Have you ever been dumped?

No, I’ve always been the dumper, except for two times. One time a relationship ended because we both just stopped talking to each other. Another was the first woman I ever loved – she left me because she wanted me to leave my then fiancee for her and I said no.

I was dumped by someone who i told “I Love You” and they said they felt the same. I knew her since i was 15, we tried dating around age 20–21. Things didnt work out, she stopped talking to me for like a year, never really gave me a reason why.

Hurt like no other pain.

Yes. And I think what hurts the most is not knowing why – not having closure. If I had been given a decent reason, at least I could have understood, accepted it (or been in denial), and moved on. Makes me go over the whole relationship so many more times, wondering what it was that he dumped me over.

More often than not.

Only once also…it really really HURT…my junior year in HS…oh my gosh, played three of the worst basketball games ever after that! She approached me my senior year about dating again…no way jose! “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!”

Cotton. your next three games were terrible? i understand this. your mind was anywhere, except on the basketball. been there, done that….john

Been in both situations. It’s not nice, it hurts and depending on the circumstances can be confusing.
I dumped my first wife when I found her in bed with a guy. I was dumped once for being crap in bed (She said – my legion of conquests beg to differ – yea, I wish!) – I was also once dumped by proxy – her friend told me ! lol. To be honest, most of the time I was the dumpee or dumper it wasnt a long, deep relationship, those are a lot harder to take.
It’s a fact of life that we have to go through (generally)

@Cotton101 I think im in that situation, though later on in life. The girl i originally posted about in my first response to this moved from Miami to NYC, and it just so happened i did as well. Im dating her again now and things feel like there heading in the same direction (had a big blow out last night about New Years) and maybe i really did just follow the whole: “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!”.

Im hoping i didnt…

A few times, mostly in high school… normal teen stuff. All such things hurt but it hurts more when you are not told why which has happened once to me. That leaves the mind wondering “what did I do??” for a long time and that question is never answered.

You just have to walk on knowing you shall never have the answer.

I get irked when even friends dump me without telling me why. I do not get hurt like that one time but it does bother me.

Yeah, sucks.
But what was even worse was senior year in high school there was this boy who I was absolutely in love with. Then things actually happened—we went on a perfect first date, held hands, kiss at the end, it could not have been better. I had it all planned out: we would date, we would go to prom together, we’d lose our virginity together, but then when I brought up doing something again, he said he wanted to be just friends.

His friends speculated that he got cold feet, but that was not very nice because he knew how into him I was. I was absolutely crushed. That day is when I learned how difficult it is to drive while crying. I was out of it for the rest of the school year.

@john65pennington John, still think about her to this day! She was the principal’s daughter and was about the “prettiest thing I had ever seen!” Think that ruined me for life..LOLL..just kidding!

@JesusWasAJewbot hey, you never know! Relationships are a fragile thing! One minute, things are great…the next minute, you are packing your bags! Bottomline, if you play the game, you have to be able to handle the results! You cannot live with them and cannot live with them…dang..guess that is the beauty of it all.

@Cotton101 Yup, through this year long ordeal we’ve went through of me chasing her and her ignoring me ive learned how true the phrase “Theres a thin line between love and hate” really is.

Fuck Love!

@JesusWasAJewbot ditto ditto and ditto!

Rejected? yes. Dumped?no. I have learned to avoid situations where being dumped is a possibility, i.e. rejecting preemptively any attempts at a relationship, an extremely rare occurrance at any rate.

Nope. I’ve always dumped them.

Yes, and not in a very subtle way, by my now ex wife.
I went out of town on a three week business trip. As I walked out the door she said “Don’t call Me” While I was gone she was sleeping with one of my friends.
When I got back she told me to pack my things and leave.
Sucked nwhen it happened. (Had to leave my 5 year old son)
Turned out to be the best thing that ever happened!
Got custody two years later
I am now married to be best women ever.
She is now seperated from husband #3
One more and we can start a bowling team.

@JesusWasAJewbot Heartily endorse the last two words of your previous statement. +GA

Dumped? Yes. Once. I flew 10,000 miles to see a guy I had met where I live and who’d gone home. At one point, he would call every couple of days and beg me to come see him. He told me he missed me. I show up and three days later, he dumped me. My return ticket was for 5½ weeks hence. Imagine. Some gall, eh? At the time, he claimed to not understand why I got so angry. And for years after, I thought that I had done something “bad” to “make” him dump me. We no longer speak, but I do hope that he has since grown up and learned what he really wants out of a relationship.

Rejected? Yes. Many times.

You can’t take any of it personally, you really can’t. You have no idea what’s going on in someone else’s head that manifests itself in dumping you or rejecting an opportunity to be with you. You just have to accept that a relationship between you is not the right thing, then, and move on.

I’ve been dumped twice- and they were both on the same day.

I was casually dating 2 guys at the same time. One told me he was getting back together with his ex. I was bummed, but was happy I had plans with the other guy later that night. Within ½ an hour of guy #1 dumping me, guy #2 called…

That was not a good day. I think most people learn how to deal with being rejected way before age 25. I didn’t, since I’d always been the dumper. It was rough.

@aprilsimnel what is his address? would like to teach the boy some manners! That was awful..did you not have a big brother or someone to go beat his ass! Dang, that hurt my feelings as well. Go that far and bingo!

In the end, you were the winner here!

I can see by everyones answers, that i was not alone in my one and only incident. at least, we all know how each other feels about dumping someone or being dumped. i guess we can lay our misfortunes to the old saying, “what ever will be, will be”. thats just life.

@Likeradar That sucks!!! I hope nothing else bad happened that day:(

@sliceswiththings Yeah, it was a rough, rough day. But such is life.

@Likeradar amen.

LOL it hurted at the time but funny now. I was dating this guy for about 3 months, one night we were suppose to go to the movie but he didnt show. So I called him to see what happened and he picked up the phone saying “why are you calling me? I told you I had a girlfriend” I was like what?????? Is he making it sound like pursued and was stalking him. Then I hear the girlfriend in the background say “tell her that what ever she thought y’all had is over!!! Then she get on the phone and says “lose his # B*****” I could have said something but I left it that…she can have the LOSER ! I mean he didnt even have the guts to dump me himself..i just want to know why she was mad at me and not at him. (the world may never know)

only been dumped once and it was okay bc he slept with one of my friends

@lovemypits86 LOL this goes along very well with your other thread about “will he cheat again”.