Would it be a deal breaker to date a drop dead gorgious person, but one that is shallow?

Yes, that is personally why I’ve never dated anyone in Los Angeles which is where I live.

No no…shallow is fine, too. You must often wade through the shallow to get to the deep.

For sex, sure. But to form a relation with such a person would be impossible.

Yes. In thirty years they won’t be so ‘drop dead gorgeous’ then what will they have? I’ll take someone with substance any day.

What we must be aware of is that the 2 aren’t mutually exclusive… (AHEM)

The deal breaker would be if the person was gorgEOUS

A lack of a pulse.

Looks are not all that important to me. I actually prefer a guy who is out of shape. I don’t like guys with 6-packs. And I could never date anyone shallow. So them being shallow and “gorgeous” would be the deal breakers

It would be a deal breaker for me. It’s a turn-off to be shallow like that. I’ve known people like this too. Maybe not drop dead, but pretty good looking. They just came off to me as shallow. Of course, they were straight, but you know…

@gemiwing The problem would manifest after two months not 30 years.

I would never consider dating someone who was shallow, no matter what they looked like or how much money they made. I find people like that repulsive.

@Tomfafa My point was, there wouldn’t be enough there for me to consider a long-term relationship. Therefore, I wouldn’t be interested.

Yep, that would do it for me, Tomfafa. I’d rather date a person who is (to me) butt ugly than a person with whom I shared no core values. I can’t do shallow. I suck at it.

Naw, I’d suffer through it. LOL

Yes, because I’m drop dead gorgeous and not shallow at all.

@Pretty_Lilly He’s talking about people who are gorgeous and shallow. There’s a difference.

Thanks, V! I was going to point that out, then decided…...meh.

@phillis I started to write you back, and then I realised you were talking to a different “V”! lol

HA! I call her “V”, but I call you “Vi” :)

I surely hope not; otherwise, nobody will ever date me.

I knew this girl, she was the girlfriend of a friend of mine some years back, SHE was drop-dead georgous with a body to die for, she was more shallow than a centimetre of rainwater, All she cared about was how SHE looked, how SHE felt, how things affected HER, She was actually quite ugly inside. After a while, the ugly was all I could see and my friend eventually saw the light too.
I suppose to answer your question it would depend on you, what do you get out of the relationship? are you a little shallow too and enjoy having a drop dead georgous person with you? Do you feel like they are using you? I’m guessing the fact you’ve asked the question that it’s already an issue…...............maybe?
In my experience, (as great as it would be) Beauty outside doesnt mean beauty inside, I like a girl who is pretty, who KNOWS she is pretty and has that air of confidence about her without it becoming an all consuming thing for her, you know?
I know some people (girls and boys) who are nothing much to look at in terms of looks, but thier inner beauty shines through and after 5 mins with them, all you see is a lovely person.
(sorry, I waffled a wee bit there. lol)
So I’m gonna say….......yes, unless YOu are getting as much out of it as they are!

http://despair.com/beauty.html

@proXXi You must be a knock-out then :D j/k

It would be for me. My wife isn’t a super-model (not ugly, just not world-class photogenic) but her real beauty is in her personality. She is far from shallow and that makes her more beautiful than any flash-in-the-pan airbrushed sex symbol.

Well, that and the fact that she’s a good lay ;)

I’m glad I’m not your wife @jerv – I would be offended by that.

@Zen_Again Part of her charm is that she isn’t shallow. Now if I could only convince her that she is better-looking than she thinks she is…

I would love for my boyfriend to say I was a good lay!

I’d be happy for anyone to say that to me! lol

That would be nice!

@phillis @Violet You guys want your boyfriend to say you are a good lay!? Well… if you need another judge… you know where I am…

Yeah, you girls know where I am too. BAHAHAHA.

HAHAHAHAHA!!! That was…..awesome, Tom! I loved it :)

@Tomfafa lol, sigh… you know I could never cheat on my boyfriend. But I will let you knew if we ever break up (but that is highly unlikely)

@Violet My dear Vi… you think if you didn’t have a bf I would have the balls to flirt so aggressively? Maybe… I have to wear a different personality to flirt… sometimes elvis but most usually bond… james bond.

You can flirt with me all you want, Tom. I’m safe, and won’t get all mental with it.

Thank you phillis! Your brother is ok with that?

For me it would. Not so much because they are shallow, but because I am. I’m so shallow that if the conversation kept getting drug back to the topic of eye cream, latest fashion trends, cosmetic surgery, I wouldn’t be equipped with any information nor the umph to fake it.

How much do you enjoy being bored?

Yes, it is.

If you wont, i will.

Nah. I have no attraction to people like that. Also, they’re usually not too bright which is another dealbreaker for me.

Considering I pay close attention to style and what I wear anyway, if she wants to nitpick and make sure both her and I look our best, I wouldn’t mind.

If that’s what you mean by shallow, then sure, I could survive.

Well, if shallow means what Gris is talking about… I actually
prefer that. I pride myself in dressing well and love the look of a gentleman.

So… Del… what are you, uh, doing this Saturday?

My wife is probably the least well educated woman I dated, but that is because she is deaf, and had trouble learning a lot of things we take for granted.
She is also far more beautiful than any other woman I dated, though that isn’t why I married her.
I married her because she has an inner kindness like no one I ever met, and has less bullshit in her than anyone I know.

I agree with @Grisaille. I’d rather date someone overly concerned with their appearance than someone who didn’t care at all. We wouldn’t mesh.

(having skipped all the other answers): asking this question indicates shallowness, so go for the shallow, it’ll be fine.

Like @Facade, I’d rather date someone more fussy than not concerned at all but more than that, I’d weigh what all else about this person you enjoy versus this shallow emphasis they have on the way the both of you dress. Trust me, finding a great person is about so many facets of them that in time you may not care about the dressing thing. So many times we look at couples and ask, “what on earth does he/she see in them?!” Maybe we’re distracted at the initial easy quirks and annoyances not seeing other qualities. Check it out a bit before cutting loose, you never know.

@Grisaille It depends, how do you feel about girls who don’t wear pants?

…not even skinny jeans with a pair of nice heels?

@Tomfafa is that you in your avatar?

Sorry, no. I am a skirts and dresses kind of girl. It just works well for my figure.

I can deal. Issue was the woman in question focusing on the man’s appearance anyway, right?

Hope you can deal with my impeccable taste in suits.

8 PM work for you?

I like the night. Let’s make it 9:00 and if you’re lucky it’ll end much later.

I like men and suits. I really like men and suits. That is so worth it. Taking the suits off is the best part.

I’ll tell you what.

8:30 and I wear a shirt I don’t really care about so you can tear it off, ripping the buttons if you wish. I’ll even let you wear it to sleep.

What’s going on in here?!

The boy knows how to make a good bargain. Deal. Bring it on.

ewww…get a room please!?