Well,is it possible to fall in love with your second cousin,which whom you've already made out with?

No comment.

because I’m not an ass like Doc.

Anything is possible. People do things that aren’t a good idea all the time.

It’s not only common it’s perfectly acceptable… in Alabama~

You share some of the same genes too.

Think of the personal ramifications; family disapproving, pregnancy (which I’m not a medical professional, may lead to medical issues for the baby); possibly illegal and the public taboo of “incest”.

If you can handle all of these and maybe more issues, the question becomes, is he worth it?

Of course it can happen, but that doesn’t make it ‘right’. It’s your life though.

You must decide for yourself if it is “right” or not. You should research and understand that reproducing may lead to genetic deficiencies in any of your offspring.

I think it’s okay… other people may not think so… but I’m not saying it’s right or anything… but if you love the person… I’m sure unlimited things can be acheived. ^_^ Well good luck!

Second cousins do not pose enough of a genetic danger to be regulated. The social concerns are up to you to manage.

It happened for hundreds of years and was not only accepted but, in fact, expected. There’s nothing AT ALL wrong with it. Seriously. Who cares. If you’re happy, you’re happy. If you’re both happy, there’s no excuse not to see where it leads.

You’re 100% fine not only to fall in love with each other, but also to get married and have babies together. Your families might freak at first, but it’s legal in most states for first cousins to marry, let alone second!

Go ahead and enjoy yourselves.
Just make sure you really love each other – and who cares if some reli has objections: they don’t have to live YOUR life.
They have selected their happiness; it’s time for you to select yours.

I think its perfectly legal. I recall laughing when we applied for our marriage license. We had to sign a paper saying we weren’t brother and sister, first cousins, etc. So I guess second cousins are alright. If its ok with the two of you then who cares?

Well, I probably can’t change your mind, but I hope you are aware that this will come back to bite you in the a$$. By MANY people.
There will probably be complications in pregnancy. I’m no doctor, but I’ve seen it happen.
I frown upon it, but it is, after all, your life. I can not change that.
Make sure it’s legal.
Make sure this is EXACTLY what you want. Don’t rush. Make sure this you know what you’re doing.
(FYI FDR married his second cousin. But that was the 1940s. This is 2010.)

The answer is in the question – you’ve already made out.
Welcome to fluther.

ahh…i dont know but thats pretty sick, i mean do what u want no ones stopping you, just dont expect positive feedback from people

Everyone should just get over it. Screw them. Seriously, it DOES NOT MATTER. We’re basing everything off of cultural perceptions. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ here. There are judgements. Do whatever makes you two happy. Don’t let other people talk you in to being unhappy, it’s silly.

Second cousin is NOT THAT RELATED. People are just afraid of the word, but it is irrational.

Anyways, just use birth control and worry about genetics if you end up ultimately together for the long haul. You should not have to worry about that right now though. Study up on safe sex practices. I suggest scarleteen.com as a starting point. If you’re using safe sex practices, there’s really nothing that they can complain about except for their irrational subjective perception that it’s “wrong” which doesn’t matter becuse it is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS.

What you want to do behind closed doors that doesn’t endanger other people is your right and noones business. We have NO RIGHT to care.

Do whatever you want. Ignore the complainers. Enjoy yourself. Be safe.

I agree- second cousins is pretty watered down. What, my kids and my cousin’s kids are second cousins? Wouldn’t work in my extended family but each to his own.

Possible? Yes. Will you take some shit from your family because of it? Probably. Do others opinions matter that much to you? That’s up to you.

My daughter dated this man for a while. we finally had a birthday party where both sides of the family were present. we began discussing each ones family history. the more we talked to each other, the more we discovered that we all were kin to each other. when all was said and done, we all came to the conclusion that my daughter and the guy she was dating, were second cousins. this shocked all of us. we suggested to both of them that the blood line was too close to have a marriage and children. that a physically or retarded child could be the outcome of a marriage. surprisingly, both of them agreed and both went separate ways after this. there is a lot more to consider than just loving a 2nd cousin. you might need to think about having handicapped children, if a marriage occurs.

