not the type of guy who can naturally attract women, think about this, do people feel important and improved around you? If so, you’re almost there. If not, then you need find your purpose in life and make it your #1 goal.

Invite her over to your place and cook dinner for her! If you can cook for her, in front of her, it communicates that you can take care of her which is a huge plus in a woman’s mind.

But what to cook, healthy foods are plus plus points and NOT mac ‘n’ cheese from the box! Fish En Papillote! (pronounced uhn pap-ee-yoht) a simple french cooking technique that is possibly the easiest thing in the word to cook, even easier to clean up and sure to impress.

Here’s what you need:

Parchment Paper (available at any grocery store)
2 (two) 6 – 8 ounce pieces of white fish (flounder, cod, tilapia etc…)
1 zucchini sliced
1 small tomato sliced
1 clove of garlic minced (cut really small)
a small handful of spinach
butter
salt and pepper
Optional – ½ cup of white wine

Directions
1) pre heat your oven to 375 degree F

2) roll out enough parchment paper so that when you lay the piece of fish in the middle, there is at least 3 inches of open paper in every direction. Now double the length because you’re going to fold it over to create a pouch

2) take the fish off the paper and season each one with a good pinch of salt and pepper

3) place half of the handful of spinach inside one of the halves of parchment paper

4) lay enough slices of the zucchini down on top of the spinach so that the fish can rest on it.

5) lay the fish on top of the zucchini

6) sprinkle some of the minced garlic on each piece of fish

7) rest 1 or 2 small pats of butter on top of the piece of fish

8) lay 2–3 tomato slices on top

9) Fold the parchment paper around the edges tightly in ¼-inch folds to create a half moon shape. Make sure to press as you crimp down and fold. The packet needs to be sealed well so the steam doesn’t escape

10) if you want, before making the last few folds pour ¼ cup of wine in each pouch.

11) place the pouches on a baking sheet and put in the oven, center rack for 12 minutes depending on how thick the cuts of fish are.

12) take pouches out of the oven, the tops of the pouches should be a brownish color

13) put each pouch on a plate and cut open the top and boom goes the dynamite! (yeah I went there) You now have a full meal with next to no clean up!

a few suggestions – First off, clean up your place before she comes over (especially the bathroom!). Second, serve with a chilled white wine. Third, make sure you have some art, photos, books etc… that show who you are and your interests. This will give you things to talk about. Fourth, if you like this recipe and you’d like to know more, I run a website that is dedicated to teaching single guys how to become more evolved men and make meeting, attracting and keeping women much easier. And yes, cooking is a huge part of it.

Hope this helps!

-Scotty G

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