Ladies, what is it like to have "the girls"?

You can never hide when you’re cold. Trying to find the right combo bra/tshirt to keep everyone within a mile radius from locating your nipples within a nanosecond.

They get in the way more than not. I dare you to reach behind the couch to get something from the floor without cursing your large breasts. Can’t be done.

Trying to find the right bra. Years of trial and error. You’ll find the right one- then they will discontinue it in a week. They know

Nothing feels better than a good breast massage. Wanna give your woman a break? Hold her breasts for five seconds. Sheer bliss I tell you.

Wearing lace bras chafe. And I do mean Chafe. Yowch!

I love my girls. They’re not too big, not too small…they only hurt about a week before I start my period, and my pain is the entire breast, not the nipple.

The only other times I don’t love having the girls hanging around, is when the underwire breaks, while I’m at work….Not a happy feeling.

I don’t know what to say – I have them, they breasfed babies, they’ve been pierced, they feel nice to massage, etc. They’re pretty big, in my case, so I must wear a bra, which I hate.

I’ve had 36C’s since I was 12. I used to hate my breasts. I don’t think I even started liking them until I was in my early 20’s. Then I loved them. My breasts were quite nice through my 20’s.

Now, I don’t even think about them much or even notice them most of the time, except of course when they get in the way.

I hate bras. As soon as I get home it’s off, and usually on the couch.

There’s nothing more frustrating than going to pick up your little one at the city park to give him a good snuggle, and he rips your shirt halfway off, instinctively looking for some milk.

Just sayin’.

Uh, I kind of hated my boobs, so I had a reduction surgery. They grew back 32DDD or E bras and now they have those ugly scars and partial numbness Which almost completely derailed sex for me. Now I kinda hate that I had the surgery. But the shape is better than it was. I guess I can’t really complain. I just wish they worked properly lol. Someday…

They’re like two perky girlfriends that won’t shut up!

I like them. A few years ago a quit wearing bras except when I have to. Mine are just B’s so they don’t require constant support. As a result I’ve gotten accustomed to the natural shape and movement of my boobs and it seems strange to me when I wear a bra. When I wear a bra they lose their natural curve and they don’t move at all. That’s just weird. Very unbooblike.

@Facade I’m sorry about your boobs, that sounds awful.

@fundevogel It could be worse, and they’re getting better with the numbness so, I see the light!! :P

@Facade Good, I hope they make a full recovery.

@Facade I’ve thought about having reduction surgery. Numbness is what I’m really worried about.

@fundevogel Thank you :)
@gemiwing Well, my surgeon told me that it (the numbness) would go away completely after a few months. I had it done in July of 2008, and I’m just now beginning to see improvement. Some people are hypersensitive after, and have to work their way back down to a normal sensitivity level. So, It’s unpredictable.

@Facade what do you mean ‘they grew back’? sorry that happened – i’d think that surgery would do what it’s supposed to do

I clearly remember when I started developing…they started throwing me off balance when I was running or climbing trees. As an athlete (used to be) they were not an asset at all.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Well, they were smaller right after. They were “high and tight” as the surgeons say. When they begin to drop (fall into place), I guess that’s when they grew back. I don’t really know for sure. But I do know that he took out breast tissue, and now the size is as though he did nothing. But I’m told they look smaller than they used to so…It’s weird.

@Val123 Omg, yes. I was trying to do gymnastics with C cups when I was 12. Lol, I quit soon after.

Mine aren’t big enough to get in the way which is nice. They’re somewhere between a 34 B and a 34 C and are… great. I really like them in terms of shape and size. I’ve been known to get drunk and brag about them actually… So embarrassing in the morning. They’re also the main reason I’d be nervous to get pregnant, I don’t want them to get massive and then shrink down again and be all saggy! I would cry. Don’t care about my tummy getting all saggy, just my breasts. Haha.

Ah ladies, wait for the day when they start heading toward the equator, alas. It means trying to use a bra designed to hold a peach, to encase a lava flow.

@fireinthepriory I’m a tad bit bigger than you in the funbags department. My girlfriend likes the fact that they’re a bit smaller than hers. She has some bigguns’. :) They’ve kept their shape and are still rather perky. I’m thinking that when I hit 40, though, they’re be heading down south.

