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Whats the best way to approach dudes?

Asked by bumface (101points) January 13th, 2010

im pretty outgoing and gregarious, so if i see a guy i like i normally just approach him. 9/10 i end up having a great conversation and they ask for my number. but sometimes i wonder if it comes across as slutty or desperate? is there a better way? im really not into the wall flower, subtle hair-flick crap either!

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Cupcake's avatar

Be genuine and don’t worry about it.

Cruiser's avatar

I have always welcomed the open honest approach. As far as slutty or desperate it would hinge on how you go about it. I personally would say the hi – hello is all that is needed.

Snarp's avatar

No, there’s no better way.

stump's avatar

It is always easiest to have something in common to talk about. Find out something the dude is into, and ask him a question about it. It should be something you find interesting, too, so you don’t have to fake it.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Be interested in what they say and talk about what you like to do and what matters to you.

If they ask for your number, tell them politely that if they are not really interested in calling, then please don’t ask for it.

Tell them you are no phony and you don’t like people who are.

Weed them out before you give out your number.

bumface's avatar

oh i always find the flow of conversation easy and im quite an attentive listener.
also fine with dudes that decide not to call, or who i decide i wont see again. just wasnt sure if it came across the wrong way when i approached! cheers.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

You seem to already have the best method with a 90% win ratio.

HGl3ee's avatar

With two ice cold beers. Heck I’D take you home :D

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Shallow guys with more ego and brains won’t appreciate my earlier answer. I wonder if women don’t like it either?

No lurve requested, but PM feedback solicited for my own information.

Austinlad's avatar

Dutifully.

bigboss's avatar

ladies i cant stress this enough, whenever you meet a new dude, grab their penis and rub it until some fluid comes out. Trust me we all love this.

janbb's avatar

Can’t really help you – I’ve never approached a dude. I have talked to men, though; usually the same way I would talk to a woman.

mammal's avatar

firstly don’t use the term dude it is irritating. Like chicks.

life_after_2012's avatar

Offer to buy him a drink. If he doesn’t appreciate the gesture, he’s probably a ” D.B ”

erikaerika's avatar

you should let them approach you. boys like to chase girls. everyone wants what they can’t have

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