When is a relationship moving "too fast?"?

When you start one.

…i agree with you Haroot…whatever feels right!

agreed

I think your question, rather your reasoning, is astute enough that it doesn’t warrant discussion. Whatever feels natural. Nail on the head.

@Haroot Ditto the “I agree with Haroot“s.

I think that, if there is a feeling of pressure or of doubt, slow it down. If those are not present, go for it.

I agree with you. There is no magical “right time” for kissing, sex, or saying I love you. The right time is different for every person. When all parties involved feel comfortable, then everything is okay.

I guess you could say that my wife and i came from the “old school”. we did not kiss each other until the third date. we both took our time and got to know each other. as each day passed, we both discovered that we had many things in common. the same foods, the same music, the same likes and dislikes. i believe our greatest discovery about each other was that we lived only two miles from each other! after about three months of dating each other, we both fell in love. don’t ask me how i knew she was the one, i just knew it. we dated for three more months and things were just about “to get out of control” for both of us. i really did not have to ask my wife to marry me, she knew it, too. we both went to a really nice jewelry store and she selected her engagement ring. we are still married today. like i said, we are from the old school and we took our time to get to know each other. i knew i wanted to be with her and she felt the same way and we are still having a great life together. each couple is different and our dating back then may be entirely different today. some things in life, should never change.

It’s moving too fast when at one moment you smile or wink at a girl and the very next she has your cock in her hand or has a grip on your package belowLOL!
That’s when you know you’d betta ‘hold up right here’!! ;)

There is no timescale to these things. Best be spontaneous, go with the flow & if it feels right then let the relationship evolve.

You’ll know it’s moving too fast when you’re flying down the highway to get her home before midnight and you lose control, jump a curb and knock the stinkin’ oil pan off your car. That’s way toooooo fast.

Well, obviously you have to wait until you get married before any physical contact will be involved. That’s just plain decency.

@john65pennington On the other hand, I don’t think that if a couple moves fast sexually that it means that they’re not getting to know each other in other ways…some people can just handle a lot of information quickly

If it’s a relationship, you need to get to know each other. I tend to start things really fast (the kiss the first time, in bed the second model) then later discover that I don’t actually like the person much. I always vow the next time to wait but that never seems to happen, then I’m stuck. Basically if I’m sleeping with someone I’m not overwhelmed with feelings for, it’s still better than not sleeping with anyone, so I’m not likely to break it off.

Exactly what you said….

It’s only moving too fast if one person in the couple feels uncomfortable with the pace at which it’s moving…

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. What feels “right” and what actually is are 2 different things. Back in the dinosaur days you had to put work in, you rarely got to boink a girl less than 8 weeks (and that was rather fast), you usually had to put in about 6 months work.

Say 2 people meet and it “felt right” to hop in the sack the 1st night. You can’t go the next date and just have coffee and a walk because it would seem like a step back given the media and societies believe of its (sex) importance on the relationship. It would seem that once sex is played and not played it because one or both seen less in the other person to the point of not wanting to boink them anymore. And what if in the “feels right” heat of passion no one used protection? Then you have kid on the way but 8 days later because they never got below the foam on top of the relationship they discover they are not a fit. Now there is a problem.

A lot of people confuse the heck out of boinking (lust) and love. They feel if they boinked someone or would, that is a person they love. You should only say you love someone if you can genuinely say that you wish their tomorrows to be better than their yesterdays, and that you’d go hungry that they might be fed, you’d sleep on cold wet ground that they be dry and warm, you would take 100 lashes to the back that they suffer not a scratch. Until you can give yourself over to them and live for their safety and comfort without expecting anything back, then you really love them.

Unless you know 60% about them that on one knows other then their very best friend (if at that) it is too early to go boinking, and you don’t go for swapping spit. What time is the right time? It is hard to say that, but there is definitely a wrong time and one of those is a sheet call the 1st night.

Ifwe are to speak in GENUINE “right times”, it is not until you are so genuine and serious with one another that you have publicly declared your ‘togetherness’ and commitment to each other before the world in formal “marriage”.
Once you have made that physical move, you are ready for the next Physical move – to physically seal your claim with your own blood in bedLOL!

@Hypocrisy_Central lurve for that! well put!