Do you think revenge is necessary?.

I don’t think revenge works. The emotional toll it takes to create ‘good’ revenge isn’t worth the payout in the end. It doesn’t solve anything and doesn’t create a positive change- it just breeds negativity in one’s life.

It’s not up to me to teach anyone anything beyond choosing not to associate with them anymore because of their behavior.

Well it would depend entirely on the type of thing this person did to hurt you and what form of ‘revenge’ you’re after… if it’s something like them beating you or any form of abuse then your appropriate form of ‘revenge’ against them may be contacting the police and having them arrested/sentenced, etc.

If it’s something like someone playing a practical joke continually on you, then I’d see fit to play one back on them. Though revenge being okay/acceptable or the ‘right’ thing to do depends entirely on what situation you’re trying to apply it to.

Should they bear a consequence? Sure. Is that about revenge? No. It’s a natural result of their actions. If they’re mean and hurtful, they won’t have many friends as a consequence.

PS: Quick, edit your question! Remove that extra period from your title. :)

People are dicks. Fuck me over and I will simply not respond to you. It hurts more when you realize people don’t give a shit about you. Hurt with ignoring.

In the Seventies, a lot of executions via electric chair failed because of technical problems. Seed tells the true story of someone who survived and sought revenge. They buried him alive to make it seem he was dead.

No. But justice is necessary.

I believe in accountability, and as @augustlan said, consequence. It really depends on the nature of the offense, and are other people involved. Some situations do call for justice. Bullies who prey on weaker people should not be allowed to get away with it.

People get so caught up in thinking about personal slights and insults that they have little time to do something productive. With personal insults, asking people why they thought they were a entitled to act a certain way or do a certain thing, and expecting an answer can be pretty effective.

When you get caught up in revenge, you are in essence acknowledging that the person is important enough to matter, and what they think matters. You can only control what people think about you by thinking well of yourself and the people that matter to you. This is probably harder to do in some cultures than it is in others.

I take everything on a case by case basis.

@johnpowell I completely agree.

Sometimes revenge can seem like a form of closure on a subject, whether it’s something small like hiding someones favourite pen at work cos they annoyed you or slashing thier tyres because they slept with your SO. But ultimately it says more about you than the person you are exacting the revenge on…...

P.S. he never did find his pen!

Well, revenge is certainly not necessary, but the temptation to retaliate is natural. We want the people that hurt us to fell the same sense of loss or heartbreak. Everyone has those occasions when we get hurt and in those instances, the idea of revenge is just mental masturbation. Once someone is able to see that revenge really wouldn’t make anything better, such thoughts often fall away. I’d have to agree with @scotsbloke. Revenge often says more about the avenger than it does about the target.

Not really, but I guess it wouldn’t hurt to give that person a taste of their own medicine once in a while so maybe it will help them rethink themselves and what they’re doing.

I once had this person that spread a rumor about me. telling bareface lies. i knew one day that the truth would come out and this person would pay. at first, i wanted to get even with revenge for this person. i wanted this person to suffer the way i did. then i thought, if i did this, i would be no better of a person than he. i decided to forgive this person with no revenge. shortly after, this person was discovered cheating on his income taxes. he lost his job and then he lost his wife. all of this occured without my intervention.

”‘Vengeance is Mine,’ sayeth the Lord,” and no offense you don’t strike me as being particularly divine :D
I think that our desire for revenge is a side effect for our desire for justice; we are happy when the offending party is tried, convicted, and appropriately sentenced. An unquenched thirst for justice will turn swiftly to a thirst for revenge, and that drink has a substantially higher cost and though sweet at the outset, has a bitter aftertaste.
It has been said that grievances should be settled quickly, the same day, if possible. The same source suggests that you evaluate your own actions; surely, you’ve not been a saint either, and maybe you should see about fixing the messes that you yourself have made. And finally, the guilty know what they did; forgiveness may be the one thing that they’re not anticipating; Romans 12:20 puts it, “Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.”

