My boyfriend never wants to go out. How can I encourage him to go out more ?

Give him an ultimatum… Sounds like he is a it to conserned about just himself.

Tell him how you feel and how much going out is important to you. Invite him to family get togethers…arrange it with your parents or cousins etc. Make places to go like a football match where he would be interested in going.

This is making you unhappy, so if he cares about you, he should want to change that. Don’t be a nagger, it’ll just make him not want to go out even more. Ask him if there’s an underlying problem. Is he embarrassed because he doesn’t have any money? Does he really want to break up? Is he agoraphobic? What’s the cause? I say tell him that he either compromise and work on your relationship (at least talk about it and agree to make a small effort) or he’s going to have to find a new girlfriend.

You both like staying home and thats a plus for both of you. even though you both like staying home, you somehow have got to get him away from the games. the games do not need attention, its you thats suffering. if you two have not talked out this problem, i suggest you do so. tell him that you are not playing second base to a computer game. it may come down to a choice….you or the games. if you do not stand your ground right now, the game situation will only get worse with him.

He is not going to change. You need to look for a new boyfriend.

I’m with @Marina on this. Only you can decide how much you are invested in this relationship. If you are unhappy with the amount of time you are spending in the house with him gaming and he is unwilling to change, you need to look at how much you are getting from the relationship. My husband and I have had different needs for “at home time” and “out time” over the years, but we are usually able to negotiate a satisfactory arrangement. It is certainly not all men who want to stay in playing football.

“he says now he has a girlfriend he doesn’t need to go out!” You need to say, “Now that I have a boyfriend, I have someone to go out with!”

If there’s no underlying problem like social anxiety disorder, agoraphobia or depression, my opinion is that he is just being lazy about the relationship. Set some parameters like going out twice a month. Use whatever number you can both agree on. Don’t nag him, just set things up that the two of you will enjoy. If he won’t agree to more social time, then he sees no reason to be concerned with your happiness. Is that what you want?

Have him watch this video. Fast forward to about 25 min and 30 seconds from the end of the video to the part where it says successful couples do exciting and/or fun and/or novel things together. Maybe fun for him isn’t “going out” in the same way, but he needs to get the message that you all need to do something novel together on a regular basis.

If the relationship is important to him, he needs to unplug and spend time with you. Staying home and him playing video games while you sit there is not a relationship. What exactly are you getting out the relationship?

Go out without him – if this doesn’t bother him and talking doesn’t help, leave him. This entire situation was one of the reasons I left my first husband – he would rather watch a baseball game than be out with me – now he gets to watch all the damn baseball he wants.

Kidnapping? Take him hostage? Tell him the Indianapolis Colts are going to be at the restaurant?

Maybe dress up like a Clown. hahahahahhaahahahahahahhahaah
I don’t know what you should do, heck I can’t even get my own life together.

Compromise with him. When you are in a relationship, there is giving and taking. If you are more of an outdoor person and he likes staying inside, don’t force him to go outside with you every single day. Since he enjoys football, why not invite him to go to a football game? Or one day, play some video games with him. Go out to lunch or dinner at a restaurant you both like. See a movie you both are interested in. Most of all – communicate with him how you feel, that you want him to spend more time with you.