Is it a good or a bad thing to be aware that you are a mess?

It is a good thing. If you have self-awareness you can work towards “fixing” your issues before you drag someone else into it.

Knowing the truth is always my goal. But if I use such a truth as that as an excuse instead of a call to action, shame on me.

Good, bad, mess are judgmental and vague descriptions. To know thyself is a better goal. Isolate and articulate what you think your problems are and try to solve them systematically, alone, or better yet, with help.

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If you’re unhappy with yourself and are working toward a personal goal, this is good. If you are unhappy with yourself or are knowingly bringing others down with you and you do nothing out of selfishness or laziness, this is bad.

Understanding where you are is the first and necessary step in moving on. But being overly critical isn’t going to help you too much, it can cripple you. Be kind to yourself, and good luck—it’s probably not a trainwreck.

Being aware of your issues is a good thing. That’s how you can learn to accept them or move past them. It’s probably not as bad as you think, though.

I love the word trainwreck. One of my friends always calls everyone a trainwreck or says you’re “toe up from the neck up.”

Self awareness can be scary and painful, but fear and pain can motivate us to positive action. I know, I know, sounds like something a parent or therapist would say. But experience has taught me it’s true.

Yeah, totally good. I mean it stinks to be a mess. But most of us are, and you will never work towards changing it if you don’t realize it first. So you are on the first step to fixing it. The key though, I think, is to react the right way.

You could realize you are a mess and try to convince yourself you are actually not, or make excuses and ignore it or something. Or you could decide to get the help you need, and move forward. That is a great choice.

Its good to know you are a mess. Its bad though if you don’t care.

It could be a good thing, depending upon what you mean by “a mess.” If you don’t like the way you are, pick one relatively small aspect of your personality and work to change it. Being able to change one small part of “the mess” will give you confidence to change other parts. You may want to get some help deciding what to change and how. I recommend finding a good clinical psychologist.

You can’t “fix” it if you don’t face it… so it’s a good thing. I would first make sure you’re not being too hard on yourself before you go about changing things too drastically.

I’m sorry, but I kind of giggled at that one. I would think its better to Not know, if your a mess having fun and hurting no one, but if your a mess and affecting a whole bunch of people, time for a change.