Would you break up with someone if they work at a sex toy store?

Do they get an employee discount? Seriously… I would date them just for the discount!

No I would not break up over something like that lol. I guess i could see why some would be uncomfortable but if they really like you that should not matter.

No, probably not.

I just think I might not have too much in common with someone whose career is clerking in a sex toy store.

They’re employed? Better than nothing.

Seriously, it wouldn’t bother me. Why should it? I don’t think it would affect integrity, so it wouldn’t get in the way.

no way, too much chance for new and interesting things to try~ plus, I’d rather weigh our relationship it’s own merits.

Is it just me in thinking that it is kind of shallow to base your opinions about someone or making significant relationship decisions based on where someone works?

I guess it’s a step up from being in a relationship with someone who is an actual sex worker. I wonder if they have to demonstrate how the toys work?

@rooeytoo They’re cashiers/sales people. Yeah, they probably know about the products..it doesn’t mean they’ve used them all. I’ve worked in retail…I didn’t try every single product on. It’s no different than any other job, in my opinion.
And I don’t even see how it could be comparable or close to a “sex worker”. They are not having sex with customers.

I think a relationship with someone who works in a sex shop might be a lot of fun. You know they’re comfortable with most anything (at least in theory), and they probably enjoy sex a lot.

I say go for it and tell us how it goes. Have fun.

No, it wouldn’t even occur to me. My son worked in an Adult shop for several months, and I used to drive him to work and pick him up after.

I wouldn’t care, as long as they’re making money

its kind of hard to put it on the resume though

selling sex toys..thats one thing i am not sure of.

@casheroo – it was an attempt at humor, you know, it created a mental image in my mind of a woman demonstrating dildo usage or someone swinging from one of those chair things (they had one in the window of an adult store in Darwin).

But I stand by my original response, I’m sure there are wonderful people working in adult stores but if that is the way you make your living I just don’t think I would have much in common with them. I could be wrong and I try not to ever say never. Now I could see myself in a relationship with someone who works in an Apple store or maybe an art store or a grocery store. I guess it comes down to the fact that I wouldn’t work in one, I have had some strange jobs and I probably will have more before I die, but working in a sex shop is not my thing.

Okay, now if there are any sex shop workers whom I have inadvertently offended, I am sorry. PM me and let’s be pen pals. That is all I can offer because I am already in a relationship with someone and I am a one at a time sort of person.

@YARNLADY Wow…I never would have guessed. :)

I would break up with them, but probably for the exact opposite reason. From what I’ve heard, working in a place like that absolutely kills your libido. Can you imagine trying to get aroused with your partner when all you can think of is the dirty 50-something overweight guy who smells like an odd mix of KY and old chicken who came in earlier that day asking about which toy has the best options while picking at the ladies thong he’s wearing under some mysteriously stained sweatpants? Sure, you may have the young couple stop in, but they’re in and out as fast as possible, whereas the other type are there for quite some time, and quite talkative.

However, if my girlfriend could hold the job and didn’t start to uncontrollably vomit at the thought of sex, I think we’d be fine.

I am so, SO very sorry about the mental image I have probably just given everyone.

@airowDee “Senior Sales Associate” – handled a variety of transactions, including but not limited to, ensuring the particular needs and preferences of individual clients were satisfied, providing recommendations to a wide customer base of unique tastes and interests, and developing working relationships with repeat customers to ensure their continued loyalty and increase revenue through personalized suggestions.

:D Don’t need to tell’em what you sold, just that you understood your customer base and met their needs with skill and alacrity~ ‘course if they ask… shrug.

I don’t think I would even start dating such a person. Different cultural circles and whatnot.

No, i heard they pay really well. Whatever brings home the money that is legit is perfectly fine with me. If it supplies a W-2 at the end of the year then its all good.

Break up?

Dude…think of the fringe benefits!

As a former cashier (not at a sex toy store, though), I can assure you that the merchandise often gets boring after the first week or so of ringing it up. People would be afraid I’d “draw conclusions” from what’s in their cart, and frankly, after a while you just don’t care. Customers are customers and you just want then to GTFO.

Having shopped at a sex toy store, I can assure you that the cashiers don’t strip naked to demonstrate vibrators – if anything, they put batteries in, put them in a plastic bag so you don’t get your germy hands all over them, and let you hold them to see how they work. If they’re knowledgable and good at customer service, they might listen to you with a detached attitude and recommend some toys, but that’s really about it. I’m a customer, like all customers, and I should GTFO. ;)

So, no, I wouldn’t dump anyone over that. They might as well be handling cans of soup, car tires, or toasters. And they don’t generally want to screw the customers, which would be over the line and perfectly fine dump causation if they did.

Excellent response @laureth, and you are quite right. I too worked in an “adult book store” which sold “novelty” items. It does get quite boring. The only entertainment for store clerks is watching people try to look casual while examining dildos.

Clerks do not solicit customers for sex and the customers are generally too embarrassed to initiate any conversation other than the words required to transact a purchase and to get the hell out.

Um, no I wouldn’t. That’s ridiculous.

@RocketSquid you are describing a cartoon character named Carl from Aqua Teen Hunger Force.

Definitely not.