@galileogirl hahaha!

@jmah Ahhh I’m so afraid of the inevitable sag!! So afraid.

@fireinthepriory and @jmah Not necessarily. Mine haven’t, and I’m 50. But, I also exercise.

Once mine start actually sagging because yanno, there some droop when you’re well endowed, I’ll probably just get a lift. I have no problem having cosmetic surgery in a heartbeat lol

@Facade I’m vain enough that I might do it if they really go south. Haha. It’s my worst flaw. And it’s just regarding my tits! I’m a size 12 and don’t give a damn in fact I think I look pretty hot despite my chub. But saggy boobs? HELL to the no!

@fireinthepriory [high five]

@Facade if it comes to that I might do the same.

I draw the line at hard or over stuffed implants. My mom has some. It looks ridiculous and it feels worse. I’m certain the hardness alone would take all of the fun out of boobs.

Mine are just little girls but I’ve always had fun with them-nice and responsive. I only wear a bra if it’s a summer top that will show nips if I’m out or for a little warmth in winter. they not quite so perky anymore but still don’t sag, at 55 if I stand up straight

@fundevogel Yea, so do I. I HATE breast implants. HATE. During my intermittent bisexual-ness (lol) I like a full-breasted gal. Saggy or not. Natural is always better.

Mine are naturally very large and I for one love them. No, I can’t bend over the couch, but that’s really the only place they get in the way. They’re soft, they give me confidence, I love to catch guys looking at them. They’re perfect. I agree with @gemiwing – lace bras are absolutely foolish. And finding the perfect bra can be hard to do, but once you have it, you feel like you can take on the world.

Natural breasts are beautiful. I can’t get into fake. Present day porn, the ladies and their fake breasts, it does nothing for me. Give me large, or small (perky) and au natural and I’m a happy girl.

@jmah Right on!

Did anyone mention underwires? I have tried them several times when a new and improved version has come out. How does a rigid piece of plastic manage to turn into a corkscrew. One time within half an hour I was in the bathroom cutting holes in a bra. This is why we end up wearing twin sets, jackets and sweaters all the time.

I can’t believe I’m the only one that mentioned breastfeeding.

I mean… that’s what they’re really there for, right?

@galileogirl I never understood people’s issues with underwire. Unless the bra’s cheap, there shouldn’t be an issue. I bought a bra from Target in an attempt to be frugal and 1) it didn’t fit properly, 2) the underwire broke. Learned my lesson.

Big Girls Can’t Jump.
@Facade Underwire definitely doesn’t work for me, either. I don’t understand the logic behind them….

I’ve done the push-up bra, to create the illusion that the ladies are bigger ( they look so much nicer with a dress on; showing a bit of cleavage) and the underwire was uncomfortable.

I can get by without the underwire. Actually, I can get by without a bra period, but, for me, it feels better when I have one on.

I have to have an underwire. It just needs to be of a high quality. I would honestly love to wear a corset instead of a bra. The ultimate support and they’re really comfortable to me. I would worry about that moving me into ‘freak’ territory though… I just realized how silly that sounds. Didn’t know I was so self-defeating.Huh.

I’m a 34 D. I really miss my days of being a C cup. I didn’t really have to think about my breasts because they weren’t big enough to be in the way, and I could still go without a bra sometimes. Not anymore. I also had a bunch of shirts with an empire waist that I had to give away because the top didn’t fit anymore, and it was really obvious. I don’t like wearing low-cut shirts anymore because they’re just too damn big. Ughhhh. I’m sure I’ll get used to it eventually. This is a pretty recent “development.”

I’ll be honest. I almost cried when I read this ”they only hurt about a week before I start my period”. The pain and the use of “only” as if one should expect pain to last more than a week.

slips back into the shadows of this thread.

Can I just speak out of turn, it’s never stopped me before. I worship at the alter of the firm pert female breast. There got that off my chest. Carry on “girls.”

@gemiwing You could probably wear a bustier if you want something more corset-like but without the corset associations.

My biggest problem is that my breasts aren’t shaped “normally”.

