Have you ever regretted having children?
Sometimes I think about this, and children just seem so hard to raise. I can’t believe my parents, and all other parents did it. It’s so much work and so much time and money. To parents: Have you ever regretted having children?
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Questioned my sanity? Yes. Regretted having our two daughters? Never. They’re my best friends. We get along great. We party together, shop together, discuss family & give each other support when we need it. My life would be so much more empty without them.
I have regretted not having children.
There have certainly been the odd moments in the past when I wished they were anywhere but here, but I cannot imagine my life without them. My sons, now men, are the light of my life. Raising them has made me grow, think, change and feel much more than I could ever have imagined. I hope you know that, @colin and @chaingarden!
At least once a month. But I’m not foolish enough to think it is a sincere feeling… it is just a moment of frustration. My boys are the greatest thing that has ever happened to me by a long shot.
If I’ve ever felt regret for having such an amazing, beautiful, wonderful little girl then I would slap myself bloody for being such a selfish prick.
Is it the hardest thing I’ve every done? Hell Yeah!! And the easiest at the same time. They taught me that I have a capacity of love that I never knew that I have. They have taught me how to live selflessly. I do all that I can for them because I could never give them back all they have given me. They’ll have to wait until they are parents before they could possibly understand how much they have given me.
No I have never regretted having children. I do miss some of the free-time and the luxury of being selfish more often, but I would never, ever change having had them. I love my boys like I didn’t know was possible and I thank God for them every day. Having my boys prepared me to love when my other half came along, they help me learn patience every single day, and they showed me what it is like to give myself 100% to something.
Never. Even having my sons in my early 20s, I have never regretted a moment. They, and my daughter, bring so much joy into my life.
Children will drive even crazy people crazy and quite easy at times to say “I give up”! But I would never ever say I regret having my boys as the good times far out weigh the struggles and to hear them say you are the best dad….is priceless.
well, i wouldn’t call them “children.” i prefer the term ‘minions.’ and no, i haven’t.
I regret not having children with the girl I fell in love with.
We would have had awesome kids.
Never! I have learned more from being a Father, than from anything else I have been through in my entire lifetime. Most importantly, Patience.
If anyone wants to borrow my 2.5year old, you are welcome to.
I don’t regret it..but it’s still pretty fresh. I sometimes wonder if I would have been a better mother if I had waited even just a couple more years, but I know having my son truly saved me. I don’t know where I’d be without having that responsibility thrust upon me.
It is extremely stressful, draining, tiring…there were definitely days when he was younger and even now that he cries and I just can’t figure out whats wrong and it’s so frustrating. None of that makes me regret having him though. I’m really excited about bringing another gorgeous boy into the world..it makes me feel as if our family is almost complete. This feeling is hard to describe, but I know other parents know what I’m talking about.
Are you kidding?!?
It’s one of the few good things I’ve ever done.
@jonsblond helped. . .
Never. my wife and i had our children at an early age. our son came first, our daughter came second. they came in perfect order. my son was the overseer of our daughters safety throughout her schooling. we grew up with our children. this, we believe, is the main reason my wife and i are still young at heart. we have never regretted the moves we made early in our marriage. our planning paid off for us in so many ways and also with a little help from above.
Nope. I won’t say that I’m not grateful for every break I get, but I’ve never wished not to have him.
Haven’t had any yet (need a better job and more importantly, need a wife :\), but I look forward to it.
Nope… the Wife and I met and within Six months conceived our Daughter because in the first Two months we had discussed our values and knew what we wanted and met on common ground. She’s a teen now and well adjusted!
Frequently, especially when my son has had yet another melt-down and put his fist through the wall again, or his foot through a door, or when my daughter has had an “Oh, oops!” moment while driving. However, then I remember what they look like asleep, and all those regrets drift away.
Seriously, I waited a long time to have children, and almost didn’t. My husband and I ended up adopting, so right off the bat it was full of red-tape and expenses. However, the chance to see someone grow from a tiny baby just learning what muscle moves what into a fully functioning adult is a joy.
Sure, I no longer have any actual hobbies I may say I do, but that is mostly remembering what I used to do in my free time but I have a boatload of memories, and I have been involved in all sorts of activities I would never thought of doing simply because I have children who are independent human beings. After all, I was the only only first grade mom who actually knew what a hemi is (and I don’t even drive a Dodge).
Raising children is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but it is also the most rewarding.
@casheroo Children at 2½ can be a challenge to endurance.
Teenagers at 15 can be a challenge to sanity! Enjoy these years.
Definitely no regrets about it. I think should have waited a little bit longer. But I wouldn’t trade my babies for anything. I have learned so much about myself and about life in general from them and watching them grow that I would have never learned otherwise.
Never, not for one moment, In fact, I wish I had more. I did volunteer work and paid work in child care and Foster Family to take up the void. I did often wish I had a nanny to help out, but for the most part, it was as I expected.
At my wits’ end, hiding in my bedroom, so mad there’s steam coming out of my head, yes, but never regrets.
Its not a bad feeling to have if you do have regrets. Sometimes it is something that dosn’t necessarly increase the quality of your life. Although I haven’t felt that personally I can understand how someone can feel like that.
I regret NOT having them.
@Darwin lurve, lurve, lurve your answer. This morning when the seven year-old was having an out of control melt-down I thought about this question…
Never. My seven year old is my pride, my joy.
Yes, I have THOUGHT I regreted my boys, well I don’t. I never will, my two year old drives me absolutely batty at times, to the point of no return in an endless span of tears. My eleven year old has a mouth on him that can tell me everything, because he know’s it ALL! My 5 month old is teething and at 1 a.m. after dealing with them all day long, yeah teething is fun at midnight after you JUST fell asleep, he is the sweetest baby though. I have thought I should have waited in my second marriage to have my last two children, and I have also regreted who I had them with as we were not married long enough to really know eachother yet to start having babies. I have wished I would not have had my kids with the men I’ve had father them, but as far as me being their mother. NEVER, my boys are my life. My oldest son, I love all three of them the same in the same amount and capacity you can love your children but I share a special bond with him. Probably b/c he was my first, and maybe because it was just he and I for so long. I do love my kids though, and no they are trying but would I change not having them? NEVER When they look at you with, in my case, their big brown eyes…you melt, you couldn’t be more proud and full of more love. When you get frustrated, watch a sad movie about abduction of a kid or something then you’ll quickly remember how much you love your children and how thankful you are that God gave them to you.
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