In your experience, what is required to make sex "great"?
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January 21st, 2010
Is it multiple orgasms? A true emotional connection? Pushing boundaries?
For me, the best sex involves love and occurs when both parties are truly comfortable with themselves and each other and truly present in the moment. When both partners are expressing their love for each other through actions intended to satisfy the deepest desires of their partner and are completely focused on each other, the result is unforgettable. What is it for you?
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@max53 I’ll go with what you said. That sounds about right.
When you are able to laugh if something funny happens, and not get embarrassed about it.
2 show horses, 1 disco ball, a gallon of baby oil, 1 box of condoms, a 60000 watt stereo, and at least 3 video camera angles.
I agree with love. There is nothing better than being with someone that knows what you like and wants to please you, imo.
Rope, a flogger and lots of strawberry lube. O yea and what @Zen_Again said.
Communication is pretty important. I like to get some feedback.
At least one intact nervous system, and the right cocktail of hormones.
ditto on Love. If it’s not there, nothing can substitute.
The kids either asleep or not at home. Fuck the silent pleasure, scream baby scream.
For me, to have the best sex ever. I have to be so attracted to him, love him completely and that most amazing connection and sexual chemistry/tension.
Nothing holding you or your partner back from their natural instincts. Never think about it, just let it unfold, it’s amazing!
@ElleBee Yeah love can take a back seat for a while. The best sex for us is when we’re both consumed with lustful passion for each other. Grrrrrrr!!!
In my experience?
A willing partner.
@ucme : YES! But it’s the deeply rooted love at the center of the couple that makes that raw, lustful passion possible. Being able to completely let go and envelop one another. It’s beautiful <3
“Being able to completely let go and envelop one another. It’s beautiful”
@ElleBee it sure is.
@jmah : Thanks ^.^ Much lurve to you!
Love, trust, good communication. I agree with @IBERnineD that it helps if you can laugh about stuff that goes wrong or whatever. And it should be fun too. And knowing that your partner wants you just as much as you want them :) And occasionally some lube, when necessary.
Har har
Yea, what she said.
Hardy Har Har
A partner or at least one of two functional hands. Or both hands depending on how diligent you want to be in pleasing yourself. Quality orgasms are a benefit also.
(A great harness that fits properly and holds the apparatus snug, also helps).
Love and to be physically attracted to each other…to be in tune with each other and to feel totally comfortable expressing and discussing both of your desires and ‘what buttons to press’.
Add all that to the equation…and the result is orgasmic :-)
Willingness, nay, hopefulness, to go where no (person) has ever gone before, experiencewise.
A lovely, sweet smelling, tasty, tidy, wet pussy with puffy pink lips and a swollen clitoris.
The FUN part of it. If both partners are just having fun and trust each other it’ll be great :]
it is coming home, at last
letting every barrier relax
a sense that anything is possible
that trust is an axiom
it is that endless connection
emotional
physical
psychological
that leaves you exhausted,
begging for more
The cast-iron park bench was nice.
A hug, and an “I love you”.
Have never been satisfied when those didn’t exist.
Outside of that, a good amount of foreplay, and sex lasting at least 20 min.
What else is more than love?
:)
I gave my (now ex) wife for our first Valentines Day a Lasagna dish.
She made me Lasagna. Now that was LOVE! And, it ws sooooo good.
What you said plus complementary imaginations and willing to experiment, trust, loose yourselves in each other and try new things to explore your outer limits… Such as trying kinky things.
chemistry!
you can discuss this until the “cows come home,” but it is either there or not! i’ve been around the world 69 times, attended several “rat killings,” been to one “goat fucking,” and it about chemistry…chemistry…chemistry…and chemistry!
you can be in love until it hurts….you can read all the books, get into all the positions, etc…...but, chemistry is there or not…
@phil196662 hey, have been in many bars and went home with girls and the sex was UNBELIEVABLE….dated girls for months…not good…chemistry is there or not…...there are lots of married people that have never had great sex…married for YEARS…and the sex is not good! Got too many friends that have told me this fact…
myth…practice makes perfect…naw..naw…naw…
chem is try! chem is try! chem is try!
Sometimes there is nothing more exciting then a consensual bondage session with a willing woman, wrists to the bedposts getting tickled with a feather and a vibrator doing its job. Chemistry or not she is likely to cum!
agreed…but, good sex, the best…is about chemistry! this is where two human beings meet at the same time…bells, explosions, etc…
I like @Zen_Again‘s answer but that alone isn’t enough to make it Truly Great. More like all ove the above. Incredible emotional connection, wild make-out, multiple Os and pushing the boundaries all in one setting. Now THAT’s great!
@BoBo1946 I think I got your point. Chemistry, right? lol!!
A jar of vaseline, a kilo of peanuts, a boogie board and a spoon.
@judochop Been a while since I tried that one.
These answers are very interesting. Might have to try some of them out.
if you a woman what is required to make sex great is, me.
Learning about the other person
Mutual physical desire that each believes in
Respect
Love
I think it’s important to feel comfortable with your partner. In a broad sense of the word. Comfortable enough that you trust them, and you can joke with them, and have fun.
Imagine the alternative. Weird, awkward sex.
@pearls no Pearls, it is about chemistry! lol
@pearls awww…just kidding with you sport!
good thrusting (not sloppy)
Yes @Violet ; proper use of the tool is essential…
A true emotional connection is essential, pushing the boundaries a bit, and being totally comfortable with each other…...as well as an ability to talk deeply.
@plethora ; Descriptively, truthfully, directly, and if comfortable- use some rope?
and @plethora and Feathers, Candles and perhaps a Crop!…
@Violet You get right to the heart of the matter…:)
And @Violet & @plethora ; i could expand more but the question would have to be NSFW!
Three key ingredients for good anything: 1) love what you are doing! 2) be an expert at your job! 3) have the right tools to do the job!
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