I need advice on a very private matter. Can you help without judging?

Quit worrying about it. As long ago as 1947 Kinsey found that there was a fair number of people who masturbated several times a day. Everyone is different. That’s just your body’s schedule. Enjoy. I promise you won’t go blind.

Are you talking about something like bruising or cutting?

@pdworkin Thanks for the reassurance that I’m normal. But I still want to cut back ya know?

@Naked_Homer Look at @pdworkin… He knows the topic.

If your indulgence in masturbation is not interfering with your day to day functioning and you are not causing anyone else any problems, then don’t worry about it.

Feeling guilty is way more harmful than the perfectly nature act.

If I need more details on the effects of your hobby, then PM me with the specifics.

@Shield_of_Achilles
How old are you?

@pdworkin it’s not that the OP finds it “wrong”, they simply want to cut back.

I don’t see the point, but you are a free agent. If you want to cut back, start doing it less. No one is holding a gun to your head. If you feel as though you are not in control, let me assure you that those are just feelings, and feelings aren’t real.

Everyone does it just no one talks about it and if people tell you that they don’t do it they are lying to you. It is becoming less and less taboo of a subject, but is still not talked about freely. Stop worrying…unless it is a situation like @Dr_Lawrence is talking about.

Stop calling it “self abuse” and call it masturbation. I already did it twice today. It is healthy and normal. It isn’t a shameful act.

….unless youre in a parking lot in a convertible.

@johnpowell
Yes but looking at cartoons of Marmaduke? I mean come on!
@eponymoushipster
Then it’s just really enjoyable

@Shield_of_Achilles – OK, sorry, just wanted to make sure.

Maybe try to notice when the urge is hitting you the most and figure out what is happening before that. Are you board? Have you been sitting still to long? Just finished watching your 2nd straight movie? Then see if you can change that.

For what it’s worth I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s fun and free and most likely cyclical. At a certain point your body will say whoa there.

I understand that its natural.
I just want to do it less.

Its like being a smoker that doesn’t that its bad for him/her, their just tired of sitting around smoking all the time.

Like @pdworkin, I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. But if you really want to cut back, just keep yourself busy. When you have little time alone or with nothing to do, you won’t do it. A busy schedule will keep your mind elsewhere.

Idle hands are the Devil’s playground.

@drdoombot Wow, it seems the simplest answer is the one i would have never thought about.

What’s that old saying again. “Idle hands are the devil’s play things”?

wo…

creepy

Jinx. You owe me a Coke.

Don’t trip. It probably rises and falls with your moods. Just focus on something else and occupy yourself with your life. Try to resist it and you’ll find yourself jerking it 10 times a day like John Powell while watching walruses mate.

@Shield_of_Achilles – You will eventually slow down anyway. In the meantime you are actually keeping your sperm fresh in case you have an opportunity to fertilize someone (not that I am suggesting you do that). Unless you are developing blisters, don’t worry about it. Keep busy, take a few dips in a cold pool, and you should be able to cut down. However, it is perfectly normal, especially when you are young. Maybe not so much when you are in your 80’s.

@pdworkin Let me know where to send it and ill be sure to pop one in the mail. =P

@SeventhSense Man, you guys are harping on that guy something fierce.

@Shield_of_Achilles – They’re just jealous. ~

lol
Noted

Jealous of those soft hands…mmmm

Look…i have a whole HD dedicated to pr0n. You’re fine :P

@Shield_of_Achilles
Just remember:
Fantasy———————————————————————————————-Reality
ps uber really isn’t that ripped anymore..it’s an old picture

dude my right are is fuckin jacked….

ok maybe poor choice of words….

Once I went lefty I never went back..

@Shield_of_Achilles
you need to get laid . . . seriously… so you can get off the beater.

@njnyjobs having sex has nothing to do with masturbation imo.
I have sex regularly but that doesnt mean im not going to still masturbate when my SO isnt around

@Shield_of_Achilles wrote, “I still want to cut back ya know?”

Find other things to do that are even more fun… Ha! Yeah, riiiight!!! :-)

Why the need to cut back?

@njnyjobs My heart is currently like the Titanic. Ripped apart and sunken to depths unknown.

I wish i had the capacity to be intimate with someone right now. TBH, I could really go for a good cuddle =/

@uberbatman I’m just trying to do more with my life.

“I’m just trying to do more with my life.”
LOL come on now nothin beats masturbation.

Hint- focusing on masturbation will not help you. It just creates a monster out of it. Just do something else with your hands like Fluther..wow..talk about a worthless pastime

@Shield_of_Achilles
you don’t need to be in love to get laid . . .

@uberbatman
if having sex has nothing to do with masturbation, then you must be sick in the head . . . how can you get an erection to beat the meat if you’re not sexually aroused?

BTW…getting laid way, way, way beats masturbation!

@njnyjobs i mean the notion of if one is having sex they dont need to masturbate, its bullshit. “BTW…getting laid way, way, way beats masturbation!” well no shit….

Im not a random sex kinda person…

@uberbatman
my point is if you’re getting laid and look forward to getting laid, then you wouldn’t try to diminish your ability to do the deed by selflessly beating yourself to a pulp. . . . that my friend is the key to Shield_of_Achilles’ masturbation cut back. . . . of course, MHO

@Shield_of_Achilles
Sorry you asked :P ?

@njnyjobs im sorry i just must have more stamina than you. I dont see any probelm in masturbating and then going and having sex later that day even.

@uberbatman
I guess they dont call you uberbatman for nothing . . . LOL.

But, think with your head here instead of your penis for a moment . . . our friend here, Shield_of_Achilles, for whatever reason, wants to cut back. . . and you havent offered any help other than question his motives. . .

@njnyjobs Hey now, it’s hard to save the night and understand questions… Cut the man some slack. Lol

i offered up nothing as the best answer has already been given

Masturbation is actually quite good for you. 5+ times per week can reduce the chances of getting prostate cancer and urinary tract infections in males. With some similar results for females save for the prostate cancer, of course.

Ah, after reading a few other answers, I see your issue now. Get a hobby.

You’re talking about masturbation? Don’t worry about it. If your masturbatory habits disrupt your life and prevent you from doing other things, then it’s a problem, just like anything else. Otherwise, forget about it! Have fun! You never know when your hands might be cut off in a freak accident… make the most of them!

I find that after doing it your dick feels weak and I have heard that it can reduce performance with a woman because your body gets accustomed to you being by yourself and not with another person.

Masturbation is normal, healthy, and nothing to be ashamed of.

Its cool.

Ive already taken care of it.

Thank you though.

Take the opportunity to chronicle what triggers your urge to play with yourself and see if you can start distracting yourself with new desired thoughts in that trigger’s place.

Example: you get turned on while pining after an ex which is tortuous because playing with yourself feels so good but the imagined trigger is ultimately painful and heartbreaking. When the thought comes, find a picture to look at that depicts something new you want- could be a woman or the mental image of you in a new life, whatever.

Did you refer to masturbation as self abuse? How is that abuse? Abuse is harmful. Masturbation is fun and healthy.

@Violet True. Things might get entirely out of hand without it. :-)