What qualities of a new Flutherite encourage you to welcome them? What qualities make you leery of the them?

~Feels the need to follow this question~

I pretty much welcome anybody I see with 1 lurve. I can wait to make judgements later.

I’m fond of jellies who take the time to learn (and respect) the ways of Fluther. Even if they don’t quite get it at first, as long as they are respectful and willing to learn, then they are a great new addition. I am leery of people who join up and immediately begin suggesting changes.

I still consider myself a new user but I’d like to reply to the question

I like people who can disagree with what someone says, but still respect the person behind the statement.

Take the time to read the FAQ.

Contribute in a well-thought manner.

Non-confrontational nature most of the time. (Most on Fluther aren’t attacking you, they are attacking your argument.)

Friendly and witty without being overly crude.

I’m like a rhinoceros who can tiptoe so I am leery of no one unless they have a weapon or an agenda.

Great question. I’m new here, but have been around long enough to welcome in some newer than me, so I will tell you what I’ve observed so far.

I came in in a mass migration from another Social Q&A site, and have gotten to feel quite at home here and made many new friends. The culture here is different from the social media sites I’d previously participated in, but such is always to be expected. I think those who come in expecting Flutherites to meet their preconceived standards instead of the other way around are likely to have trouble.

A decent sized block of the friends I came here with ran into what they felt was an unwelcoming, hostile attitude from long time Flutherites. They have now set up a group on Ning.com and departed. Sad, but I think avoidable. After looking at the discussions where they took offense, I think the problem was they often wanted to set the rules instead of learning them. Whether you move to a new virtual site or a new place in the real world, it doesn’t work that way.

@SeventhSense I have an agenda….. But its so I can keep track of my school work so I don’t think you should be leery.

@ETpro Well said. Ive run into that same situation myself many times, and let me tell you; if you knock around with people who’s’ heads are harder than your own, youll only end up with a headache.

@Shield_of_Achilles
Oh..I’m not worried about you. you’ve got your hands full with other things I’m sure

I try to welcome all who join the collective.

I get frustrated with text speak, homework questions, and long questions with no periods or paragraph breaks.

@SeventhSense Well played sir. Very well played. Lol

I rarely check to see who is asking or answering a question. If I am intrigued by the content, I respond. It has nothing to do with whether it is an old or a new jelly.

I often don’t specifically welcome newcomers, it just doesn’t occur to me. So if I have offended anyone by my lack of courtesy, WELCOME to all who have come after me if I haven’t done so prior to this.

Now am I back in everyone’s good graces again???

If your politics are “wrong” you’re dead to me.~

I forgot to add, when they ask the dreaded 2012 question UGG….....

@Judi <twitch> I am not looking forward to that.

I am new to fluther but this is what I like in a newcomer at whatever site I am established at:

1) not trying to change the site I am on. It is established, we like it that way. It is the migrant’s job to learn about the new site.
2) answering and asking with thought or posting with thought if it is a forum.
3) not here to start trouble
4) not flooding with tons of questions and answers about their old site. Some is ok, but enough is enough.
5) making an effort, on their own, to learn about the new site. Most information is readily accessible or you can ask a mod one on one.

Those are my big things and were what I looked for as an old timer on my old site and the various migrations came in. I am still there and I shall appreciate new immigrants who do the above.

I came with a mass migration to this site and saw the stress on all parties. I tried to minimize this on my part by answering and asking as well as I could, not talking terribly much about my old site, and doing what I could to learn Fluther’s ways on my own.. I made some newcomer errors, and probably shall make more, however, I tried to not stir the waters overly much on entry.

@Judi- Good call!

The ones who have been most welcoming to me have been the ones who gave me the benefit of the doubt. The ones who didn’t take my unintentional faux pas for intentional thumbing my nose at their rules. So far most everyone understood it’s going to take time to learn the jelly fish school of thought and newbies are likely to swim against the tide. The welcoming ones have been very gentle with their critics and suggestion and I appreciate that.

I think it’s nice to welcome everyone, regardless of their qualities, unless those happen to be disruptive. I have been on this site for some time, and initially when I joined there were the “spammers” who kept spamming threads and trying to create havoc. Haven’t seen those for a while knock on wood

As far as flutherers being hostile or argumentative, some of these topics do boil some people over, especially those with a vested emotional interest in the answers. What for some is serious business (religion, politics, environment, humanity) is taken more lightly by others, and that could cause a lot of hostilities. But, I think that’s part of the dynamics of this site, and sometimes a necessary evil for all to be heard.

I don’t mind that people have been on other social sites and migrated here, but I don’t really see fluther as another social site. There is definitely some social aspects to it if you encounter others who tend to agree with a lot of your opinions, and friendships can definitely be borne here, and carried on to the non-cyber world. But for me the site is purest when it is doing what it does naturally, which is being a vessel for people to ask and answer questions. okay, I like the funny questions too, and engaging in mindless humor when a thread goes off topic