Would it be worth the time and money to fight for visitation with my son?

He is your son you have every right to see him.
I couldn’t imagine not being able to see my son for that long.
I would fight.

I am in total agreement with @The_Clouded_Mind I think you have every right to see your son and should see a lawyer to work out visitation rights in writing. This is your time as well as the mothers to watch him grow up and be there for him.
Is there any reason why the mother might be keeping your son away? Are you having substance abuse problems or anything going on that might be an issue? You don’t have to answer, but if so get this cleared up and work on yourself then approach the visitation rights.

I believe I’ve done nothing wrong.. It’s just felt like a knockout blow and i’m still abit dizzy.. But I am booked in with the Citizens Advice next week, just been spooked by failed stories from friends who have gone thru the same situation.. @The_Clouded_Mind I shall be fighting, have been fighting but feel like I’m being grounded into the ground, well emotionally…

Hang in there @j3fr0.The battle will be well worth it. Keep us posted too.

@j3fr0
just keep hanging in there like dog says.
It will be worth it in the end if you haven’t done anything wrong so there is no reason you can’t see your son I really hope everything works out.
Good luck.

Going to court is an option, but you may end up having to make regular payments of child support.

HELL YES you do- my kids live in australia and I have successfully sued to see my kids-and I am in the us!! make everything you can of centrelink, etc- If you haven’t done anything wrong the court will definitely assign parenting time with you! get on to centrelink! do it quick

@filmfann childsupport laws are way different there, for example, if he has no income., he doesn’t have to pay, way different and the family payments and single parent pensions are way different too

@trailsillustrated Good to know. Thanks!

@filmfann Money is not really a problem, I’d happily pay my way thru the system like that like I did anyway.. Just huge court fee’s that are slightly worring me.. @trailsillustrated our system is messed up, well thats the opinion of most, myself included…

Cheers for the support peeps too… =D

@j3fr0 go to centrelink your first stop. they will stop all this crap and make sure you can see your kid. First thing is to file with centre for familes and children.

Please go ahead and do the court battle. Your son needs you. It doesn’t matter it she has another man now, he is your son.

@j3fr0 remember, the onus is on her at this point. she will have to provide reasons why she has kept your son from you. if you are doing everything you should from your end, it will be on her

@j3fr0 – I have just had my divorce finalized as of yesterday. I will live 5 min. away from my kids. I can’t imagine not seeing them for that long. I have been having nightmares about them not being in my house every day let a lone the fact I only get them every other weekend and to see them one night a week.(I know this is best at their young age for consistency for school. Their mom has help and no real job)

You fight, fight and then fight some more. She has no right to deny you access. They courts should be on your side.

And come back here anytime for support.

Sorry, I don’t know the laws in England. In the U.S., a father who is not abusive and is attempting to be involved with the child would definitely be favored by the court—the courts consider that the child is best served by having a relationship with both parents.

But, I’ve heard some strange things about English law… clearly you need a solicitor to get authoritative answers. But from a personal perspective I would spend every dime I have rather than be cut off from my boy.

Yes, it’s worth the time and money. People have done far more in order to see their kids.

In the UK hundreds of fathers are fighting to see their children but That should not deter you. He is your son and you have every right to see him, His mother is doing your son no favours in keeping you from him without due cause. When he gets older he will resent her for having done this, and she will regret it. She will have to give a reason in court, every case is different, the way I see it, you have no choice but to fight this. There is a movement here called ‘Fathers for Justice’. A few years back a father actually got onto the roof of the High Court to bring attention to Fathers who are in your sad situation. I advise you to get a solicitor and I wish you all the best.

my husbands ex-wife took the 2 kids and ran off with another man. That was 37 years ago. He did not fight for them, and I believe he hurts deep down for that choice.
Do what you must do, try.

Well cheers again folks.. Took too many months but we sorted summat out.. I ended up saving up for a decent solicitor who happened to also help me out financially as in part legal aid.. Stood our ground, told ‘em whats what and ‘shizzam’, I can see my son again.. Surely he got hurt just as much as me, still don’t get why she did it, some people eh?...

BRAVO j3! I am so happy it worked out!