@delirium Second cousins do matter.
Take the Romanov family, for example. They were FARTHER than second cousins and their children had hemophilia!
There is indeed a right and wrong. I just don’t know what this is. Cultural factors do apply. They determine if this is socially acceptable. Again, I don’t know. But I do know they apply, and that you misspoke.
We do have a right to care. We are, after all, social creatures. Our opinions are what drive the American culture. And our culture, as I have already said, are what determine if this is right or wrong.

Weren’t FDR and Eleanor 5th cousins?

Einstein, I believe, was the one who married his second cousin.

@holden Einstein married second wife Elsa Löwenthal (née Einstein) on 2 June 1919, after having had a relationship with her since 1912. She was his first cousin maternally and his second cousin paternally. The nature of this relationship was platonic. He lived with his cousin after his divorce for many years. She greatly admired him and convinced him to marry her so that she could be known as Mrs. Einstein. They never had children and it is said that even after marriage their relationship remained platonic.

Not the same situation.

Darwin married his cousin too.
Anyways, they practice safe sex and all is dandy. They’re not asking if they can reproduce, they’re asking about love. Those are not mutually exclusive.

Also: @Maximillian Fuck social acceptance. What goes on behind closed doors is not your business. Not even your business to judge. This is EXACTLY like saying gay sex is wrong. Or interracial sex. It doesn’t matter if society thinks or ever thought that it is wrong. Society is not infallible nor does it get everything right. In that light, society needs to get the fuck out of their pants and let them make their own decisions as long as they aren’t hurting anyone else.

We have these things called constitutional rights….

Since recorded time, people have married 1st, 2nd, and so on cousins so weigh what is accceptable within your intimate circle of family and friends against you love and where you believe it will take you.

Society would have to care for the damaged child if there was one.

Enjoy yourselves, have fun, listen to all the people here who give you positive remarks and comments. The people here who give you negative remarks, especially about the medical aspects, simply don’t know what they’re talking about.

@tb1570 ??? medical aspects. Yes, we do too know. Common knowledge- certainly for first cousins.

Love knows no boundaries but there are consequences with every decision. These situations can put a lot of burnen on the family as a whole and impacts everybody involved. But when your in love, you don’t see anything but the object of your affection and nothing else really matters.

@faye They are not first cousins.

They really won’t have damaged kids, @Maximillian et al… The Romanovs had been marrying cousins and marrying cousins and marrying cousins for generations – the hemophilia gene was present in more european royal families because of it, since they all only married each other. Most families now are genetically diverse enough (aka have avoided that kind of repeated inbreeding) that a child between first cousins would be totally fine. They can also get genetic counseling to make sure.

@tb1570 I know that too.

Yes of course. I also think it is okay

@delirium – I’m with YOU Honey… there’s a lot of nonsense and over-the-tops on cousins.
People just point out the far fewer probs that occasionally have arrived, ignoring the vast majority of quite happy, normal cases.
You know… with these handicapped sits, they are always the minority regardless of nearness of relation… and the case re Einstein can only remain speculation as to what rreally happenedLOL!
Besides, you’re in 2010

@delirium I hate it too. I hate that social acceptance is here. But that doesn’t neglect the fact that social acceptance is indeed here and is indeed relevant. We should get out of people’s pants. Thing is, there is too many people who get in them anyways. Society isn’t infallible you’re right: but it is the biggest thing you will ever face. Right or wrong, society is louder than you will ever be.
And if there is a complication with a pregnancy (not saying it will happen, just saying ‘if’), then I don’t want to pay taxes for him/her if the parents decide to give him/her up because they made a mistake.
And don’t get me started on constitutional rights. That is for a different time and place.

Does your family already know you’re dating? If so, what’s to lose? It’s not like you’re going to wear t-shirts saying, “I’m screwing my second cousin.” So who will know – even among the few who would care?

And as for the genetics angle… I’m guessing from “which whom you’ve already made out with?” that the damage is already done. Generations ago.

well tht is true to say tht its wrong but didnt your parents tell you tht you cant help falling in love with someone.? but you can stop it. i fell in love wtih my second cousin and we did “it” he hurt me bad but wat i think its because he knows that its wrong that were in love with each other. but all i have to sayy is listen to your heart.