Why do some men become quite hostile when they are refused?

possibly because they think they are being discreet, and when they realise they are not then they are embarrassed?
If they are not bothered about upsetting their wives/girfriends then they aren’t worth bothering about!

Because you are super hot

Nothing wounds the pride so much as a front-end collision with an unpleasant reality; finding out that you’re not irresistible to your gender(s) of choice is a lesson that ought to be learned sooner rather than later.

@Violet You are very sweet. I am quite ordinary really.:)

I think some men feel they have a right to have you. So when you “reject” them or don’t respond to their signals, they feel offended and pissed off.

@HTDC Yes, I think you are right. It causes such problems because then some of the wives/girlfriends think it is my fault and it ruins our friendship!:(

Because men think they can have anyone, they obviously think they are gods gift to women.

Because they’re @$$holes.

I’m not sure man bashing is required as not all men are bad, I have a gorgeous husband and although he may take a sneaky peek at other women, something that I’m no really bothred about I know he still loves me! I can’t say I’m totally innocent either I sometimes take sneaky peeks at other men! As long as either of us only read from the menu but don’t dine out, what’s the problem?

Just remember it takes 2 to tango, if you don’t want it to happen, have a quiet word and tell them it makes you feel uncomfortable. I’m sure if your friends are good ones they know you wouldn’t do anything to hurt them or their relationship and I’m sure if you are a good friend you won’t do anything to encourage it!

The old glass Ego of the chauvinist Pig. Watch as he devolves into childlike tantrums of anger and confusion as he faces the crushing reality that he is not made of solid awesome.

Barring that, if it’s not an arrogant man-child is there any aggression in the way you say no?

machismo bullshit.

I agree with @Violet. You are just so overwhelmingly stunning that they lose all sense of proportion, and their lives become meaningless after your refusal.

I’m glad you are not a spokesperson for any brand of cigarettes, or we would all become smokers.

Wow a lot of negative attitudes towards men here for no specific reason, plenty of men who I have rejected in the past just took it normally, of course some people are going to get offended but I think you’ll find its people in general get offended, not just men.

I would guess it’s just a emotional defence mechanism, if you are just an angry type of person this kind of emotional stimulation is bound to provoke a reaction

Maybe just one time in a mans life, his idea of the most perfect woman comes into play. they pass each other, know each other, but the timing is all wrong for a connection to this person. obligations or already dating someone is usually the case. some men are willing to just take a chance on their own relationship for a stab at the #10 that has just passed before them. for most men, its not just about sex, its just a chance at winning the gold prize they have dreamed about. men also hate the word no. this word somehow sets off a chemical imbalance in our brain and we go crazy.have you ever passed a dress shop and discovered the most beautiful dress and pair of shoes in the world for you? you want that dress so bad, but you need a platinum credit card, but only have a credit card from WalMart? same difference. most men are just this way, its in our DNA.

Maybe they hate their wives/girlfriends, want an escape, but feel their one chance was crushed when you refused. XD

They just want what they can’t have. Your “value” goes up if someone else is attached to you.

Also, is that you in your Avatar? Do you dress like that when you are hanging out with your friends? That could attract some attention!

@answerjill That’s Jessica Alba…an actress.

because they have a poor self image. that doesnt just happen to men – it happens to everybody at some point in life – wiether its mild or extreme – i believe when a person with a poor self image is refused if they become hostile its an atempt to make them selves feel superior and make you feel inferior. you shouldnt hang around people like that. its not good for the soul

@Marrakech needs the Jessica Alba avatar in order to tone things down. Imagine what would befall us were she to display her actual beauty.

The kind of man who would pull that shit in front of their wives or girlfriends are immature. What happens when you say no to a child? That’s right, they get angry and throw a titty fit.

For a fair few men, that kind of thing is a mission in life. Rejecting them in such a manner is like tearing their heart out, lighting it on fire, stomping on it a few times, and then mashing it up to a pulp as oil for some kind of life-ruining machine.

In other news, do it. It’s quite amusing to watch this happen.

Great question, great answers! I’ve wondered that myself.

Some men were never taught proper manners. This type of behavior is embarassing for me to watch. I just want to take the a$$hole outside and thrash some manners into him.

Such a man’s ego is deeply involved in making a bold sexual approach to an obviously unavailable woman that his sense of adequacy and irresistibility that he response with rage.

His approach is about demonstrating his power to attract any woman he chooses.

This kind of behaviour is a lower grade form of sexual assault. It’s about power not sex.

You know some extremely rude and scary men. I’d avoid their company all together and also let your partner in on their behaviors, no need for you to field heat from spouses and gf’s.

Because they’re sad – something not specific to men.