Most girls have apples, or oranges, or melons… I have potatoes.

It’s called “tuberous breast deformity” by plastic surgeons who want everyone with breasts like mine to have them “fixed”. (imo, they work perfectly. Just ask my son.)

The worst part about it is, there is not a single bra on the planet that fits me properly. If you need an idea – the top of the breast is completely normal, but there’s no fatty tissue “underneath” the nipple. It’s like you sliced a normal breast in half. That’s my breasts. Bras just don’t work, but I can’t get away with not wearing one, either. It’s such a pain in the tookus.

I should have mentioned breast feeding! The knowledge that my little boobs were keeping a little human alive was such a joy and the closeness irreplaceable. I was a good little Jersey. OH, and I love underwires-nice tight ones. Then I can haul all the boob under my arm in there!!!

I hope you ladies don’t mind, I’m just gonna hang out here for a while.

:)

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities LOL!

@jmah You seem to know a lot about boobs from reading your question.

We could be experts. Maybe.

@fundevogel I like the look of them but they’re not as supportive. It’s so difficult to find ones with good solid support and boning. If you find some let me know!

@gemiwing Bare Necessities is where I purchase mine. I love Chantelle and Elle McPhearson. Both brands use great boning and support.

@HumourMe Well, yeah, having two X chromosomes, I know a thing or two about boobage.

Actually, I’m more of a butt girl.

I’ll admit that I use mine to my advantage. But finding cute DD bras is really hard, and finding clothes that fit my shape is harder. It’s practically impossible to find a button up or zip up jacket that fits all the way up that isn’t a tent.
I’ve been told that the firmness is perfect, so I appreciate that. They’re still however more trouble than they’re worth, even though they’re my best feature.

You can’t run with them, or jump. Things escape in to cleavage quite often. They’re an annoying shelf, much of the time. But they’re capable of hypnotizing boys, which is almost worth the trouble.

I’m “known” for my sexy cleavage and I must say, at the age of 43: they are still quite nice, and after 2 hungry kids.

My grandmother told all of us a long time ago, sleep in your bra and they’ll never sag. Now, it’s uncomfortable as he’ll and harder to do as I’ve gotten older: but the girls and I are still hanging-pun intended.

@Seek_Kolinahr that’s great that breast feeding went well. Women with tubular breasts are a bit more likely to have milk supply problems.

@fundevogel ; My Wife enjoys not wearing a Bra until i find out being small (34 A) but when her period is happening she has to wear one because she swells to a B Cup. Most of the time she wears a Bra because one of the first things I asked her to do when we first met 15+ years ago is “Wear a Bra if my hands aren’t holding them, there shape will be nice for a long time!”... Now after 15 years they look the Same because even small breasts need support!

I always thought it would be great to have inflatable ones. Keep them relatively flat and deflated most of the time, and pump them up when you want to attract attention, hehehe!

@Facade – I am not that big but I like the elle underwires too, very comfortable.

@MagsRags

I did have a lot of difficulty in the beginning – it took five days for the milk to come in, and then I had short supply for a while. Fortunately, I was blessed with a big baby (10½ lbs!) and he had some extra chunk to help him through the hard time.

My biggest piece of advice for nursing moms – throw out any formula the hospital gives you. Don’t even let it sit there and tempt you!

@MagsRags ; Agreed! Feeding baby with Your Juice is much better, pass on those vitamins and resistance to H1N1…

I’ve smacked myself in the face before going down stairs. Boobs kinda suck.

BOOBIES!

You know, plenty of men could have answered this question, as well. I’m not sure men call them “the girls”, though.

True! there are some Men that work out that might have some Hard B Cups of there own!

I appreciate all the answers from all the women who shared their experiences.
I have always appreciated breasts, regardless of size or shape.

I have always appreciated women and for just for their breasts or other anatomical features.

I had huge boobs as an adolescent and people used to constantly ask me if they were real (they looked absurd on a 13 year old girl). They reduced in size as I aged and became almost nothing by 22 (I was a little underweight around that time and felt very unattractive having no cleavage or boobs).

