Am I infatuated or more?

You only live once….seriously I am in somewhat of a similar situation like yours. I’d go for her or least tell her how you feel.Though maybe at this point she may think of you as a friend.

least in the end you won’t be asking yourself what if, something I do too often.

The attraction is real, but you need to spend more time together and have a fuller relationship before you can decide if it’s infatuation or not. Distance makes relationships awkward, especially when you’re younger, but one of the perks of being 5 years older is that your mobility increases.

I told her i was fuckin nutts about her. she was cool about it but according to her brother shes not over her ex yet. She said she was not looking for romance and just likes me as a friend. I kinda go upset and left at that point and left her house. we agreed to still be friends thru facebook but i have not sat down and discussed it with her yet.

@killerkadoogen Wow tough call man…I guess maybe you could wait for her to get over her ex? then make a move or something ah girls and there exs ugh lol….

but if distant yourself from her a lot and not even be a friend she may forget about you so either you can keep pursuing her,give it a little time.

or I would move on…. OR keep in contact with her AND keep a look out for other girls seriously keep both doors open it sounds like you want her so bad you might be blinding your self to other potential girls you never know where that one might pop up! ;)

Good luck.

i met some girls. they are cool and cute but i dont think its happenin right now

Ah, I see what else can I say…..the heart wants what it wants…..

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. It may not be true love because it has not been tested by fire yet. You know you long to be with her though she does not return the favor but you have no ideal if you’d mesh. You have an ideal what she is like but until you spend many close hours you don’t know if you have habits that will vex her and visa versa, or if you can come to middle ground on them. If all you care is to make her tomorrows better than today, go hungry that she may be fed, go cold that she might be warm and do that without expecting anything in return, you just might be in love with her.

My only real concern is whether you love her, or love the idea you have of her in your head. I only base this on the fact that you dont see her much or have alot of contact so you could be filling in the blanks so to speak.

I’d stick with infatutation for now until you physically connect with her. Love is a powerful word that means many things to many people. Some people “love” chocolate cake…you may think you love her but again I would save the “love” word until you can call her your own and then see how you feel about her.

It really doesn’t matter what you call it. You want to be with her, and she wants a friend. You can continue to push it. You can try to be cool and see if she comes around. You can bag it altogether.

If you push it, it may push her away (typically girls like to call such guys a stalker). If you are cool, it might drive you nuts inside. If you bag it, well, you might not be able to.

There is another option, but it’s really, really tough. What it is is that you find a way to distance yourself from your feelings. You still feel them, but you aren’t so attached to them. This allows you to not have to do anything about them. Then you just do what you think is important. This kind of attitude can often appear as confidence and calmness. You never know. It might attract her. But even if it doesn’t, you feel calm about your life and are able to enjoy other people, without obsessing about her.

It’s a terribly difficult trick. I wouldn’t expect to be able to do it now, but still, it’s worth having it out there as an idea of an option, because some day you may be able to do it.

You are strongly attracted to her.

You have been every time you have been around her.

Why don’t you take the next step and actually ask her out on a date? That way, if you date her, you will know the truth of your feelings. You should move to the city where she lives if you want to pursue a relationship with her.

Sorry to hear that mate… But anyway, WAIT for her to get over her ex. If she’s not able to or she’s taking too long, I’d suggest you move on… There are plenty of other fish in the pond… Although if you really like her, you’d wait and then ask her out. Its a sticky situation really. It all just depends on how much you like this girl. If you’re really infatuated with her and like her your heart will never let you give up… Theres only one life to live. Hope you find your love. Cheers!