How soon is too soon to say those three little words?

Tell him how you feel, don’t just say some words.

Let your heart be your guide. this was the advice i was given years ago by my parents. i cannot advise you any better than the advice my parents gave me. when you feel inside that no one else could ever matter to you on earth, than this person, then its time. i felt this way about my wife and we are still having fun together after all these years. telling someone that you love them is serious business. these three words just seem to open pandoras box to a closeness you may have never felt before for another human being. when the feeling is mutual, there is no greater feeling inside your heart, that God could ever bestow on you. it gives new meaning to: “warm and fuzzy” inside. john

Never say it unless you mean it. It’s better to let the other person feel bad that you don’t love them then to tell them out of pressure or pity and then rescind your sentiment later.

Trust yourself, take that leap and risk being hurt. We can always mend, but we can’t always find love. If you have found that beautiful gift of love in a partner then hang onto it, cherish it and express it <3

thats a tough question – i don’t think an anwser exist for that question – but i think john65 has the best answer thus far

Just say it when you can.

It’s too soon to say it if you don’t believe it, otherwise speak from your heart and don’t look back.

Please fuck off?

When’s too soon? Before you mean it.

How could telling him you love him end up hurting you? Loving him may end up hurting you, for obvious reasons; but what difference would telling him make? You already feel the feelings, you’re already vulnerable.

I think you should say it. You’ll never have a good relationship if you can’t express yourself.

If you love him, then say it. I can understand your fear, but there is nothing better than hearing you are loved. He loves you. You are so very lucky, don’t let him wonder what is wrong him for you not to love him back. Tell him you love him. Embrace the moment and enjoy, love is a wonderful thing…....and you have it.

If you feel that way towards him, let him know it. You don’t have to use those exact words but you should explain to him how you really feel. The relationship is not going to move forward unless you are both open and honest with each other. If you are not yet ready to say that to him, let him know that.

It is too soon to say I love you, when you don’t.

I do love him and I told him that I am scared to say it. He said he understands, because he too has been hurt.

Saying those words will not change how you or he feels – at least it shouldn’t
words only have power if you give them
“The fear of a name only increases fear of the thing itself”
~Hermione? in Harry Potter.
yes much of my wisdom comes from Harry Potter books

How soon is too soon? Try not to say it before you know the person’s name. (I gave this advice to my son yesterday with regard to a young lady he sees out there in the world.)

Your situation is different. To you I would say don’t force it. It can be very scary, and all the more so if you are not secure with it in your own mind. The last thing you want to do is say it and then wish you could take it back. For you the answer might be paradoxical: resolve not to say it as long as you can help it. The time is right when you can’t stop yourself.

Tell the truth about how scared you feel being loved and see if after talking you feel more confident to say you love him too. Maybe you doubt yourself a bit and fear will just compound that so remove obstacles as you go.

How soon is too soon? I think before you each agree you want to be in an exclusive relationship together, otherwise what’s the point.

If you are too scared to say you are not ready yet. Probably some very real reasons too. Save it for when it will carry the meaning it deserves. You only get one chance to say it the first time…make it memorable.

You should never say “I love you” unless you actually feel so strongly that it is the only right thing to say.

I’m sure your boyfriend knows how you feel without you having to say a word. I’m also sure that he will be happy when you feel the moment is right to express those words back to him.

You’re afraid of being hurt. Will saying those words make you less likely to be hurt? No.

Not saying them is a symbol to yourself that you do not feel totally comfortable in this relationship—maybe in any relationship. What would it take for you to feel comfortable? What will reduce your fear? Those are the things you should focus on.

I think that if you really truly feel it in your heart, then you can say it, but realise that saying it entails no commitment from the other side, just say it because you want to say it, not to manipulate the relationship

lurve, jellyfriend!

If it doesn’t come out naturally, because you can’t keep it in – it’s too soon.