What do girls like about guys? (girls opinion, guys ok, too)

I know it’s hard to hear “just be yourself” when you don’t really know who yourself is, but try to be as natural as possible.

Ask her questions about herself and remember things she tells you.

Find out what she’s interested in and if you are too, talk about that.

Intelligence, humor and kindness will get a girl every time..

Guys who actually listen look her in the eyes when she speaks, ask her about herself and what she enjoys, and of course be yourself you don’t want her to fall for a guy that doesn’t really exist.

What should you not do: try to start a relationship via Faceyspacey or whatever. “She” is more likely to be a 40-year-old creeper instead of a teenage chick.

dude @ fred931: shes in my school, sorry for the misconception…

Wow everything I pretty much said @janbb beat me to it. DAMN!!

@ipodtouchh4x0r Sorry for calling your date a creeper.

@Fred931 : itss all good man, any advice about what a girl likes, too?

Most like talking, food, green tea, walking around, & the backseats of cars. Couldn’t resist.

I like it when a guy doesn’t try to hard. In the sense of they are themselves and will be honest if something bothers them, or even honest when they love something I do. It makes me feel special and let’s me know how I feel. When a guy is himself and not afraid to be honest, because when you are honest, you have nothing to feel bad about. Corny I know, but hey that is how I am!

Young man, I’ve been wondering about the answers to this question for nearly a half-century. (There were a few years when I flat didn’t care.)

I’m not much closer to really understanding the answer than I was when I started.

Smile a lot. Try to listen carefully—even to the boring stuff (which seems to be more interesting to women; the stuff that excites you will bore them, as a rule). Remember that everything you say can and will be used against you. Speak softly. (No, there’s nothing here about a “big stick”—no smutty metaphors here!) When you say you’re going to call her, then call her. That’s important.

Keep smiling.

This is one of the greatest questions ever, on Fluther or anywhere else. I wish there were an answer.

PS: The answers you’re getting from women might (might) be occasionally helpful, but I’ll tell you right now that those are like EPA ratings for new cars: Your mileage will vary. Good luck.

@Fred931 Some of us like front seats, thank you very much! ;)

It’s going to be hard to build a consensus, because women aren’t one big, homogeneous group. But, I’ll tell you what I hate and hope that helps: I absolutely 100% cannot tolerate it when a guy pretends to be someone else because he wants to impress me… it usually works, but months down the road when the relationship is getting serious, I tend to find out that he isn’t at all who I thought he was… and that’s just annoying. It’s a waste of my time and his. So don’t worry too much about what girls like… just be yourself.

Answer from a guy on what girls like:

Short term (when you pick them up/within the first hours):
Danger/challenge/unpredictability
Cockyness/confidence
Humor
Availibility
Percieved social status
Looks/body

Long term (rest of the relationship):
Real social status
Humor
Honesty
Responsibility
Maturity

As you can see it’s pretty much the same as for boys. First reaction is physical, you follow your penis. Then when the relationship starts to evolve and you actually have to spend time with the person the priorities change.

This was the first question asked by Oog the caveman when he first discovered speech and no one has ever been able to figure it out so it works across the board. Why do guys think its funny to see another guy take a shot in the groin. The best I’ve been able to come with is be honest, be yourself and pay honest attention to her. And enjoy the surprises when they occur.

We don’t like when guys…
Try to show off in front of their friends
Try to act like they’re cooler/smarter/better than they are. Don’t TRY to impress us
Ignore us in groups
Flirt with other girls
Talk extensively about their past conquests/other girls they’ve been with
Go for days without initiating contact
Give one word answers (via FB, text, etc)

We do like when guys…
Randomly call/text/message (in your case) to say hi, good morning, etc.
Are attentive to us, especially in large groups of their friends
Aren’t pushy, grabby, too outwardly sexual
Are sweet and go out of their way to do nice things—not necessarily romantic
Open doors, let us walk first, and various other chivalrous things
Occasionally buy a random small present (single flower, etc..)