How can I help stop myself becoming so angered by everything around me?

Find a good therapist to help discover the real roots of your anger. The external events that enrage you may mask some personal issues.

There are small, grassroot ways of helping with injustice, infairness, discrimination and hatred. If everyone picks up one rock or a fistful of dirt, we eventually move the mountain.

My morning mantra:

“The world is an absurd place…deal with it.”

Then choose something positive to focus on, so as to not drive myself batty all day thinking of all the stupid-a$% sh*t in the world. Really.

Turn off the TV and stop looking around…you will thank me for this advise!

Thanks for help guys. I used to see a psychologist and I’m very much aware of my personal issues that may be the root of my anger, but I still can’t help myself experience those feelings all the time. I know I should watch less news and kind of tune out a bit but I feel like that’s just disregarding and ignoring the facts of reality.

Try not to get upset at getting upset. Anger is healthy and natural. Truly it’s what we do with it that counts. Perhaps you’ll feel less angry at things if you also feel that you are helping the situation. Also try to remember there are many things that are beyond your control.

Are all these things making you angry, or are you an angry person using these things as outlets for your anger?

Probably a bit of both. I do get genuinely angry at those things but I guess my internal personal anger exacerbates it.

Please don’t shoulder the problems of the world. They are not your responsibility.
Try waking up each morning just focusing on yourself rather than what is going on around you.

@HTDC: Have you thought of doing a few things to help others that don’t take too much time or energy? Soup kitchen, meals on wheels, tutoring kids, ESL, helping out an elderly neighbor, letting someone in front of you at the supermarket express line, for exampl.

@gailcalled I haven’t given too much thought about it but I have a social anxiety problem so it takes a lot for me to even step outside the house and I don’t feel like I have enough confidence to do something like that.

You mentioned that you used to see a psychologist. Why did you stop, if you’re still being troubled by your social anxiety?

Also, sometimes anger like you’re describing can be part of depression. Do you have other symptoms of depression, like trouble enjoying things, or problems with sleeping too much or too little? You can find a checklist with more symptoms here.

@nikipedia My psychologist said I was “a little bit depressed” but no official diagnosis. I stopped seeing her because I felt the sessions weren’t really helping me. It’s been like this for nearly 3 years, I just keep thinking I’ll get myself out of this one day but months seem to roll by and nothing’s changed. I feel so silly writing all this, I know no one really cares but I just wanted to know how other people can sort of disconnect a bit or become less angered by the issues in their life and in society.

Hey, of course we care.

Not all therapists are going to be a good fit, but when you find one that works it can make a really big difference in your life. If things aren’t changing on their own, why not give it another shot?

That’s the thing my therapist was really good she was such a nice person and we got on really well I just didn’t feel like she could really help me and my situation. Maybe I should reconsider seeing a therapist again. Thanks for your help anyway nikipedia, I do appreciate it.

Perhaps try a different type of therapist. Research the varieties and see which one would give you what you’re looking for.

I have social issues as well so I volunteer online. I belong to an online group and I support other members, share my experiences and listen. Sometimes all we need is just to hear from other people who have been there. Take a gander around and see if any groups appeal to you. Also, some local volunteer opportunities have jobs that you can do from home- like stuffing envelopes or sending out mass emails to members.

@HTDC You are a socially conscious young woman and you see so much in the world that angers you. You can’t fix it all and you can’t fix much by yourself.
Get involved in one or two groups working to accomplish something that is important to you. Encourage others to do the same. Little by little, each of us can help change things for the better. If you don’t believe it, ask someone in their sixties, seventies and eighies what injustices have been overcome by the combined efforts of many people.

Ask them about Apartheid, Race riots in US urban ghettos, segregation, exploitation and obstruction of women in the work place, quota systems for minority access to higher education.

Action will allow you to make a difference working with other people.

guess what you can’t
I’m trying not to hate my life environment since I was 7
and I didn’t do it and I’ve seen a lot of therapist and they suggested me thing like painting and acting and cooking and all sorts of things which are not for me

Anger is a good thing. It exposes injustices. You’re getting especially angry. Sounds like you should go out and make a difference.

count to 1 and see if it works.