Sometimes we all are compelled to cause someone who hurts us or those we love pain. Most of the time I let it go
In the case of those who mistreated my Autistic Son. I tell anyone willing to listen what immoral people they are. I pray G-d will punish them . I also hope my bad mouthing them will help other people not to get fooled by them. I hope what I say gets back to them. The truth hurts most.
I wish them Autistic family members. This is what I call poetic Justice. I call it Karma and I turn it over to the Lord. I hope he, she it exist .

You do more harm to youself when taking revenge. The damage people do to themselves when acting unkindly is it’s own justice. The absolute best we can do, for ourselves and the world, is to forgive.

I take a three step solution to this situation.
1. I usually ask them politely to stop.
2. When this fails, I ignore them.
3. If they want to get physical, I probably will get physical. After all, it’s all in the name of self defence.

I like to imagine kinds of revenge tho I wouldn’t do it ( probably wouldn’t). I am a believer in what goes around, comes around and I don’t have to dirty myself.

@john65pennington that’s called Karma.
What goes around, really does come around. Seen it happen

Karma is actually over several lifetimes, not usually immediate. Goes around, comes around is nice though.

faye I pray for evil people to have it returned to them. Some people are so immoral even they must know it.

Revenge is a dish best served cold. —Ancient Klingon proverb

Vengeance is mine says the Lord. Sometimes he needs an instrument of his vengeance. Allah be praised That is the mindset of millions of folks over in the Middle East. Sometimes I feel that way, but my faith tells me that I needn’t be that instrument. I wonder what it would feel like though to totally destroy someone and have them know you did it.

made a duplicate entry, sorry. Not sure how to delete

It would depend upon what was done. There’s this girl who absolutely hates me and I’ve never done or said anything to her. But I played a match against her and her school today and she shoves me, she does this on a regular basis, yeah it peeves me off but does it merit revenge,..no. But when she did that and then began insulting me because i’m doing better than she is, i’m two years younger on the varsity team and i’m blonde. Sure I hear blonde jokes all the time, you learn to live with it. But when she adds insult to injury then yeah I was bent on hitting her back. Then I realized I’m 5“3” she’s 5“9” and weighs at least 250 sum pounds more than me and that a fight between us would end with me in the hospital. Since I didn’t feel like breaking anything I told my bowling coach about it and he had a talk with her after the match which we won. She still tried to shove me but I jumped out of the way. I see her every sat. so if she tries it again and I know she will I have the backing of the coordinator to stand up for myself and he didn’t specify that couldn’t shove back. (I’m counting on the saying that” the bigger they are the harder they fall”, holding true) I think it’s fair since she threatened me days before the match and this unreasonable shoving has been going on for months. I just want to show her that I won’t tolerate her bullying anymore simply because she’s older and much bigger than I am.

Be smart adogkittycat your revenge is doing better.
Lurve for you.

“An eye for an eye makes the world go blind.” – Gandhi

Revenge is the low road that men and women who are too proud to swallow, too irrational to think, too little dignity to keep safe.

of course revenge is necessary. how else would people learn their lesson??

The best revenge is karma. Natural consequence, an assh*le almost always winds up getting treated like sh*t. He stinks so people avoid him.

Hi Sihouette:
I keep telling myself to believe in Karma.
I greatly appreciate your reminder.
Lurve for you.
I hope good Karma comes your way .

@philosopher Thank you and good Karma to you too.

For the right price anything is possible <evil grin>

True repentance and redemption leave a better taste in the mouth than does revenge.

Revenge is such sweet sorrow.

Poetic justice is best. For example when people that always attack everyone for no reason but; their own insecurities and; something really bad happens to them.
I don’t usually seek revenge but I enjoy when it appears Karma sends them what they deserve.

@mowens It’s ‘parting’. “Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow,
That I shall say good night till it be morrow.” Romeo And Juliet Act 2, scene 2, line 185.