I have put on 6 kilos and now have a C cup bra (with the little push up bits). My partner loves them, I love them… YAY. I don’t get tender breasts before periods and being on the smaller side than some of the boobs mentioned, they don’t tend to get in the way either.

Unfortunately, for some reason, I don’t have sensitivity in the nipples though.

Ooh, lucky you for not having tenderness. I have TONS of tenderness for at least two of the weeks (the week before and the week during) but it then feels amaaaazing to have them squeezed.

I have ultra sensitive nipples. Just… in general.

@phil196662 I’m don’t think going braless is going to turn me into a Saggy Suzy. My boobs aren’t heavy at all and they don’t change size unless I lose too much weight so the skin isn’t being stressed at all. Plus the thing about bras preventing sag seems like it might be an old wives tale or specific to boobs bigger and heavier than mine.

It doesn’t seem like there is really any firm evidence to support that bras as a rule prevent sagging though some studies suggest they may speed it up. Clearly this is a matter that needs far more research and government funding.

Also my boobs get achy if I wrap them up all day. They just want to be free.

i think this thread is missing one important thing: pictures.

@fundevogel I agree. You can’t fight gravity forever. Breasts are not supposed to look like the perfectly round balls we see in the media.

@eponymoushipster You perv

I totally have a love hate relationship with my boobs.

First, prior to having kids I never really thought much of them. They were full size B’s, which were sort of big on my body frame. Then they got to full C’s when pregnant/nursing, and I was unable to really nurse..and they shrunk. I mean, they really really shrunk. I had no clue that even happened. I was quite self conscious because I felt it took something away from me..and my husband. So, I hated them.
Now, I’m pregnant again and loving the fullness. They don’t hurt much this time around, and my nipples aren’t really sensitive. They weren’t painful while nursing either.

Mine rarely hurt during my period, so that was never an issue either.

I’ll say this though, the….texture or feel whatever it is, definitely changed since having kids. They used to feel like normal boobs and after kids they feel…flatter. Like, different inside. I dunno. I don’t think I’d ever get implants, but I’d definitely do a lift if I need it one day. Probably in 15 years.

Please note

I meant to write: I have always appreciated women and NOT for just for their breasts or other anatomical features.

I have DDs. They’re really annoying. But overall, what I dislike the most is that they act like a shelf and I get stuff on my boobs all the time. I can’t drop something into my lap when eating, it goes straight to the boobs. Where the fact that I managed to drop something on my boobs is rather obvious. :P Not to mention the things that fall into cleavage when there’s anything low cut on.

The best thing about my boobs… I hold kids and they pass right out. If a baby of my acquaintance is fussy, just let them rest their little heads on the magic boobies and they’re O-U-T.

@fireinthepriory Just so you know, it’s the pregnancy itself that can cause “sagging” if it’ll even happen. Breastfeeding has nothing to do with it, so don’t let that deter you from breastfeeding. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to do!
Also, I’m on my second kid and mine don’t sag. They do feel different but they are still boobs and still look fantastic.

@casheroo Good to know that they don’t always sag after pregnancy! And if I were to get pregnant I’d breastfeed. It’s so ridiculously healthier for the baby I’d never be able to justify not doing it, even if that was what made them sag. But I’m still selfishly hoping to marry a chick who’s into getting pregnant. Or adoption!

@Sarcasm That would be because that’s the “only” time I’m bothered by them…and then, it’s for a very short time.

@tinyfaery Congratulations, you’ve officially scarred me for life with that picture.

@fundevogel ; Agree, But the wife say’s it feels like my Hands are On Them all the time and she misses to squeezing but actually Loves wearing a Bra. Happy I want her to because she works out and is Very Toned, a Bra is also a Crop and often she wants to change her clothing layers and doesn’t have to worry about stripping in public. Just pull it off- Crop top underneath and six pack (she’s 5’ 4” so She’s a 4 pk!) and don’t worry about flashing those perky peaks! Nothing more of a Turn-On then a Woman that is 47 and not afraid to strip it off and not mind Gaukers! Just makes her More turned-on…And ME Too!

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities Glad I could be of service.

@phil196662 It sounds like she knows what she likes and what works for her. That’s never a bad thing.

