How do you keep a relationship alive and exciting?

Lol this thread is definitely gonna get interesting. Id say stroke our egos as much as you can :).

Surprise each other!

Walk around naked all the time.

After one is in a relationship for a while it’s important to actively look for those things that drew you to the other person. Yes, they leave dirty socks everywhere now and you have a habit that bugs the crap out of them too. Don’t dwell on those things because they were there before- you just didn’t notice them.

Choose where to put your attention. Your partner still has that same smile, they can give you that same look and you can do the same to them.

@gemiwing That’s sweet, thanks. We have only been together 2 and a half years, but I don’t want him to start looking elsewhere. I think I do ok for him, just really looking for male opinions on what would keep them.

Good music, good walks, good food, good drink, great sex and lots of Pop Rocks and blind folds to help keep the sex great.

@Cruiser We have all that. I do anything he wants, just don’t know hot to stop temptation. He says it won’t happen, but aren’t men easily bored?

Boys are easily bored, Men aren’t. If he says he won’t stray and isn’t showing signs of wanting to- then it’s almost a bit rude to think he will. It’s almost like calling him a liar.

@gemiwing He says he won’t and isn’t showing any signs. I guess I’m just being insecure.

BDSM

@ChazMaz What’s that mean?

@Dibley: BDSM (It is the Wikipedia article—fairly safe for looking at if you stay near the top, but it is a sexual topic, so some of it is NSFW.

ummmm..by always being in the moment! Give her/him your undiviided attention when you are with them! Bottomline, be a good listener! Hear their problems and act on them. Be proactive, not passive!

@Dibley good question my friend!

@Dibley I say this over and over and from experience, if you are not happy with your self and your life, it makes it all the more difficult for your SO to maintain their interest in you. All the good food, drink, sex etc. will never overcome discontentment or disenchantment in ones life. Which is IMO why the divorce rate is so high.

Someone recently told me how life is too short to settle for less on almost any part of your life. Ideological perhaps, but IMO a worthy element to have of anyone’s life strategy. And of course it helps even more to have an SO that shares your hopes, dreams and desires.

Learn together. My boyfriend and I read to each other and discover something new about each other every day. Mailing letters will express your devotion and care. Just plain listening in vital.

Here is what has kept my wife and i going for many years: every two weeks, one will plan an out state trip to a special place. next two weeks is planned by the other person. why the trips? it gives us something to look forward to and it keeps the “spark” in our marriage. the object is to be together and to have fun. we both love to travel, so we go for it.

Find the right one and it goes automagically?

Every man is different. For me, I mostly just need peace and quiet on football Sunday and to not spend all my money. XD

But seriously.. to keep it exciting.. I don’t know.. I’m content.. I never really worried that my life wasn’t exciting enough. I like how it is.

See new stuff with one another. Learn more from each other and always try to make each other laugh whenever you are around each other. When you hold or touch one another act like that is the last touch the two of you will ever have…do this especially when you kiss…Worked for me!!!

I’ve had luck making the most of my awake hours with my SO by doing similar to @cornbird, sharing my favorite things and enjoying the favorite things my SO shares with me. We talk to find out what music we like, places to go, things to do we’ve always wanted and maybe not done yet or not done yet in good company. I kiss and hold knowing tomorrow isn’t guaranteed to us.

u to initiate things every now and again and surprise us. Be flirty with us and make first moves. Do not make us do all the work

@john65pennington That is really nice, it’s good that you still do things together after all these years.
@StupidGirl He is more than the right one and things are going perfectly, and not one argument in 2 and a half years. He says he’s happy and doesn’t want anyone else. I just want to make sure he’s happy.
@NaturalMineralWater He gets the football Sunday, and Saturday, and cricket, rugby, golf, darts. I don’t say anything.
@cornbird I do, I cherish every moment we have.

@Dibley great! so there’s five senses so there’s five input channels through which you can please him—ask him what he likes to see, hear, smell, taste and feel and give it to him. Here’s something about asking questions.