How often do women think of sex?
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January 1st, 2010
Do you girls think of sex as much as us guys do?
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I read that they do, if not more, but they just keep quiet about it.
Oh absolutely. But I think that we think of sex in a different way, ya know, emotions and all that bs. Sometimes I wish I had more testosterone, but I wouldn’t like the mustache very much.
Or would I?
Depends on your definition of what a woman is.
Maybe once a day or so, but it’s usually tied to feelings or a specific person. The stuff in my head is a lot of the time more interesting than sex in real life.
When you all say that it is usually tied to feelings, can you explain that alittle more?
Not often enough it seems.
I wouldn’t say as much as men do, on average. But, a lot. At least I do, especially when I think of my special someone. Mmmmmmmm.
Do you all think of it when you smell a man’s colonge or if he is dressed well?
@bennett . You don’t usually think of it when you see an attractive guy?
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The majority of adult men under 60 think about sex at least once a day, reports Laumann. Only about one-quarter of women report this level of frequency. As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often.
In a comprehensive survey of studies comparing male and female sex drives, Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist at Florida State University, found that men reported more spontaneous sexual arousal and had more frequent and varied fantasies.
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I think that “think about sex” is super vague. I saw a guy outside of my work the other day that was super nice looking and had a great beard and I thought, “god I just want to smash my face against that beard” That’s a sexy idea, but it’s not about actual penis and vagina stuff. I think most women think about scenarios that are sexy, and guys often think about the actual sex part.
@cornbird Not always. It’s funny, I’ve seen plenty of men who I thought of as really handsome but wasn’t sexually attracted to.
Allll the time. And not in an emotional way. I just think of great sex situations and the lines I use during them. Then I use those lines in the real thing.
We can get away with thinking about it in great detail without any giveaways, if you get my drift. Great way to occupy my mind during class.
It depends a great deal on the individual woman and her specific sex drive, as well as whether she has the free-time to think of things other than what she needs to do right now.
@Darwin I agree. Also, I would question studies that are based on self-reporting because I think there is still a stigma attached to women acknowledging strong sexual feelings.
All the time baby, all the time…gotta pass time somehow :-)
Smelling a great cologne more so than seeing an attractive guy. I average probably three times a day. But that’s about all sex (i.e., includes thoughts like “thank God we’re not still together or I’d have to sleep with him again.)
Half as much as men wish we would and twice as much as they think we do.
All the time. I’ve been a complete hornball lately.
Consciously, maybe a few times a day. I think about it much more during the night, when I am on the computer, watching tv/movies, or when I am with my boyfriend.
For me it is not the actual action of having sex, but the connection of romance that leads to having sex is what I think about- the kissing, holding hands, or giggling about nothing- the chemistry parts really
@cornbird “Do you all think of it when you smell a man’s colonge or if he is dressed well?”
Not if it’s a stranger. If a strange man approached me who was dressed well and smelled nice, it might make me more open to talking to him, but I wouldn’t think about having sex with him. I’d have to develop feelings for the person first. Then the smell of his perfume might be a pleasant memory, because our sense of smell is very intertwined with memory. I’d be more attracted to someone who was well-dressed, but it would take a while for that attraction to develop, and their personality would be very important. Once I had a strong attraction, then I might start thinking about sex.
What I was trying to explain in my first post here is that it’s important to a lot of women to be attracted to someone on a mental and emotional level. This isn’t true for everyone, but I’d have to have a strong attachment to someone before I would fantasize about them. Without that, I’d just feel maybe idle curiosity at most.
I think about it pretty often, but I don’t think some women act on it as much as men do. Sometimes I’ll be thinking about it, but for one reason or another (tired, not feeling well, etc.) I don’t do it.
3–4 times a day, max. Perhaps more that I’m not conscious of, but that’s my best guess.
I think it depends on a lot of things. When I was younger it was on my mind a lot. As I’ve gotten older my libido isn’t what it once was and is quite erratic at times. Some days or even weeks I can go without thinking about it and some days I can’t stop thinking about it. I think in general life style and stresses of the day dictate whether you feel lust full or just want a good nights sleep.
With US the Wife is a Dirty Thinker most of the time, slip with stuff referencing at least a Dozen times a day!
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All the time. Especially with the partner I’m with, I’m so attracted to him I just want him all the time. He knows he can have me whenever he wants.
Agree @Dibley ! The Wife and I are like that too, Whenever… Your Red Hair would be second do Dark Hair in the “Drive Me Crazy” category…
@sliceswiththings: FINALLY! I was beginning to think I was the only one here who had a sense of humor.
Well how many of you girls watch porn?
@cornbird I don’t watch much anymore, but I have a couple of dvd’s.
@Dibley Ok..why I asked is at school some women told me that alot of them watch porn and that I would be surprized to know how many women watch porn for fun…I just wanted to see that for myself.
@cornbird I guess some women like it and some don’t. I am highly sexual. I started masturbating at a very early age. Maybe I should of been born a boy!
@Dibley Masturbation has been seen in utero. It’s universal in neonates.
@Dibley ; Your Waaaayyyy to pretty But If your have Tomboy tenancies then you totally have it covered!
@pdworkin Live and learn. And I thought all those smiles were gas!
@phil196662 Thanks, bad picture though but only one I had on my own. I wouldn’t say I’m a Tomboy, just that I like sex and more than I’ve ever got. Although as I am getting older, I am struggling to orgasm with myself and with my boyfriend in the same day. So, I’ll text him first and work out his mood, so I know which one to do. Although last time I got it wrong, and regretted it.
@elizabethmae .. sometimes for men it is just a thought that has a sexual link to it not necessarily the thought being played all the way out through the act
well before, when i was either not in a relationship or i was in one where the sex was BLARGGGGGGGGGH, i rarely thought about it or cared. now that i am in a relationship where the sex is phenomenal it is on my mind very very frequently. i joke with my boyfriend that, with him on my mind so much, i need pampers to get me through the day without soaking my pants HAHAHAHAHAHHA. it IS a joke people i promise
@deni That’s a great answer.
@ deni…are you buying stock in them?
@demi is that what you are wearing?
@cornbird I watch porn sometimes. But honestly, I’d rather use my imagination.
@Allie i agree. porn is gross usually, most of the girls look fake and disgusting and the sounds they make make me shudder. their boobs are unrealistically huge and imo unattractive, dyed blonde hair, fake screams, tons of makeup, ok heres a big NO THANKS
@Allie – sometimes Porn can give you Ideas…though.
Several times a day with the Wife and I…Yep.
For me, it depends on what time of the month it is. Hormonal fluctuations are a b*tch.
@borderline_blonde ; sometimes those times of the month when you feel grumpy/ bit#%y can be the best Sex times if your partner just takes you and Does You!
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