Those who popped the question: How would you feel if your SO proposed to you, rather the other way around?

Aside: even if you aren’t married, don’t plan to, are a straight woman, etc, do answer the question.

proof positive @Grisaille is the woman in his relationships~

kinda opened myself up to that one, didn’t I

Hubbs and I proposed to each other so if he had just proposed I would have been fine with it.

If he had proposed very publicly I would have said no because that means he didn’t know me. I’m a very private person and it’s rude in my opinion, to propose in public because there is so much pressure to say yes. It’s not fair to manipulate someone into saying yes. Especially when you could have just screamed out ‘I love you’ if you really needed to ‘show the world’ how much you care.

I’m a woman and have never considered proposing to a man but very recently it did cross my mind. I’m at a place in my life where I’m doing many things different in terms of how I look at and act in my relationships, my current partner is the result of me pursuing and not the other way around which is a bit strange but, whatever. So, I’m having this really awesome holiday season with the man I love and who loves me and it pops into my head that it would par for the course if I proposed to him to celebrate New Year’s Day (new ways) since I have been the initiator from the start. I went as far as to dig into my cache of loose gemstones and look for one that suits him. Being the old fashioned relationship fuddy duddy I am, I kibboshed the idea- not ready to be that gender progressive yet. Deep inside me still is the girl who wants the bright eyed gent on bended knee offering me his heart and his life and asking for mine while putting a ring on my finger.

I would think it was very presumptuous.

I proposed, but it would have been no different if it were her. The end result is the same. She said yes. I would have done the same.

Well I can’t see my boyfriend asking me, so I thought about asking him, although I don’t know if I would. I would prefer him to ask me, but I really do think it will be the other way around. That is about all I can say. Don’t know if I would, how or anything.

After marrying a deceitful person, a woman asking me to marry her is just too suspicious. I think it’s fine the way it is in my opinion. That way the man can actually decide himself is he’s ready to throw his life away.

When my husband first asked me, I said no. I wasn’t ready. It wasn’t a definite no, but I told him I needed more time to be with him. I’m glad it didn’t offend him, like I know it can offend some…but we were still fresh into the relationship and I honestly could not say yes 100% positive. And I wanted to have that feeling that it was meant to be.

So, I think it was at least two months later, we actually hadn’t even discussed the proposal (he didn’t give me a ring), we were on vacation and it just felt right. I just out of no where blurted out “Yes!” and told him that I did want to marry him and I felt confident and sure. Of course this probably doesn’t sound ideal to some. And we actually don’t really tell everyone the entire store. It was a few months later that he saved up money and got me a ring and proposed in public, down on his knee.
So, technically we both proposed lol

I don’t think he would have minded at all if I had proposed. He said he wanted to marry me right away, so I’m sure I would have just beat him to the punch.

My wife was telling her friends we were getting married before I could propose, so I never actually did. And I was fine with that.

Sherry proposed to me several times in roundabout ways (e.g., “wouldn’t it be great to be married….”). I would counter by evading a direct answer. I’ll give her credit tho…..at least she had the decency to bring it up in private. See ya…..Gary/wtf