Is this otherwise good person, who is a compulsive liar worth it?

If it’s her fault or not. she cannot be trusted.

If you love her, get her help.

We do not get to decide other people’s worth. That will not help.

You are in for a world of hurt.

She sounds like the kind of person who is most in need of help.

I do not know of any way to judge the moral worth of someone.

You say that you are in a position to help her… is that by involving professionals or working with her yourself?

If it is working with her yourself, do you know enough of what you are doing to help her? If so, are you willing to put out the effort for the long haul? It sounds like this is a serious problem for her and helping her through it would be difficult.

I would think it is up to you to determine how much you care for her in order to make your decision.

If you decide yes, I would heartily suggest you read up on compulsive lying and other factitious disorders so you know best what to do.

Another question is “does she want help?” You cannot force someone to take help who does not want it.

Good point @Arisztid Offer her help.

Lurve.

More information please. What is your relationship? Is there a back story?

It might be worthwhile to understand why you took an interest in helping this neighbor.

*How did she come to your attention?

*Did she ask for assistance?

*Can you describe the instance where you felt blackmail was necessary?

*How are you in a position to help your neighbor?

You can offer her help, or refer her to places or people who can give that help, but you cannot make her accept that help. Personally I would keep in good standing with her as she is your neighbor, but don’t get overly involved in her life. It could end up being a whirlpool that sucks you down into an ocean of complications.

I’m about 2 levels removed from her, emotionaly and mentally. No troubles for me. But it bothers me that she cannot live a “proper” life. No I can do no more, I have no authority. All I offer is a bit of kindness, no more, no less, thanks for all the intelligent responses. Multi Tool

Who is to say what is a “proper life”? Perhaps she likes hers just as it is. As long as she pays her bills, takes care of herself and her property, and doesn’t break the law, she should be good to go.

If she has asked you for help, you can offer or refer. Otherwise, a little kindness is all we owe any neighbor.

There sounds like we are missing several bits of information here…..

Whatever you do ; just be sure that you can look yourself in the mirror n the mornings…. and you’ll be ok….

Maybe she makes up the “Stories” because she wants ATTENTION… and that is the ONLY way she THINKS she can get it… ?

People continue to do what works for them. Until such time as this behavior becomes a sufficient liability for her to want to do otherwise, it’s highly unlikely she will want to change.

Obviously this type of behavior would not be workable for you as is your right. But as long as she is not trying to change you into doing as she does, you basically have no right to impose your way of doing things upon her.

I find your tactic of blackmail a bit troubling, but that’s between you and your conscience.

The bottom line here, as in life, the only person you control is you.

From what you have described, her behavior is only destructive toward her own self and until she comes to that realization, there is no motive for change.

Perhaps that day will come, perhaps not. Let it be and just be a neighbor to her and don’t extend yourself to her beyond what you feel you can handle.

Yeah start inventing your own fantasy world and join her adventure.