Does anyone ever just get a random boob pain? I just did… Like a cramp in one of the girls?

@avvooooooo The only time my boobs ever felt pained or uncomfortable was some days after I’d been in a snug bra for too long. I did once get a cramp in the muscle below the boob though. That was seriously weird and not fun, but ultimately the result of several variables unlikely to align again.

@fundevogel ; She does, But i got her good on her 40th with an Athletic top with Lithographed Hands (Actually a copy of Mine!) on each Boob and it says “Great hands deliver Extra Support”...

@phil196662 nice.

This is too much! LOL! @avvooooooo I hope you didn’t give yourself a black eye coming down the stairs!

@fundevogel ; I am Still trying to remember the Actress that had a top like that…

@avvooooooo

Yes… but it was my son biting me. Damned teething…

I’m not a doctor….But I’m willing to take a look!

The only thing I don’t really like about mine is a birthmark I have on my right boob. (Bythebay actually named my boobs Polka and Dot because of this. Dot being the one with the birthmark.) The birthmark isn’t covered by a bra and some low cut shirts still show it.
Overall, I think my boobs are okay though. I’m fine with being a 36C. They’re a decent size and bras in that size are pretty much everywhere. I have soo many choices when it comes to bras and have no trouble finding cute ones, unlike some of you other ladies have mentioned.
I agree with what @jmah said, it’s nice to come home and take off your bra after having it on all day. When I’m around the house I usually don’t wear one unless people are over and I definitely don’t sleep in one (yes, I know a girl who does this).
Plus, boobs come in handy when you want to distract guys. My friends and I have won games with our “girls.” (Think Phoebe in Friends.)

I think I’m the only girl on Fluther at least That doesn’t get all excited to take off my bra. I leave mine on pretty much all the time, except when showering. I even sleep with it on. I don’t know why. I think it’s me being lazy. lol

@Allie – yes… remember the episode of Pheebs! lol my fav is Pheebs running through the park wildly flailing her arm Exercising.

@casheroo – I feel similarly. Supported when wearing a bra (even though my “girls” are not all that large at all). I don’t sleep with a bra but don’t like walking around and carrying out my day without one on.

I hate the feeling of my shirt rubbing my boobies when walking.

Kinda gets things chaffed @Rachienz and keeps thing in check when your buying produce low to the floor!

@avvooooooo I get random sharp pains in them, no cramps (I’d imagine there’d have to be muscles in them for there to be true cramps, but I’m not sure if there are muscles there).

I love my girls. I play (not sexually) with them more than my husband does, and thus call them my fun bags. :P

Your description is pretty accurate of what its like. I hate bras, and I hate shopping for them even more. I wear a size 30 band, and have bras that range from 30 C to 30 DD (depends on the manufacturer), so it is incredibly difficult to find bras, and then find ones I like, and then find them at an affordable price. I got stuck with a bunch of lace ones last time. I’ve learned to never buy lace bras ever again.

I am still getting used to having pregnant lady breasts. It’s like going through puberty a second time. Only one of my bras still fits. The other ones—well it’s like trying to stuff a grapefruit in a tea cup. And the bra that does fit—well, stuff is starting to poke through and I have to wear sweaters to hide it. I think I’m going to have to start shopping for the nursing bras soon—and I’m only in the first trimester.

I have no freaking clue how big these suckers are going to get. I fear that come October, they will be dragging on the floor at the rate they are going.

They are very very tender and sensitive. Sometimes thats fun—but most of the time it just hurts. But no matter what they are fun to look at. I’ve never had much of a “rack” before. I feel like I got a free boob job.

@keobooks Lol, I know the feeling. I’ve never been pregnant, but I went down to a size B – C on a certain birth control, and when I got off it, not only did I have a period for the first time in a while, but they grew to normal + swelled from the period, then my new birth control has increased boob size as a side effect. I wasn’t off birth control long enough to know what my normal size is, though, so I don’t know if I’m reaping the rewards of the side effect or not. I guessed the super fast growth is what made them so sensitive. But yeah, I enjoyed the ‘free boob job’. My husband was good with being gentle with them, but he always forgot about it when he went to give me a hug.