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What to do when...you happen to be surrounded by pessimistic people?

Asked by Spinel (3220points) January 22nd, 2010

Ok…so I know it’s helpful to keep up on current events and to plan for possible outcomes of current happenings that will affect me, but…

People I know have gone to the next (and the next) level. If I hear about FEMA, RFID, the Apocalypse, or the “fact” that Obama is really an alien out to destroy us all one more time, I will throw my ipod at the wall.

I’ve done my research…and I have concluded these “out there” theories lack concrete evidence. Of course, the people around me still hold true and blue…and it’s affecting me in negative ways. I find myself pondering on a dark future more than ever, among other things.

Finally, these are people I have no choice but to be around (like students, professors, fellow co-workers etc). So, does anyone have any advice on how to survive in a conspiracy theorist’s haven? I would love to finish my term with my nerves and sanity intact, but that’s looking a bit doubtful at this point.

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CyanoticWasp's avatar

Go with the flow. When you hear some of these outlandishly wacky “theories” ... just go them one better. Obama is not only an alien, but he’s a space alien. The ears are a giveaway, you know. And Michelle is his controller. You don’t think she’s from this planet, do you? ‘Course not.

efritz's avatar

don’t throw your ipod against the wall – put the headphones in instead.

Siren's avatar

I admit I have been frequenting the pessimists club myself in the last few years, although I occasionally sneak next door into the optimists’ club when I want a change.

I say watch a few good comedies or do things which give you pleasure (not pain), avoid the news or watch it a little less and tune out when the pessimists come knocking on your door. Also, screen your calls when you’re not in the mood to hear about doom from the doomsayers or change the subject as often as you can. Maybe they’ll get the hint and talk about something more uplifting once in a while to satiate your bright mood.

Ivan's avatar

You’re screwed, you won’t ever find any new people.

Spinel's avatar

@Ivan I know it’s not within reality to find a new crowd…I’m asking how to cope with the current one.

lilikoi's avatar

Ignore them. Or maybe you can start a new conspiracy theory and see how many people subscribe.

Ivan's avatar

@Spinel

Twas a joke, dude.

Ron_C's avatar

I try to cheer them up. It pisses them off so much that they forget their troubles for awhile. I figure that it is the least that I can do.

DrMC's avatar

@Spinel you should realize by now that resistance is futile.

Surrender now and it will go easier for you.

We have been watching your case for some time – and we feel you are almost ready to be taken aboard one of our ships where all will be made clear to you.

Enjoy your last uncontrolled days on earth. You will be assimilated.

kevbo's avatar

Speaking as a conspiracy nut job, I can offer you some perspective on what may be your colleagues’ states of mind. Playing the conspiracy game is like falling into a near bottomless pit of information that is both frightening and irresistable. The experience is like learning that everything you’ve been taught has pieces missing, and it can become a scramble to figure out what those pieces are without much in the way of guidance. So people are sort of stumbling in the dark, and they are petrified because the information is new to them (e.g. the FEMA stuff has been around since the 80s).

It’s also as close to a religious conversion as you’ll witness, because these people literally can’t not see the things they see. Without a real change for the better in the world, there is really no way for them to jump back over the fence.

There are also a lot of false bottoms with this stuff. People think they’ve hit on some definitive information, and digging deeper reveals that it is misinformation, or it’s one part truth and one part fabrication or whatever. It’s really difficult to know what the real deal is with a lot of this stuff.

So, my point is, whether they are right or wrong, you are dealing with people who are flailing about like middle schoolers who think they know something. They might say plausible things or have a partially correct idea of what the deal is, but probably they have more bad information or are placing too much importance on marginal information.

Hopefully, that creates for you a bit of a window of compassion for what they are experiencing.

So after spending a ton of energy on this myself, the interesting thing I’ve learned is that it kind of brings you full circle to a no less equal truth—that we individually and together have a good bit of power and a direct connection to a “higher power.” So we can make a choice to pay attention to that instead of being paralyzed by fear. In my case, it’s been a difficult leap to make and there are a ton of impediments since “business as usual” seems full of too many pitfalls, but I know that personal power is available to me.

Assuming there’s all this bad shit happening and caused by bad people, there’s also a window for compassion for these people. In all liklihood they’re addicted to power or are being controlled by others through their addiction or delusion. It’s a shame, really.

Another thing to keep in mind is that times have been worse. Imagine the chaos of the civil rights era or Vietnam where young men were drafted and sent to die. That was a fearful time as well with lots of anti-government sentiment and suspicion. Imagine negotiating that time in history.

For me being enthusiastic about doing this whole life game is difficult for a number of reasons (some medical and chronic). I have a mostly negative to neutral disposition. But, when I think about it, maybe part of what it’s all about is mastering that choice between fear and compassion. So how tough can you be? What’s your capacity for keeping your heart and mind healthy in the midst of the “illness” of fear and futility.

Well, hopefully that helped a little. Good luck.

LostInParadise's avatar

Make up your own conspiracy theory. Explain that the Chinese are responsible for all the rumors in order to weaken the U.S. in preparation for their invasion. For more details, rent the Manchurian Candidate, the original version.

augustlan's avatar

If these are people that care about their relationships with you, you could tell them that you can’t handle thinking about these things… that even the news freaks you out (true or not, doesn’t really matter). Ask them to please refrain from talking to you about scary, negative things, as you’re not at a stage in your life to deal with all of this ‘information’ just yet. This way, you’re giving them an out, without discounting their theories. They’ll feel that they are sparing you the mental anguish they are going through, and when you’re “ready” you’ll be better equipped to handle it. And by all means, as soon as you are able, find more optimistic (or at least realistic) people to associate with!

ucme's avatar

Cancel your facebook account~

Austinlad's avatar

I’ve known and had to work with various people who believed everything they read or were told, and the only way I could handle it was to try not getting sucked into conversations about that stuff. Not easy, I grant you, because conspiracy theorists thrive on spreading bad news – THAT’S the biggest conspiracy of all. Try laughing and changing the subject, or just tell ‘em you’re not interested. Believe what you want, disregard the rest.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

@kevbo, I’m not certain how much of your answer I understood, but I appreciate the hell out of the attempt to explain some of that mindset. Whether or not I “get” all of what you’re saying, there certainly are nuggets, if not an entire vein, of truth in that. Thanks for a GA.

robaccus's avatar

Tickle them.

DrMC's avatar

Some times flatulence is useful

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