We were very poor growing up. I had both parents. My dad worked on the railroad, and my mom stayed at home with us, doing absolutely nothing. I have issues with that which I won’t share here, but you can probably guess a little.
Neither of them had a complete college education, though, my dad was/is a very smart and practical handy man. While at the railroad, my dad was walking between cars when a piece that holds the cars together (I don’t know the name) broke off and he fell onto the tracks, breaking his back and legs. We were screwed. We had already been on welfare and barely keeping heat in the house. Now, we had all these medical bills and no insurance. We sued the railroad and got a small settlement- enough to cover some of the hospital costs and a used minivan. My dad still couldn’t do the labor intensive work required at the railroad, so he did what he could working part time doing odd jobs in appliance repair. My mom worked at a grocery store a few hours a week… for a few months.
Then came an opportunity. The pet store down the road was being sold, and my parents were tight with its owners. An arrangement was made so that my parents would be the new owners. I was young-ish, and wasn’t told the details (I still don’t know), but something happened. They didn’t make enough to pay the rent on time one month, and the old owners sued my parents, leaving us absolutely penniless. We lost our home, our cars, and all savings to that point. Luckily my grandmother took pity on us and kicked out her renters in a home she owned and let us live there. I was in high school at this point, and hadn’t known any financial comfort my whole life. So, when college time came, on top of having no parental support, monetary or otherwise, I had to rely on government grants to pay for it. My dad went back to appliance repair.
I gave it a try, but I could no longer afford it. My mother came upon a fair inheritance and, so, the government felt that I didn’t need the assistance any longer. I stopped going, because no way in hell would my mom pay for college for me out of her well deserved inheritance. Issues! She paid one semester for my books and bought me a winter coat that year. I guess that was enough…
After moving in and out of my parents’ (because my mother began to charge me rent for living in the fucking unfinished basement) and with friends while working my minimum wage job, I moved to Baltimore with a friend. I tried to go to school again, and still couldn’t afford it, and instead racked up debt and dropped out. My fault completely, but I thought I could muddle through and get a better job. I couldn’t.
I finally had started to get comfortable after advancing to a manager position at a hotel in Baltimore. Then, I got pregnant. I thought this would be the end of my life… how could I afford a child?
But, instead, the baby’s father just happened to be the greatest man in the world. Despite my hopelessness, he wanted to marry me and fix me and start a family. I honestly owe him my life. I’ve since been taken care of and then some. I’ve been able to get an educational certificate with my name on it. I’m starting my own family now, and I feel like I’ve already made better decisions than I saw growing up. The Taylor curse stops here.
My dad is very successful now. He has his own appliance repair business and is doing very well. I’m so happy for him that it brings me to tears. :)