How do I go about making new friends?

video games

@warribbons That doesnt help at all…..

I have no idea, but I look forward to reading these answers myself.

Local book clubs. College towns should have lots of them.

@filmfann Not that big a reader. And as said before, I’ve looked around online and I haven’t seen anything about interest groups or anything like that.

www.meetup.com is what people have recommended to me, but i have yet to try…. and i’m in the sameeeee boat.

What are your interests? What do you like to do? What classes or adult ed would interest you.

Go to a cooking class. Take a film appreciation class. Help feed the homeless. Go to Church!
Just get out into it!

@Samantha_Rae I actually just found that online. There’s nothing really in my area except a Glenn Beck fan group…. Needless to say, I didn’t look into that.

@ETpro Anime, snow sports, martial arts (inexpensive, I’m a broke college kid after all). As for other interests, I’m really kinda open to anything.

@filmfann Ok, where would I find information on such things. Your answers are great, but they provide no direction.
P.s. I lost all faith in god a long time ago.

hahaha i bet the glen beck fan group would be HILARIOUS!!!!!! oh man, i’d totally do that!

@Shield_of_Achilles Then a sketching class for anime would be fun and get you mingling with others who share that interest. Snow sports are a great opportunity to find crowds to mix in with, although they can strain the budget. Most towns have relatively inexpensive martial arts classes too. Even if they are mostly guys, getting to know a few other guys to hang with will soon get you in touche with women they know and introduce you to.

If budget constraints are a problem, research online what’s free in your area. Libraries and other civic organizations often organize social gatherings around this topic or that. Take advantage of them. They open your horizons and you may run into new true friends or even a new lover there.

Where would I find information on such things?

You just did.

@Samantha_Rae A Glen Beck Fan Group? I think @Shield_of_Achilles wants to meet people, not zombies.

@Zen_Again Its nice to consider you a friend, but I mean more physical contact with people. I’m tired of movies, video games, and crying.

@Shield_of_Achilles Google. For instance, here is a Google Search for Social Meetings Boston

Keep poking at different search terms. Each one usually suggests one or two more to try.

go to social places to spend time like at clubs, if you’re looking for anyone. Or, if you like reading go to a book club, if you want to you can go to a local gym and befriend the non-muscular guys, or if you want you can go to the movies and find people talk to or go the friends you have now. I mean, c’mon, you must have some friends. You can join them doing their guy stuff, but don’t stay home and be a hermit…just don’t get a bad reputation and making friends should be easy.

@Shield_of_Achilles The so-called real life is so over-rated. Fluther, mon.

@mollypop51797 I really don’t have anyone. I’ve been a recluse since I ran away to my grandparents house.

@Zen_Again Lol. Yeah, real life does suck. But I haven’t been living for 20 years. I think it’s about time I tried it out.

If you’re a poor college student, what about college? That’s a pretty good way to meet people.

http://www.meetup.com/ really works . I felt the same way you did lately. I went to two meetups over the weekend and had a great time. I am def gonna go to more.

@dverhey Im very shy, its hard for me to talk to people in large groups.

There are actually meetups that can help you with that. Again I am the same way. I went to a meetup for shy and social anxious people they were all very cool.

also if you find the right group it wont matter if you are shy . I went to a nerd meetup and everyone was awsome i didn’t feel uncomfortable at all. I was a bit quiet still but they got me to talk : )

@killerkadoogen Just looked in my area and there was nothing that I do. There was like D&D and a motorcycle club.

@Shield_of_Achilles & @killerkadoogen There’s something to do right there. In a college town, there has got to be fellow anime fans. Start a meetup group to discuss and share art.

yeah my area does not have anything either. I live in south jersey but there are tons of meetups in philli. so i take the train. Are you near any major citys?

Volunteering is a great way to meet new people.

