Just friends with a woman or more then friends?

If the initial attraction isn’t there, I’m guessing your chance for romance is minimal.

You never know though, she may be playing hard to get. How old are the two of you?

We are both 23. There is obviously an attraction between us. I wanted to tell her how I felt for 5 years but she lived at school 100 miles away. Then one day we talked on aim and she was like come to my brothers party. Towards the end of the party she got on top of me and we started making out. More then just kissing followed but we both sorta passed out before sex. We hung out one day after that then a week later on x mas I told her how I felt.

Drunk sex is pretty meaningless in general. Probably best you both passed out.
Sounds like she just wants you as a friend, the fact she made out with you suggests she MAY have feelings for you, but you’d need to know that in the cold light of day, it may be the alcohol that was talking then.
She knows how you feel, If you wait around for her to possibly come around, you may get hurt badly and, from experience; if and when she get’s another bloke, it’ll hurt.
I think you need to talk to her again, and if you have to: move on, if being her friend is’nt enough for you, cos that will hurt your friendship.
Good luck.

If you two have communicated with each other for those five years, then there must be something going on between you two. five years is a long time. at the party, i think you put the cart before the horse in the makeout department. or, i may be wrong, since you have been friends for so long. either way, bide your time and let her make the next move. she now knows how you feel about her. lets see what happens next.

This is hard road that you have chosen. She is not seeing any future with you. You care about her in a “more than friends” way.

It is a recipe for heartache.

For one thing, it keeps you focused on her instead of looking for someone who cn care about you the way you care about them.

For another, you said it yourself. You get to watch or hear about her trying to find someone she likes.

Not a good course.

I’m following @Marina around today and she leaves me with little to say but “ditto.’

Agree with @Marina in this. Protect your heart and bail out now while you have little of yourself invested in this.

…yep I agree…move on, refocus and tell yourself every day there is someone out there that will love you more than you could ever have imagined…and you won’t have to sit on the sidelines, beg or compromise your dignity in the process… xxx

Great answer @lynneblundell !

She already told you what your relationship with her is, and what it is going to be: friendship. If you think something else is going to happen you are deluding yourself. Sorry.

Focus on other dating possibilities and still keep in contact and if you meet someone tell her you monogamous, but then you never know she’s playing hard to get and wants to be Courted- the Wife was like that, I woood her for Six months before I got her crop top off Her!