Do you know what your problem is?

My problem is that I am all too well understood.

That, and hungry.

I don’t know if this is what you’re asking for, but my problem was actually undiagnosed until yesterday. It turns out I have horrible memory loss. Like horrible horrible. I went to a neurologist and he told me some things I could do to fix it, but… yeah! I finally have a cure for my problem!

@reactor5, you must be getting better already, though. After all, you remembered what happened yesterday.

I wish I could do that every day.

Are you talking about @Daloon? I’ve found myself misunderstood right here on this forum. I’m still surprised to find people taking offense at something that I say when I intended something COMPLETELY other. I think I’m depressed. I’m also tired ALL the time, and have no idea why. I don’t always pick up social cues correctly, and misread people. I also get paranoid and feel like everyone is picking on me. At some level, I know this is ridiculous and that I don’t figure that predominantly on everyone’s day. I also noticed that theses feelings come and go in cycles. Do you have a clue what my problem is? I have a friend who says I’m PTSD.

@CyanoticWasp only because I wrote it down… I was going to start a discussion question about it, but I keep forgetting

@reactor5, you remembered to read the note! See, you’re miles and miles ahead of me. I take notes too, and then put them away and forget them.

This is a fantastic question. Wish I could give you a bunch of GQ’s.

I have several problems, the biggest most annoying to others and most stressful for myself is I have a hard time being misunderstood. This is wrapped together with wanting to be liked. When someone thinks I have been purposefully mean or has decided they no longer want to be involved with me it bothers me immensely. I try to straighten it out, talk about it with the person, but many times it pisses them off more, especially if they are the type that hate to talk about things out in the open. I just dig my grave further, with them being able to feel confirmed that I am a pain in the neck.

I also think I try to help, some would call it interfere, when they don’t want the help. Too much kibbutz :) This was a problem with my inlaws for a long time. I think they perceived me as a know it all, or that I was implying they were doing something wrong. I actually have kind of gotten over this after years. If they don’t ask I let them sink.

Another problem I have is dealing with my medical problems. I suffer from like a PTSD type of things with doctors (I have not been diagnosed with it, I use the term loosely). I delay/avoid making appointments. I may obsess about what I am going to say to the doctor for weeks before the appointment. Afterwards, if the appointment went badly for weeks I might have reocurring nightmares of someone chasing me or shooting. It does not happen with run of the mill medical things, only when related to a chronic problem I have.

@JLeslie, let’s have coffee and talk.

@Trillian LOL. Are you in Memphis?

It’s time for… KAWFEE TAWK with Babwa Wawa… who’s having what – I drink double espresso no sugar – cuz life is sweet enough.

You?

I hate most everyone I meet, I don’t trust anyone, and my best friend died on the 17th. Ever since then, why I feel this way or what I can do to change my issues – and they’re huge ones, lifelong – I haven’t given a fuck about, and I’m not sure I’ll ever care again. School started a couple of days ago, and I’m wondering, with mild curiosity, if I’ll remain on the honor’s list. Don’t really care.

Tea with sugar. Will there be cookies? I like pecan sandies and almond cookies with tea.

I suffer from fibromyalgia and sleep dysfunction as a result of my chronic pain cause by a car crash in April, 2004.

Any physicians who care to dispute this without access to my detailed medical history are free to do so.

I have difficulty letting go of things that I consider unfair. It should be noted that I am aware that that doesn’t make all of them unfair, just that I perceive them to be so. And the things that I know to be unfair, things that most people would agree with me on, I can’t let go. I have not figured out how to get past the anger and, sometimes, hate involved.

I break out in hives when I see English prose mangled. I have a neurotic compulsion to take a red magic marker to the computer screen sometimes. I cannot believe, in spite of the scars, that I will not find the trick to cutting Milo’s nails and living to talk about it.

@JLeslie What are these pecan sandies you speaketh of? They sound lovely with a cuppa Earl Grey. REcipe?

@Zen_Again I have never made them from scratch, but maybe that could be a new project for me? When I went to school they had really good ones in the cafeteria. Keebler makes them, not sure if they are available where you are. But, the Keebler are not as good as fresh baked of course. They are kind of like a shortbread with fine pieces of pecans, similar to a Mexican wedding cookie without the powdered sugar if that means anything to you.

We have something similar here called, well I’ll have to spell it out phonetically for you: C… phlegm… a…p…a…phlegm…

;-)

Come on!

;-)

A la Achmed the dead terrorist – know it @JLeslie ?

The comedian guy? I am not very familiar.

I can’t keep friends. I have no one who wants to talk to me (i.e., seeks me out). I do all the seeking after the initiation of the friendship. A lot of people start, but like daffodils, they soon fade away. I have almost none in real life, too. I wish I knew what was wrong with me. Maybe my expectations are too high and I ask for too much. It’s why I spend so much time on fluther. fluther is like a virtual friend, but fluther is so impersonal. I’m really sad. Oh well. Embrace the sadness. That’s hard to do if you’re afraid it will swallow you up.

Sometimes I’m talking too much.

@daloon I think most men have very few friends if any really. I think their wife or SO is generally their best friend.

Well, it’s not enough.

@daloon I understand.