I’d say that you could do better by studying those early Spidey comics closer than you did last timeLOL!! ... you know – where he paid attention to the women in his life and tried to make friends at college when so busy doing ‘stuff’ at nights til all hours ;)

@denidowi Nice try, but still a fail.

Aw I wouldn’t say that @Shield_of_Achilles
I’m sure you’d be alone thereLOL!
But even not, your response represents unsubstantiated, empty words really

@denidowi How about you get back on topic…

@Shield_of_Achilles Alternatively, you could try the Sunday paper. There are generally listings of groups that are meeting in, I think, the classified section.
Also, I know you said you weren’t much of a reader, but I saw a group of people playing an online game at the library when I went in one day. I don’t suppose a church group would interest you, but how about getting involved in a local charity? There are equestrian groups for kids, meals on wheels, really all kinds of socially oriented stuff. If you were to start with the United Way people, they would be happy to snap up a couple hours of your time each week, and you would be starting a network of people you otherwise wouldn’t necessarily meet. The United Way is community oriented with all kinds of programs, one is sure to be a good fit for you.
Or just go into your local college and see what’s listed. Sign up for a class. Do you like to paint? Hobby Lobby and Michaels are always giving classes. So does Lowes and Home Depot. You could learn how to install a patio deck or something cool.
Get out there my friend. You’re depriving some lucky girl of your company even as we speak.
But answer my question before you head on out the door!~ ;-)

@Shield_of_Achilles – It IS your Q… isn’t it??

I’ll tell you what: I COULD answer your Q for you in an extremely positive way, but i could be 99.9% that it would fall on deaf ears… but why not give you a go??

You could call up the elders – missionaries from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who ARE about your age, and get you to mix in with them!!
You never know, you might also just learn a thing or two about your Heavenly Father and His plan for you at the same time ;)
You might also just learn why you are here on earth in the first place – if you’re interested, that is??
They have all types of things and activities going on
You’ll never look back once you realize what you have now won. :)

@denidowi It didn’t fall on deaf ears. But I lost my faith a long time ago. It just wouldn’t feel right. Thanks for the suggestion though.

@Trillian Doin that now hun.

@Shield_of_Achilles – I believe it DID fall on deaf ears, precisely as predicted, as you don’t intend to do a thing about it!
Do you??

@denidowi To me god doesn’t exist. If he did I doubt he’d have let my father light me on fire. Sorry, but I’m not a church goer.

You didn’t have to tell me at all that you had little to do with religion: it was written all over your demeanor.
But, Hey… how ‘bout you give it one REAL, genuine try with those Missionaries I spoke about??
You don’t have anything at all to lose… perhaps a small amount of time, if you see having fun with them in that light.
What if I say to you that this Church and even its activity functions are just positively different from anything else that you would have experienced ??
... and you ARE looking for groups or connections of young people: the Church has some tremendous programmes and opportunities there for great fun and interaction and just, plain, a good time.
You don’t even have to go to ‘Church’ on Sunday’s if you wish. It doesn’t even have to be ‘religious’ in that sense.
Hey… I am really trying to help you here and give you just a great group to mix with. :)

@Shield_of_Achilles If you are looking to join the LDS (Mormon) church, you will find eager acceptance by following the insistent recommendations that you “socilaize” with LDS missionaries. Like any group that eager welcomes potential converts, missionaries will give you a great and very attentive reception.

We all known that missionaries will not encourage you to attend religious services or participate in other faith based activities. They just want to be your friend!

I like the idea of volunteering…I recently found myself in your position when my husband and I split and I realized that I was spending way too much time alone. Just me and the dog. I realized I was not only talking to myself but also responding in my head.
Sooo….the meetup thing was cool…I used that to find volunteer opportunities. Nursing homes are cliche, but great because truly…they have so much knowledge to impart there….and making yourself stay teaches you something. Not sure what…but giving your time to someone else somehow makes it more valuable, and worthy of befriending, therein instilling confidence-the kind that will attract other people to you because you’re good.