Are you more understanding of your own parents' quirks than those of your SO's parents?

i’m the same with both for the most part my in laws are very stepford wife it’s kinda creepy

Previosuly, I would have been fine living with my in-laws. I did for three months in-between our 1st and 2nd house and it went well, we all got much closer. Since then there has been some crap, mostly stirred up by my husbands sister (she moved back to town and everything changed) but it is now slowly getting back to normal again after years of stress. I think now, I would be able to live with his parents again without a problem, because the sister is remarried and focused on her own life.

My parents are actually more difficult for me than his parents. Not my mom. She is easy, but my father is a lot of work.

I get along better with my in-laws better than I do with my own side of the family. I love my family, but they are much more pretentious. I guess they can afford to be, they have lots more money, but they look down on Wal-Mart shoppers (like me) and people receiving government assistance (like me.) I always feel out of place when I visit, being surrounded by designer clothes and manicured nails. My in-laws and I are in the same economic group, and I never feel out of place with them. We can discuss things like the cost-effectiveness of driving 30 miles out of the way to go to a cheaper grocery store and what time of the month is best for finding clearance items at Ross.

I am more used to my own mother’s quirks. But I can’t stand them about equally with my M-I-L’s.

@Marina Love how you worded that.

You couldn’t get me drunk enough to live with my MIL for more than 5 hours. <<shudders>>

I have a good relationship with my In-laws BUT have had them staying with us for the past 2 weeks and it’s driving me crazy!!
NO privacy, no peace, it’s actually infringing on my human rights!!
I left home at 17 because of my Mum’s alcoholism, so not a great relationship there either, I love my mum but to be honest, couldnt imagine even living near her nowadays.
I know that sounds harsh, but aint nothing as funny as family is there?

More understanding – yes. More forgiving – no.

I love my parents but I find my mother’s behaviour impossible to endure or ignore. I admire my Dad’s patience with her. When I was a child, it was my father who was volatile and scary but after a long struggle with the most extreme psychotic depression I have ever seen he learned to live well and be at peace with himself and the world. For the past 8 to ten years, my mother developed bipolar disorder with very long periods of vegetative depression separated by shorty swings into hypo-mania. When I visited to help out when my Dad had colon surgery for Cancer I nearly was driven insane by my Mother. I had to lay down the rules for her if she wanted me to stay and help her while my Dad was recuperating.
My in-laws are considerably older but I have never been irritated with them, even after prolonged contact. My wife says her mother has a history of ill temper but I have never observed it. I’ve can good luck with my previous in-laws too.

My in-laws are complete assholes to my SO, so no, I don’t get along with them.

On the other hand, my SO puts up with my family’s craziness (and trust me, they are CRAZY) just fine. The only exception is my grandmother – my SO is biracial and my grandmother still talks to her about “colored people” – but my grandma is an overall annoying and offensive woman to begin with, so it’s understandable.

Well, I do to some extent, but I guess that is more because I respect my in-law in a totaly different way. I am used to not sugar coating when talking to my parents (and so are they to me),

I think I do mainly because I lived with my parents almost my whole life. I haven’t lived with my SO’s parents before. So I understand my parents more all around than his

I agree with @Marina.